We live across the street from my husbands father and step mother. I HATE it here. The house is tiny and there is NO yard. Now the neighbor next door is doing construction on their house (just sold to an investor) and my kids can't play outside in our driveway because they are making it too hazardous. I don't want to stay here any longer. The landlord makes us pick up her mail for her and calls with less than 30 minutes notice that she will be by to pick it up. Now she is out of town for 6 weeks and TOLD me I was to deposit her rent check in her bank on the first of May. I am due to have my baby that week and may be in the hospital. How do I make my husband of 9 years see that I can't take this anymore and I want away from my inlaws (who are VERY controlling)? Any ideas? Thanks I am just about to give up.
2007-04-09 09:23:55 · 3 answers · asked by Mrs. Always Right 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
BTW... when I married my husband he lived more than 30 minutes away from his father and his father was NOT married. This wasnt a problem until we moved here.
2007-04-09 09:33:09 · update #1
First, you need to do some research on different places. Canvas the area around you so when you go to plead your case, you can have some back up information. Don't whine or yell, don't even wheedle. Just lay it simply on the table. Tell him that you wanted to find a better place that is healthy for not only your mental state, the kids, but for your unborn child. Don't mention the inlaws, that is like whining. Tell him that you are being stressed out with the landlord and all her demands and that you have found some places that might be a little better. That you need his help in picking out a place that you both can agree on, and you will give him time to decide on making up his mind. That you want push him to come to a decision.
2007-04-09 09:33:20 · answer #1 · answered by cinnatigg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do it talk to him, which I'm sure you have already done. You can try again but outside of that you are screwed.
There is a reason you are across the street, you husband likes that your in-laws are controlling. That is part of his nature, there isn't anything you can do about it. If you didn't like them controlling him, then you shouldn't have married him to begin with. You saw the signs and either choose to ignore them, or thought you could change him. Either way you signed up for this so don't complain too loud.
2007-04-09 09:32:01 · answer #2 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-27 22:49:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋