2007-04-09 23:41:24 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
What forced you to marry one person when you already love another.person. Now it is too late and all you can do is go for a divorce and get married to the person you love but that will ruin the life of the present spouse.
2007-04-09 23:58:05 · answer #1 · answered by ssmindia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All i can say that it's really sad to be trapped in a marriage while your heart is beating for someone else besides your husband.
First and foremost... I do not know why you gotten married when you already have another man in your heart.
But it's too late to lament now isn't it.
Please be fair to yourself, your spouse and the 3rd party (hopefully not a mere crush) you love.
By posting here... I believed you cannot deceive yourself anymore and is tormented that your heart beats for another man daily while living with your husband.
If so... is the other man a willing party too? Is he head over heels in love with you?
Do you both have mutual love for each other or it's purely a crush from your side?
Do not throw away the love of your husband over someone who doesn't even knew you existed.
If you both (3rd party) have mutual love... and u are darn sure about this need to be together... then you have to get a separation deal or annulment?
If it's only a one sided crush over this man... then you really need to sort out ya feelings here.
Mostly importantly... do not lie to yourself and your spouse.
Invest some time and thought into this matter since you are legally married. But do not drag your feet and indulge in extramarital affairs too.
2007-04-09 23:59:21 · answer #2 · answered by glitzynicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you get married it's not like dating someone where you can just break up and date someone else.. Think about why you married your husband, do you not love him enough that your loving someone else? If you want to stay with your husband you should focus on spending more time with him and getting to love him more so your marriage can grow. If you don't want to stay with him, be prepared to divorce.. if you are going to divorce, do it before the relationship gets further. Best thing to do is love your husband more and focus more on him.
2007-04-10 00:06:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't have an affair its not fair on the person you've just married. make a decision and stick to it. either leave your spouse NOW before the potential for hurt and misery becomes worse, or commit to the person you've just married. but don't leave it as it is.
2007-04-10 00:26:44 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have responsibility for your wife/husband. Don't to be the selfish person ! You should think before you decide it. If you married , so it means that you have already choosed her/him. You should continue to take care your family. Don't make her/him sad !
2007-04-09 23:52:52 · answer #5 · answered by Diana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You took vows. Why did you take them if you could not keep them? Concentrate on trying to be good to your spouse. Cheating will only cause major trouble. If you can't stay faithful, leave her now before it become a tangled web of lies.
2007-04-09 23:46:03 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow you didn't read the fine print before you said "I do" did you? Just got married what you expect serioous but if you really really love this guy then follow your heart babe... But I'm gonna pity your poor husband man
2007-04-10 00:02:53 · answer #7 · answered by sheadrew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce? Have an affair? Stay with your husband? Those seem to be the main options...
2007-04-09 23:44:33 · answer #8 · answered by playbunnysoup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart
2007-04-09 23:44:27 · answer #9 · answered by XXkarlaXX 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first years of marriage is the hardest and most confusing because your feelings will have to adapt and adjust to the situation. I think you are just confused.....
2007-04-10 00:16:41 · answer #10 · answered by kcv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋