Family - April 2007

PLEASE HELP ME! im 16 years old and my life my world my only brother was killed in a car crash the day before yesterday.he was at a place where they were racing and the cops were chasing him and im not quite sure of all the details(i dont want to know) but my mom and family know and he crashed into a pole.when my aunt went to the police station the cop downstairs told her that they werent there while the crash happened and the cop upstairs told her that they were there while it happened and knew all the details.but they didnt know she was going to speak to both of them.and there were skidmarks in the road i dont know what that means but my aunt knows something is not right.they will not talk to my mother or family about anything and they are hiding something.if you know anyone to help please reply like court tv cold case files anything.i cant go down without a fight.my only brother i just need help i just want my mom to have answers.my family fell apart.i dont know what to do.just help

2007-04-10 01:01:23 · 12 answers · asked by .:...:. 3

She seems to always find a reason to come over and then she stays for hours and hours. I have to cook for her all the time and listen to her go on for hours. I just feel like I need some time away from her but I don't know how to go about getting it. Any ideas????

2007-04-10 00:48:12 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-04-09 23:41:24 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mom says he knows about me. I found him on myspace and added him. 3 days later I said "hey, do I look familiar? thanks for the add btw". He then deleted me from his friends. 12 hours later he responded to the msg and said "no you don't look familiar. do i know you?"

What is he thinking? Maybe he doesn't see our resemblance?
(me on left)
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v424/mango122784/bitches.jpg
(him)
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v424/mango122784/PWB.jpg

2007-04-09 19:48:55 · 7 answers · asked by PlasticTrees 2

Every jumped all over the uncle who had sex with the 14 year old niece, even though she has feelings for him. Yes, he should have known better but there are 14 yr olds all over Y-answers having sex all over the place. Both the uncle and the niece are to blame, why should he go to jail and be a sex offender the rest of his life? Isn't that a bit old fashioned in this day and age? She did not say he forced her at all.

2007-04-09 19:08:59 · 31 answers · asked by Chloe 6

I have been telling my kids.. "I love my family. I miss them. but the cross our family bounderies"... What else to say.. I dont' want them to choose or get in the middle of the mess.. I think that is simple and explantory enough for them. They are 7 and under. I have decided that I am done with my family. I am done trying to make these people resepect my bounderies. They are toxic. They give out guilt trips like 'your kids will do this to you' and 'don't I get one more chance'. They truth is. NO, no more chances. They get no more of my energy, they have taken enough from me and my kids already. And my kids won't do the same to me because I treat my kids with respect and I am protecting my kids from their mental and emotional abuse. So my question is.... what do I tell my kids so that they see that I did this because it was the right thing to do? And how do I believe in myself when they place guilt on me and try to control me to get me and my kids back?

2007-04-09 18:55:01 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I told him I did not think it was appropriate for him to be in my 19 yr old daughters bedroom. He said he just opened the door and stepped in to offer her a ride to work since she does not have a car and we live in a rural area. It was early in the AM and he was leaving to go to his own home after staying at my house overnite.
My daughter is a drama queen and extremely immature for her age. I didnt dream this up, a counselor told me she was manipulative and immature and to watch out for myself and others.
Anyways, I asked him not to go into her room anymore and he became angry and told me he would never come to my house again.
My daughter says he was standing in front of her staring at her, but she has told me this at least a dozen times about some boys and also accused her high school math teacher of fondling another student. He was asked to retire and my daughter was the only witness.
Its a very touchy subject. Did I do the right thing asking him to stay out of her room?

2007-04-09 18:37:27 · 22 answers · asked by happydawg 6

I have a 17 year old brother and he's a real pain in the ***. He's hits me, spits on me, kicks me and yells at me. If he doesn't get his way, he throws a fit like a 5 year old. whenever I go anywhere, as far as checking the mail, I have to lock up my clothes, purse, well, stuff like that b/c he will steal my money, and sometimes, tear up my clothes. I tried fighting back but I just turned 18 so that's not going to do me alot of good. All he's gotta do is go to someone and show them a mark and I can get into trouble. Believe me, I would move out but right now I don't have that option. He's really selfish, I had a cousin that was homeless and depressed and would stay w/ us but my brother made it clear he didn't want him there and he would leave. He eventually committed suicide and my brother found him, so b/c of that, he has alot of sympathy. I don't have any friends b/c they moved so I have NO ONE, I mean no 1 to talk to about this, can someone please help. any advice is appreciated

2007-04-09 18:15:01 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

i left my daughter with my mother i was deeling with a lot of stress cause my boyfriend didnt care that i was pregnet he wanted me to get abortion so i did it i was scares what he was going to do with me i have prof that he said mean thing to me on the phone and i left him cause he did crack i didnt want to be invold in that i was crying cause he would come and see me or any thing it wasnt fare i was doing every thing on my one i had no choice i had to get the abortion my family would not help me out with any thing they wernt supporting me my mom was helping but she was harrasing me aslo and thiers more to the story my daughter was in a car asadent a month later and i get a call i dont show upu to the hostptal untill 11:00 and i got back home 2:00 it makes me mad that i was told if i didnt get up to the hospital that i was going to have my kid taken a way and so my sister stays with my daughter calling me dume and everthing it was hurting me so i let her take her home i got her taken

2007-04-09 18:14:03 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

My 21 yr old son and I have been together thru thick and thin. His dad kidnapped him off the street when he was 11 and he rode a bicycle 24 miles home with a bad tire in 80 degree weather to get to me and his grandpa. His dad was trying to find him and he heard him coming and hid in a corn field with his bicycle and watched him go by. His dad is a drunk and pathological liar and he has not spoken to him in over 8 years.
My son is the only witness I had to a big lie his dad put his little sister up to in court.
My son and I are so totally bonded and he is welcome home anytime, but I dont want him to feel like he is being thrown out of my house, but I would like to take over his bedroom because it is down stairs and I wont have to carry laundry upstairs any more. The upstairs carpet is pink. His carpet is beige and his room is masculin, but I would like it for me
I am afraid he will bomb out on his first try at living away from home because he has no money and no furniture

2007-04-09 18:11:10 · 6 answers · asked by happydawg 6

I always had a rule in my house that when you get old enough to be banging your babe, its time to find your own home and do the nasty under your own roof, so I guess he heard me.
He met his very 1st girlfriend about 4 months ago, and now he is moving in with her. He is a changed kid. He is so totally polite. The problems are 1.) He is leaving me with a 90 lb chocolate lab who does not obey me and worships the ground he walks on 2.) He is leaving me with a monster truck in my garage and no room for the riding lawn mower I plan to buy tommorrow because he will not be around to mow my enormous yard and 3.) He is leaving me with his crazy 19 yr old sister who he literally had to pull off me to keep her from pulling my hair out.
I plan to keep a club around to whomp her *** if she pulls anything, but now what do I do with the dog and the rest of the stuff?

2007-04-09 17:50:47 · 1 answers · asked by happydawg 6

I told my mom that I have set bounderies so many times and she can't see it. Now she can't be a big part of my or my kids ife anymore because I am done with that. I am moving on to healthy things in my life. I told her that SHE can't see my bounderies. SHE can't accept my limits. SHE can't respect the way I parent my kids. SHE wants to change my kids. SHE knows what my kids need. SHE made this situation. She called me back to say 'I dont' get to blame her'.... I don't get it. If she could see or respect my bounderies.. we wouldn't be here.. how is it my fault? I think my saying that SHE made this situation is accurate.

2007-04-09 17:20:10 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am a newmom and we are baptizing our little girl in May. I am not sure of the process. Who do I invite? Just immediate family members (both grandparents, the godparents, uncle and aunts)? Is everyone suppose to attend church with us before the baptism? Am I obligated to host a small gathering afterwards or is going to a resturant good enough?

2007-04-09 16:15:15 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok my parents are divorced and my dad is remarried and has annother kid. well me and my sis go over there every other weekend and we went for a week for spring break and so we came home yesterday. my dad and them brought me my stuff i forgot and we asked if my lil bro (10months) could stay while they were in town and he couldnt. he has once before but now he cant and he always goes toother peeps house. and i know my parents dont really like each but me and my sis cry cause we hardly get to see them and our lil bro dont get to see us that much. could you tell me sonmthing to cheer us up or bring our parents closer or sometihm were 12 and 8 and reaally sad plz help us!!!!!!!!!!

2007-04-09 15:03:10 · 6 answers · asked by heyyall 2

My relationship with my mom sucks. She dropped me off at grandma's house when I was 4, & never looked back. Granny was the greatest. I was loved, cared for and spoiled rotten. However, when my sister was born, I was 8 & couldn't believe that mom snuck back to California and left my 2 week old baby sister with us, while she resumed her responsibility-free life. Later on, I went to college & later joined the Army. Mom decided that at 19, I needed some harsh, motherly advice. I just wasn't receptive to her after all these years. Since then, we have exchanged hurtful words with each other. She was diagnosed with Cancer in 2004, so I decided to bury the hatchet. For the 1st time, it was cool to spend time with her, but in time, she got mad at me, this time for choosing my 5 year old daughter over her. I've had it with the emotional rollercoaster. I purposely shower my kid with the love and stable home she deserves. Why is my mom tripping after all these years of having her way?

2007-04-09 14:46:00 · 17 answers · asked by boppycat02 2

If 'yes' why should they; if 'no' why shouldn't they.

2007-04-09 13:27:38 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

If no...why? I always did. I don't understand why some don't...

2007-04-09 11:28:29 · 7 answers · asked by kayboff 7

A few months ago I wrote a letter to my dad. I told him how much I hated him for splitting up our family, and for just being a low-lifed dirtbag. My parents split years and years ago. I live with my mom, but 2 years ago we moved. I hate it down here. I had to leave all of my friends and I've made friends here... but they just aren't the same. I want to move in with my dad because that's where I want to be. But how can I say sorry... he was pretty hurt by my letter, and I have refused to talk to him since. What can I do for him to forgive me?

2007-04-09 11:16:20 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boyfriend occasionally sleeps with his 12 year old daughter when she stays with him. He and the girl's mother recently got divorced and she is having a hard time with it.
I have no reason to think there is anything inappropriate going on but I don't know if this is ok or not.

2007-04-09 10:14:40 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous

We live across the street from my husbands father and step mother. I HATE it here. The house is tiny and there is NO yard. Now the neighbor next door is doing construction on their house (just sold to an investor) and my kids can't play outside in our driveway because they are making it too hazardous. I don't want to stay here any longer. The landlord makes us pick up her mail for her and calls with less than 30 minutes notice that she will be by to pick it up. Now she is out of town for 6 weeks and TOLD me I was to deposit her rent check in her bank on the first of May. I am due to have my baby that week and may be in the hospital. How do I make my husband of 9 years see that I can't take this anymore and I want away from my inlaws (who are VERY controlling)? Any ideas? Thanks I am just about to give up.

2007-04-09 09:23:55 · 3 answers · asked by Mrs. Always Right 5

My Dad Doesnt Trust Me.
I say im going out. "Where? Why? With who?"
Its been going on for ages. I just cant stand it any more.
How can i get him to trust me?

2007-04-09 09:09:10 · 5 answers · asked by Hannah x 2

My past wife passed away 10 years ago. I say why should she not be able to display pictures of her mother and father. Who is right?

2007-04-09 08:39:59 · 20 answers · asked by burned 1

my fathers father died in 1949,but i have been unable to trace is name .i know is surname .i know nothing else my father is also dead never ever mentioned him.one of my unsolved mysteries of life.

2007-04-09 08:20:10 · 12 answers · asked by peter m 1

Since this is an anonymous forum, I hope you won't mind answering: What is your family's income? How many family members depend on this income?

2007-04-09 07:58:03 · 16 answers · asked by ♥Lucky♥ 6

My Brother Has Bipolar Depression And My Mom Always Spends Time With Him And I Understand That He IS the Middle Child I Am The Youngest My Parents R Divorced And I Have Seen So Many Things Like My Dad Getting Real Mad At My Sister And loosing Control And Now That My Brother Is Depressed My Mom Barley Pays Attention To Me I Know It Sounds Like I Am High Mattinence But My Mom Barley Says I Love You Anymore And It Is Hurting Me And So I Have Told My Mom Many Times I am Sad About This Kinda Atuff But She Just Tells Me I Am A Little Too Needy I Am Scared I Am Hurting Her When I Say This But She Is Hurting ME More Than She Thinks How Do I Tell Her I Want Her To Pay Attention To Me In A Way That Wont Make Her Think I Am Not To High Mattinence And That wont Make Me Feel Bad In The End?

2007-04-09 06:56:01 · 12 answers · asked by Girlie babe>3 1

My best friend & my husband worked together and were good friends. Then my husband left that office and they continued to talk daily sometimes mornings & evenings but I didnt know a thing about it nor did my friends husband. My friends husband saw her cell phone bill and thought something was going on and questioned her about it. After questioning both and going through all his stuff I realised that nothing was going on. They were just talking. Now I'm finding it so difficult to be friends with her. Before this she was my best friend and I truly enjoyed her friendship. The reason she gives for not telling me about her daily chats with my husband is that I am "overly possessive" of my husband.
We have many common friends and were very close before all this happened. Now if I stop talking to her it will be noticed. And although I hate what she did, it's very hard for me to let go of her friendship.

2007-04-09 06:40:16 · 12 answers · asked by Ginger 1

what do u do if u hate smoke but ur parents smoke around u and wen u tell em to stop they don't i'm affraid i have become a second hand smoker and my mom never listens to me she says watever she wants she get watever she wants to do she does so wat should i do ?????????? can amyone please help me

2007-04-09 06:38:14 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

My entire family is addicted to perscription pain medications. My father, my two aunts, my cousin, my grandfather. They take large amounts of Soma (up to 6 at a time), Xanax (2-5 at a time), and Hydrocodone (3-7). They are all drug addicts, each one takes a different amount of the above within each range, but those are the three. Recently my father and grandfather have run out they are having hallucinations, terrible ones, with seizures as well. They call me and tell me people are after them while I am at school, when I get there there is no one. They believe they're captains of navy ships. I no longer live with them so I can no longer protect them. My father recently got in trouble with the law and he has a court date soon (next month) I bailed him out, so I don't know how involved I can get with the police.

The abuse has been going on for years.

What should I do? I am a college student and have never taken any prescription medication, nor do I do drugs, and am an A+ student.

2007-04-09 06:37:39 · 4 answers · asked by Block n Moo 2

my husband lost his mother at age 3..last night we were talking about us having children and he began remembering his mother...he began crying very loud and moaning for his mother.

I felt so sad for him i told him its ok to cry it out..but he told me that he never cried for her until now (he is 27 yrs now) and that all his family told him since he was growing up not to cry about it.. to be strong...

my question is am i right to tell him he can cry about it or is his family right to tell him dont cry?

2007-04-09 04:52:44 · 36 answers · asked by girly 4

thoughts on the grandparents? What would you do if a family member molested your child? Second chances?

2007-04-09 03:48:39 · 8 answers · asked by Linnygirl 5