My 21 yr old son and I have been together thru thick and thin. His dad kidnapped him off the street when he was 11 and he rode a bicycle 24 miles home with a bad tire in 80 degree weather to get to me and his grandpa. His dad was trying to find him and he heard him coming and hid in a corn field with his bicycle and watched him go by. His dad is a drunk and pathological liar and he has not spoken to him in over 8 years.
My son is the only witness I had to a big lie his dad put his little sister up to in court.
My son and I are so totally bonded and he is welcome home anytime, but I dont want him to feel like he is being thrown out of my house, but I would like to take over his bedroom because it is down stairs and I wont have to carry laundry upstairs any more. The upstairs carpet is pink. His carpet is beige and his room is masculin, but I would like it for me
I am afraid he will bomb out on his first try at living away from home because he has no money and no furniture
2007-04-09 18:11:10 · 6 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds like you have been through a lot together. With that in mind just communicate with him. Tell him the truth. He is welcome anytime but you would like to switch rooms because it would be eaiser on you. I think he would understand and be supportive. Tell him that he is welcome to the upstairs room and that he can decorate it any way he wants if he feels the need to move back home. Honesty and communication have gotten you this far, why wouldn't it work now?
2007-04-09 18:18:08 · answer #1 · answered by troythom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move downstairs and leave the paint be for about 6 months or a year. It shouldn't bother you too much whether the walls are pink or masculine looking.
2007-04-09 18:28:39 · answer #2 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you go ahead and paint his room your color. tell him that you love him so much, you wanted to sleep in his room. it might be too much work for you, but I think it will be cool to make a room just for him, so if he does stop by occaisionally, or whenver, he knows he still has a room of his own, the bond you have, you have to sometimes physically make materials that is his to be present in the house.
For example, i have a friend's mom, and she has nothing of her kids in her house, so we know that as soon as dinner is over, we are no longer welcome. so your concerns were correct!
2007-04-09 18:21:10 · answer #3 · answered by Travel Agent 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has moved on...or at least is attempting to, you have all the right to do with his room as you please and since you have a real need for its location, I'd do it in a hurry just in case he does move back in...he would be just as welcomed but would have to take whats available...fair enough to me...should be fair enough to him.
2007-04-09 18:15:53 · answer #4 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm.........carry laundry upstairs every once in awhile or possibly lose my son.........tough call.
2007-04-09 18:16:45 · answer #5 · answered by jacklyn_denise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait give him time he will be back. and let him know how you feel about his room.
2007-04-09 18:17:21 · answer #6 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋