ok my parents are divorced and my dad is remarried and has annother kid. well me and my sis go over there every other weekend and we went for a week for spring break and so we came home yesterday. my dad and them brought me my stuff i forgot and we asked if my lil bro (10months) could stay while they were in town and he couldnt. he has once before but now he cant and he always goes toother peeps house. and i know my parents dont really like each but me and my sis cry cause we hardly get to see them and our lil bro dont get to see us that much. could you tell me sonmthing to cheer us up or bring our parents closer or sometihm were 12 and 8 and reaally sad plz help us!!!!!!!!!!
2007-04-09 15:03:10 · 6 answers · asked by heyyall 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am so sorry. I was in a very similar situation when I was your age. It is really hard dealing with two different families, especially when they don't get along very well. Nothing you will do is going to change your parents...they got divorced for a reason. However, I think you two should sit down with each half of your family and talk about how much the divorce affects you. You also need to express how much you miss your brother and that you would like to visit with him more. Hopefully, your parents will be thrilled that you care so much for your brother and that you value a relationship with him. Maybe you can work something out so that you can have a special day with him once every other week or so. If you have trouble expressing this to your parents, you can always try and talk to a school counselor or another trusted adult first. Divorce is hard on kids, believe me I know. Just keep the communication open with both sides and it should ease some of the potential problems. Good luck to all of you!
2007-04-09 15:15:52 · answer #1 · answered by Mia1385 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a sad situation. There is not much that I can do being online and all.
Parents who divorce have no idea how bad it can be for the kids. I am sorry. Now, you do realize that the divorce was NOT YOUR FAULT, and that the adults were making decisions without understanding how you would feel.
Your dad and new wife have every right to choose who gets to see the 10 month old. they may not want your mother to be around the baby. You can do nothing about that.
Enjoy the time you are there with the baby, and allow the adults to make decisions that are best for them. Children cannot make grown-up decisions. Sorry.
There is NO WAY that you can do anything to make your mother and father like each other. Your bio parents will not ever like each other more. . .I don't suppose. Sorry.
2007-04-09 15:11:06 · answer #2 · answered by thisbrit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi!
I'm a father of an 8 years old boy and divorced, I know how hard it can be on any child when they go through family breakdowns. unfurtunately there are circomstances that are beyond anyone's control and you have to remember that it NEVER IS THE CHILDREN'S FOULT, there is a point where two adults can not stay toghether, even if they like each other .
( sort of like when you want to be left alone and not be bothered by your little sis, with adult some times that feeling is longer and some times permanent). You have to remember that both your parent love you very much even if they're too busy to tell you that.
try to stay positive and make the best of what you gat toghether, try to record your time toghether (taking pictures movies, paintings)and in few years you will see that you will gwt closer and become happier. also I strongly suggest to relay your wishes to your parents or school counciler or if you can other family members ( aunt, grand parents).
you can also ask to see if it is practical to go to your dad every weekend instead of every other weekend.
But you have to keep in mind that the arrangement you presently have may not be changed for the moment, but as long as adults involved with you know your wishes, when it is possible they will act on it.
In any case be assured that you will be closer with your little brother as you all grow older. Blieve me, I did with my brother and sisters of my father's first mariage, an we love each other although we spent little time toghether when I was a child.
GOOD LUCK an hope every thing works out for you and your sister.
and one last thing , keep up with what you are doing and make sure that who ever adult you trust in your lif knows you are active on the net
take care
2007-04-09 16:27:13 · answer #3 · answered by toca 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your little brother is still pretty young. I have 7 kids 3 are mine, 3 are my husbands, 1 from his first wife. As time goes on you guys will end up having alot of time together. When he is a little older they will love you to take him with you, movies, games........You will end up seeing more of him then you want!!!! TRUST ME!!!!!! Things will be fine
2007-04-09 15:22:13 · answer #4 · answered by scissorhandterri 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
really hurts but be smart
try something that both your mom and dad likes common
at least a drama which bring them both together and realise about there past with u guys
i think somehow it kind of work
2007-04-09 16:32:50 · answer #5 · answered by nooru 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This might help.
http://www.stillhopefamily.com/
2007-04-09 15:35:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋