I have a 17 year old brother and he's a real pain in the ***. He's hits me, spits on me, kicks me and yells at me. If he doesn't get his way, he throws a fit like a 5 year old. whenever I go anywhere, as far as checking the mail, I have to lock up my clothes, purse, well, stuff like that b/c he will steal my money, and sometimes, tear up my clothes. I tried fighting back but I just turned 18 so that's not going to do me alot of good. All he's gotta do is go to someone and show them a mark and I can get into trouble. Believe me, I would move out but right now I don't have that option. He's really selfish, I had a cousin that was homeless and depressed and would stay w/ us but my brother made it clear he didn't want him there and he would leave. He eventually committed suicide and my brother found him, so b/c of that, he has alot of sympathy. I don't have any friends b/c they moved so I have NO ONE, I mean no 1 to talk to about this, can someone please help. any advice is appreciated
2007-04-09 18:15:01 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds like your in a catch-22 situation really, happens alot this day and age... but its obvious the parents been spoiling this guy for most of his life, and at the sametime keeping stress on you not to be like him. Now without there help your pretty much sol. You have to realize the only reason this goes on is ether they don't know/don't care, or the do know/don't care. Ether way your royaly screwed. This is classic stuff to go on, see you show a conscious so your easy for the average parent to raise, when no ones around, you'll still do the right thing. Him on the other head has a couscious, but it isn't wired in the way yours is, and instead of taking the time to help him with his little cross-wire (namly the fact he doesn't empasize well with people, which is extreme-self centerness, which is bad, bad, kill the cat and make a statue out of it bad) so unless you want to be the one to beat that conscious back to reality or they have to... its not easy at all when the kids hit 17 like that, as far as he is concern you guys are all idiots, which I'm pretty sure he reminds everyone ever chance he can get. See you can see the truth even thou it isn't being accept'd (namly you have to love people, not just for them, but for you own sense of self) him on the other hand, might be able to taste it, might actual be able to see it, but since other people are not accepting it, he see's no reason why he should. We are the sum of all are interpersonal interactions, or to say, everyone we met helps make us, he isn't alone, he is the sum of all his people, just seems most of them failed him and your left to deal with the problem... he needs consoling along with your parents, no offense, there proubly loving individuals, but in any relationship love is just the base in which compassion and passion grow. This guy needs to get beat by some passion, so that he can grow a better sense of himself so that he can acutal so some compassion. Till then, darn those parents!
2007-04-10 03:58:41 · answer #1 · answered by Brutal Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where are your parents in all of this?
They need to be protecting you from him!
If they wont get involved, then just call the police next time he assults you - tell them you are afraid for your safety.
They will take in downtown till he cools off and have a little come to Jesus meeting with him. He'll learn to think twice before acting out next time.
2007-04-10 08:46:12 · answer #2 · answered by DaBoomvang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
finish school and then move and get going to school and learn something and get out of the mess work and school is all you need right now.
2007-04-13 18:02:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋