ok i have to tell my mom something?

Question

My Brother Has Bipolar Depression And My Mom Always Spends Time With Him And I Understand That He IS the Middle Child I Am The Youngest My Parents R Divorced And I Have Seen So Many Things Like My Dad Getting Real Mad At My Sister And loosing Control And Now That My Brother Is Depressed My Mom Barley Pays Attention To Me I Know It Sounds Like I Am High Mattinence But My Mom Barley Says I Love You Anymore And It Is Hurting Me And So I Have Told My Mom Many Times I am Sad About This Kinda Atuff But She Just Tells Me I Am A Little Too Needy I Am Scared I Am Hurting Her When I Say This But She Is Hurting ME More Than She Thinks How Do I Tell Her I Want Her To Pay Attention To Me In A Way That Wont Make Her Think I Am Not To High Mattinence And That wont Make Me Feel Bad In The End?

Answer 1

There is no such thing as not needing anything; nor is it ever acceptable to be completely ignored by a parent.

Might be smart to talk with a counselor at school; Mom probably doesn't realize she's hurting you.

This is the mature way to go, hang in there.

Answer 2

Just tell her, she probably doesn't even realize she is doing it. She probably figures you are doing ok, and therefore don't need as much attention. Truth be told you still do! Is there anything you can all do together? You are not high maintenance. You are a normal person that is somewhat getting ignored by the people that should be paying the most attention to you. You going to your mom and talking to her will be much better than you lashing out and getting wild just to get attention. Good luck! I'm sure it will work out, just be open and honest with her. And let her know exactly what you said to us. You don't want to make her feel bad, but you need a little more from her. She should understand.

Answer 3

The first thing to realize is we all need to be loved right.
With your brother having problems that brings more problems onto your mom. I am sure your mom feels responsible.. have you taken the time to look at her stand point rather than just yours or your brothers?

Consouling is something your family should look into, to open up the communication lines..This must be a hard time for both you & your family.

If you want to tell your mom before you go to bed, or when you come home from school, or in the morning walk up to her kiss her & give her a hug and say i love you and leave or go to bed whatever your going to do.. I am sure she will say I love you back if she doesnt be like I LOVE YOU MOM and smile untill she says it!

Don't try and push your mom into a more emotional state by complaining she doesnt say she loves you! Can you honestly sit there and tell me you think she doesnt love you?

When someone is going through a hard time people don't always know how to express themselves in the best of ways.
Give it some time and let things calm down. I am sure everything willl work out for you & your family.

Good Luck

Answer 4

You aren't asking for anything bad. Every child needs a certain amount of love and attention from their parents. It sounds like your mom maybe has a lot of problems to deal with, especially your brother has some problems too. I know your mom loves you, but she is probably so overwhelmed with things and your brother, she has kind of put your needs to the side. You need to tell your mom somehow about how you feel. Someone mentioned a letter, that is a good idea. Or, maybe at bedtime when things are quiet and your brother is in bed, go over to your mom and hug her and tell her what you are feeling, like you wrote to us. I think she just needs to be reminded that you need some of her love and attention too. Also, if you really do not think you can talk to your mom, do you have a grandmother or aunt that you can talk to about it? Good luck sweetie, I hope things get better for you.

Answer 5

So maybe you need to go about this in a little different way. Instead of talking to her, why not try and help her out like around the house and stuff. That will give you both time to chat when your helping her, plus that gives her a little extra time at the end of the day. Chores don't seem like chores when you have help, and then you get to find out whats going on with each other at the same time. Plus your mom will appreciate the help, and that says something there.

Answer 6

Fisrt of all, if you speak like you type, she might not understandn what you are saying.

Secondly, sit her down tell her you want to spend some time with her

lastly, you need to realize that your brother needs help right now and your mom does love you, but with 3 kids, I am sure her time is stretched thin

Answer 7

yes i understand that you feel left out because your parents have to pay attention to yor brother this way . i hope they had him at the doctor with the bipolar desease and got the right medications for him.
keep letting her know how you feel and maybe you could talk to a school counselor to .

Answer 8

Ask her out! Say, "Hey, Mom, want to go shopping/downtown/out for a lunch date/whatever, just the two of us?"

I'm sure she'd be thrilled to schedule something like that if you asked her. As a mom I know I would.

Answer 9

I think you just did a wonderful job explaining your feelings. Maybe you ought to write down what you just did in a letter to your mom. Good luck to you. I hope she listens.

Answer 10

As a parent, I suggest you talk to your mom.
She will understand.
I have kids, and i know to hear it would hurt me, but i also know that i would fix the problem.
Your mom cares and i know she will understand and be sensative to your needs.
Best wishes.