When I visit my daughters home my new wife thinks that she should take down the pictures of my past wife.?

Question

My past wife passed away 10 years ago. I say why should she not be able to display pictures of her mother and father. Who is right?

Answer 1

Well,it is your daughters home and mother who is passed.
I think it would be extremely disrespectful to ask or demand
for her to put away the pictures of her mom that is forever
gone.I think your new wife needs to understand that and
respect that.She may need some professional help.....

Answer 2

It's your daughters Mom and it's you daughters home. Tell your new wife that if she is not comfortable seeing your first wife's picture in your daughters home, than she should not go with you when go visit your daughter. Your wife has no right to tell your daughter what pictures she can put up or not. Also your new wife should respect that you were married before and that she has passed away, if she cannot maybe you need to rethink the relationship with this woman.

Answer 3

You are correct. And while you are at it, I recommend some couples therapy. Apparently your new wife is insecure about what role your former wife had in your life. When my mother passed away, my step-mother spent years berating my mom and trying to drag her good name through the mud, simply because of ridiculous jealousy.

Your daughter has the right to display pictures of her OWN MOTHER in her OWN HOME, without having to accommodate your new wife's insecurities. To ask otherwise of her would be asenine! The fact that she would even consider asking your daughter to remove mementos of her deceased mother is selfish, thoughtless and downright rude. your daughter deserves an apology. Sorry if it sounds like I'm judging but just reading this has me a bit miffed! Good luck with your situation and I hope it works out for the best.

Answer 4

Your new wife needs to grow up!!! First off it is your daughters home, and her mother!! The new wife needs to get over her insecurities. She has no right to think that your daughter should take down pictures of her mother!! Who is deceased. If it was my step-mom I would just tell her flat out to deal with the pic's or don't come over! And believe me I have had my share of step parents! Good bad and in between!
Your daughters mother is dead and your present wife should be more respectfull of your daughters feelings for her mother.

Answer 5

Your wife will just have to get over it, that is your daughter's mother and if she doesn't like the pictures, tell her not to look at them or not go over there. That is her tough luck, I didn't take pictures down of my mom for my dad's new girlfriend I lost my mom when I was 20, and the way I see it, your new wife is not her mom, so she can keep any picture up that she pleases. When my daddy died in 2003, his girlfriend got mad, because we showed mama and daddy's pictures, and the pictures of all us kids and grandkids, and only a few of her and her family. So, NO you are not wrong, she does have the right to show both her mama and daddy's pictures.

Answer 6

Your wife is definitely insecure about you ex and your daughter has every right to have those pictures up and you wife needs to except that you are with her for a reason and not your ex but that is still your daughters mother

Answer 7

You are. Your daughter has every right to display pictures of her mother. Your new wife sounds a little immature to feel threatened or offended by someone who has passed away. I think it is very disrespectful to your daughter and to her mother's memory.

Answer 8

Your daughter has ever right to display photos of her mother living or dead. Your current wife is wrong to even suggest that she take them down. You need to tell the new wife, to leave this one alone. What is wrong with your current wife, that she is so insecure.

Answer 9

Your new wife has some issues if she's intimidated by a dead woman. You and your daughter should be able to celebrate her mom. It would be nice if your "new" wife would be part of the celebration of life than the insecure woman she sounds like.
Good luck

After reading that, the first sentence sounds quite cold. It really wasn't meant to be offensive, just a statement of fact.
Sorry.

Answer 10

i agree with you. Your new wife isn't your daughter's mother and your daughter has every right to keep her own mother's pictures up. Pardon me, but your new wife seems a bit insecure if she is worried about someone who has passed on interfering in her life.