A few months ago I wrote a letter to my dad. I told him how much I hated him for splitting up our family, and for just being a low-lifed dirtbag. My parents split years and years ago. I live with my mom, but 2 years ago we moved. I hate it down here. I had to leave all of my friends and I've made friends here... but they just aren't the same. I want to move in with my dad because that's where I want to be. But how can I say sorry... he was pretty hurt by my letter, and I have refused to talk to him since. What can I do for him to forgive me?
2007-04-09 11:16:20 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just apologize. Trust me, he will forgive you. I said some really rotten things to my dad in the past, and we are fine now.
2007-04-09 11:20:17 · answer #1 · answered by Kari R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you didnt hate it there with your mom, would you want to live with him? Is the letter you wrote still true deep inside you? If so, you are an opportunist . I mean if underneath you still feel the same way about his being a dirtbag ( or if he truly is) then it wont work for very long and you will become unhappy with him too. As for forgiveness, write him another letter regardless of where you are going to live and try to regain his trust and dont ever write a letter like that again to anyone since you cant take it back ever. AND most of all realize that you are at a disadvantage not because of anything you did but because your parents divorced so try to make your own life better and I know you will since you sound very intelligent and compassionate.
2007-04-09 18:27:59 · answer #2 · answered by barthebear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to him. But that is because you need to make up with him for you. The other part is the moving back to be near your friends is not up to you until you get to be a certain age. Now for what you do not want to know. Things seem so good there because you are not there. Remember the grass is always greener on the other side? You remember the mostly good things but not the bad times there like you are having where you are now. Things will not be the same if you went back. If you go visit it will be nice but to go back to live will not be the same. Ask others that have ben there! But yes you need to make up with your dad and visit because it might have mostly been his fault but was really both your parents fault.
2007-04-09 18:25:00 · answer #3 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope, you want to make up with him because of him not just because you want to live with him to be close to your friends. It would not be fair but very selfish doing it for your friends and you don't need to do it at all because you be lying to your dad.
If you really feel you want to do it for the relationship between you and your dad just tell him! Tell him you had a chance to think about what happened and you realize it was immature to act how you did. You'll have to work hard to regain his trust but he'll forgive you cause he's your dad. Tell him, how you felt, when your parents broke up. Be honest and don't leave anything out. You need to resolve your issues before moving in with him, though! It won't be good to just make a move because it'll always be tension between the two of you.
Take small steps! Ask if you can spend the summer there (I am assuming your still in school) and if things go well, maybe you can move in with him later this year.
But you need to work things out before making the big move because you might just be bouncing back and fourth if you don't.
2007-04-09 18:28:59 · answer #4 · answered by binemaeuschen22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him and tell him just how hurt you were and that you realize that it was not all his fault now and that you are very sorry for the hurtful things you said to him and that you are would proud to have him as your father. make him feel good about himself. Tell him you want to spend time with him and get to know him. Use your imagination, but make sure you mean what you say. Don't just butter him up to get your way. Always remember that it is not alway just one person's fault in a breakup. Both sides are always involved somehow.
2007-04-09 18:40:39 · answer #5 · answered by golden rider 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just apologise he will forgive you, you are his daughter he would never shut you out. after reading your message it looks as if you only want to move back in with your dad because he is where your friends are. is this the case or do you truthfully want to live with your dad and only visit your mum?
You should give it a think over
2007-04-09 19:11:31 · answer #6 · answered by fabio 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to speak with him face to face and tell him that you are sorry for the way that you acted and the things that you said. you didn't mean them. Your father should understand you were a child and you were hurt and full of emotion due to the changes in the family.
2007-04-13 16:41:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You HATE...you HATE?? The first thing to do is to nullify that verb from your vocabulary,specially with your family.Your parent's separation is not your business;they knew the reasons;you are only a son or daugther(?).You must to contact your father and say to him a deep sorry with your heart in your hand;he will understand;after all,he is a father and he gave to you your life.
2007-04-09 18:31:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just call your Dad. He's your Dad and will be happy to hear from you. Parents are full of unconditional love. Good Luck and God Bless you.
2007-04-09 18:36:17 · answer #9 · answered by galbee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well say sorry and write another letter explaining everything. hopefully he will understand, i mean u hav a reason to b mad and he should understand
2007-04-09 18:23:01 · answer #10 · answered by ajskdlf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋