Family & Relationships - 20 December 2007

who would it be .

2007-12-20 04:13:37 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My mom is having a gathering with just her kids
and
My grandma is having a gathering with the whole family

and

My dad is having a get together with the kids

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Tell me what you think

2007-12-20 04:12:44 · 5 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family

My ex recently got remarried. His new wife has 4 kids, but she doesn't have custody of any of them. He told my daughters (6 and 12) to call his new wife Mom, "because she's the MOM in this house." I objected to this and said I don't care what respectful title/name they give her, but in reference to my children, MOM belongs to me. (I would never tell them to call anyone else DAD - HE is their Dad.)

All of her kids are old enough to know her name (over 10), so if my daughters were to call her by it her children wouldn't be confused.

Opinions? Am I over-reacting or is he over-stepping?

2007-12-20 04:05:02 · 22 answers · asked by Bonnie L 5 in Marriage & Divorce

She has had a very different past than myself and it really bothers me to the point where I keep argueing with her about it. It's ruining the relationship. Am I just insecure?
Thank you.

2007-12-20 04:00:37 · 15 answers · asked by Dr. 2 in Singles & Dating

All moms can relate to this, but I am particularly interested in the opinion of the Stay At Home Moms living off of 1 Budget....

A) Do you find you let yourself go?
B) How long did it take you to realize and start taking care of yourself again? Did this ever happpen? What makes it so hard?


This is just out of curiousity. I find I don't buy myself new clothes (even when they are desperatley needed), keep up with my own haircuts, or even wear makeup like I used too. My husband works hard to see that we are all cared for, and he never has a problem seeing to it that his needs are met.

I am kinda fed up with doing for everyone else and have decided to make this year about me because I have gone above and beyond for my family. Has anyone else gone through this? I know I am not alone in this, but I want to see how many other moms have been through this and how they dealt with it....

2007-12-20 03:59:49 · 14 answers · asked by okeydokeyjal22 3 in Family

So, I just answered this question about a stay at home mom worried about borrowing money from her husband to buy Christmas presents. Isn't this Strange? I've been married for 19 years and we have always shared our money as well as the bills. I can't even imagine a relationship being strong without sharing everything, thoughts, feelings, love, laughter, memories, fears, and even money. Marriage is a bond where two people come together. What's going on in the marriage world today that would keep couples from wanting that bond?

2007-12-20 03:59:40 · 38 answers · asked by ? 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I have a 9 year old daugter who is the oldest of 3 kids from different fathers with my babys mama. Born the summer before my senior year of high school. Now her mom and I have been on and off for the past 9 years. We were together for the past 2 years and engaged for 10 months waiting to get married. We moved in together with her son and my daughter. I wanted to make it work with her mainly so my daughter could have a good family and a healthy enviorment. Her mom has a habit of finding some of the biggest losers and going out with them, so i just couldnt watch her give my daughter a crappy father figure. I contracted Herpes that she got from her sons father.I accepted this entering the relationship ready to be with her for the rest of my life.She left and got her own apt.Three weeks later she was dating someone new. Now 3 months after she moved out she wants to get back together. Keep in mind my family hates her and she put me 20,000 in debt. I still care for her, just confused now.

2007-12-20 03:56:46 · 14 answers · asked by darkshnider42 2 in Marriage & Divorce

coz i don't like him having a girllfriend ,just tell me am i right or wrong . i really don't want him to care for another girl

2007-12-20 03:53:57 · 8 answers · asked by Iresha W 1 in Family

My boyfriend tells me I am the best thing thats ever happened to him. Im not being cocky but I am. And he will never find another woman that will stand by his ungrateful as* the way I have and put up with what I have. He isnt on drugs, off at all hours of the night doing god knows what, he's getting his sh*t together basically. I didnt tell him he was the best and is perfect for me. He is perfect in some way but in a lot more ways he still gotta work on somethings like he's jealous and tries to control me. I know I can do better than him but I dont want them I want him and I told him. "I know I can do better than you but I dont want him I want you and I love you" All that being said should I have lied to him? I dont like making him feel bad or hurting him which is what I did when I told him that but isnt lying worse? What would you have done in the situation or what have you done when put in a position like that?

2007-12-20 03:53:23 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

1. Past addiction to Cocaine (23 years ago) but still has an addictive personality.
2. Recently (within the past 9 mo) addicted to frequenting Karaoke Bars. He loves to sing & drink.
3.He is still communicating with a woman he did booty calls with even when I asked him to stop.She lives hundreds of miles away right now.
4. Previously addicted to pornography(within the last year)
5. I found an email where he had been pimping himself on Craig's List to have sex with stange women before we met (a married one) & he did not tell me about it once we started our relationship.
6. Does NOT want to attend church AT ALL. I am thinking when I have a child I would like to attend church for the child.
7. He can't have sex with me & get satisfied unless he has constant serious sexual visual stimulation (i.e all the lights on & mirrors). I am sure this has to do with his past porn addiction. He can't just feel it. He has to see EVERYTHING. Sometimes I feel like he wants the porn shot & not me. ?

2007-12-20 03:48:33 · 22 answers · asked by VintagePort 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Has anyone every left their wife and kids for another woman? And if so, has it worked out with the other woman?

2007-12-20 03:48:29 · 7 answers · asked by typershark 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i dont wanna wear yellow gold..

2007-12-20 03:48:14 · 31 answers · asked by CHELAKIKI 2 in Weddings

I am 23 years old, the oldest of my mothers three children. I have two younger brothers, one 22 who lives on his own, and another who is 18 and not yet out of highschool. My brother seems to have gotten mixed in with the wrong crowd, and I know he is doing drugs. I have spoken to my mother and him both about this because I am real worried that he could get into trouble, and I was basically told to mind my own business. So I did!
Christmas is coming though, and my mom doesn’t have a lot of money so I have been doing little things to help. On Saturday I put up a Christmas tree. Then last night my mom called and said she slipped and fell down the steps in her house and hurt herself. Thinking I was being a good daughter, I called my brother, the 18 year old and asked him if he would be able to salt the stairs so my mom wouldn’t fall again, but he said he can’t. He also said he was leaving so don’t come over. I figured since he would be gone, it would be safe to come over and put salt down for my mom. I also planned to drop off some baking supplies because I planned to bake cookies for my family at my moms (my apartment does not have a stove).
So, I went over my moms, and of course the door was locked, my brother NEVER EVER locks the door, but he did this time because he knew I was coming. So I ring the door bell and I see him out of the corner of my eye peaking out to see who it was, and then ran away. I kept knocking hoping my mom would answer and she eventually did.
When my mom let me in, my brother comes out of his room screaming and yelling and jumping in my face telling me I am stupid for coming over and that I needed to get out. My mom just sits there asking him to stop. After like an hour of this I start crying and he walks away. My mom says “it’s not my fault he is like that” so I told her, that she is the mother and she has the obligation to maintain order in her home, and if this is what Christmas is going to be like, then I won’t be there. I took all my cooking things and walked out.
I spent five minutes sitting in the car crying, then called my mom and told her that after that episode I am done with the family, and have no problem reporting my brother’s drug problems to the police. I didn’t call the police and probably won’t but right now I am so upset and it’s Christmas and I don’t want to be alone on Christmas, what can I do to solve the problem?

2007-12-20 03:48:12 · 12 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family

I am curious about this for the couples that are very close to a separation and divorcing deal. If the wife is no longer happy and does not love the husband anymore, does she give the guys a very hard time for him to leave????????? Does she become an extreme "b" for the man to get out of her life and her kids???? Thanks guy for your honest answers.

2007-12-20 03:45:57 · 11 answers · asked by Pain_of_Unhappiness2 3 in Marriage & Divorce

y is it so hard? i have liked this kid since 5th grade and now were in 7th and he knows but he dont like me, and were just friends. i cant seem to stop liking him, and ive tried everything.

♥thanks♥

2007-12-20 03:44:29 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

How long was your break? when did you guys/girls get back?

2007-12-20 03:43:58 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-20 03:42:51 · 10 answers · asked by s m 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Most of my husbands family doesn't like me, and my husband has made sure over the years that I know it. My father in law doesn't speak to me, and because he doesn't want to see me he doesn't see our child anymore. I have been called some nasty names and labeled as someone that I don't even know by these very judgemental people. I wish I had enough room to write the things that his family has done!
I was expected to fit a mould, just like his first wife, but in being true to myself I never changed enough to fit in, and neither did she. I have done alot for my husband (drug & gambling problems) and his father, but everything has gone unappreciated. There's no give and take here! My husband has never stuck up for me in front of them, even when he should have. If anything, he becomes childlike around them. In any case, we've been invited to family xmas functions, and just the thought of being around his family gives me major anxiety. Am I obligated to go?

2007-12-20 03:42:46 · 27 answers · asked by ­Das  2 in Family

How can a man sleep with someone and completely lose interest? Why do they do it in the first place?

I know not all men are like this, so I'm not generalising. But there's been a couple of guys I've really liked this year who have done this to me and it's hurt me a lot. It wasn't even like I jumped into bed with them on the first date as I waited a few months before doing anything.

I'm just genuinely trying to understand. How can you get that intimate with someone and not feel anything for them? I really don't get it!

2007-12-20 03:42:29 · 27 answers · asked by happyg 3 in Singles & Dating

all through the night .

2007-12-20 03:42:11 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-12-20 03:41:06 · 14 answers · asked by Tanjoubi 2 in Singles & Dating

I love my husband alot. I tell him often. We have been together for 13 years and I know that he loves me but he has a hard time showing it. His parents were not the greatest of people to show him how to be part of a relationship. I don't fear he will cheat but I do want those small things now and again. He finds that hard to do. It's not "normal" for him, he didn't grow-up with that. Please help with any advice you can give. Thanks!

2007-12-20 03:40:04 · 11 answers · asked by queenbee 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I can't get into the xmas spirit. My shopping is not started, and my house is a mess. Anyone eles dragging their feet?

2007-12-20 03:37:51 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-20 03:33:31 · 22 answers · asked by naosha H 1 in Singles & Dating

my boyfriend wanted me to have sex with him.. we've been together for 1 year now. sometimes i feel like wanting to give my virginity to him but im afraid that if i give myself to him., he will leave me because it id just what de wanted from me. but iknow that he loves me. and i love him too. im also afraid because i think im too young to have sex. but i want to try it sometimes.

2007-12-20 03:32:08 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

They had problems. She was jealous. She was overweight and wanted him to accept her no matter what. He has a masters degree. He is very well educated but he worries me with his past. I have a hard time talking to him because he is a perfectionist. I feel the only way to see if he will cheat on me is to set up an fake email in the name of a woman and send it to him to see if he will reply to her. But part of me is scared to see the results and part of me feels as if I am setting my self up for heartache. So what should I do?

2007-12-20 03:29:41 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I was working at a retail store. I have a lot of personal problems in my life. Even though they're NOT excusable for this sort of behavior, I used them to give a few of my family members some free merchandise from that store. I am scared. I really would like to take some time away with tears, but that is clearly impossible. I take in on all the responsibility, but I also feel super bad for my family. I have made them look like some delinquents, when it was me that persuaded them to take the merchandise. Now I would scan and delete. The videos on the camera are RIGHT. I am very nervous, embarassed and scared. Does a "Warrant" mean that they can come ANYTIME and take me away?
The store says I have to appear in court with my family, confess and agree to pay the amount I owe this store, and return most of the merchandise back to my store. I am new at this retail stuff. I make mistakes. but this one will definitely affect me for the rest of my life.
*sniff*

Thank you for your time.

2007-12-20 03:28:10 · 9 answers · asked by Ciao Bella 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

The boy is 17 years old and graduating in 08 and going to college in summer. I just don't want him to lose sight of his goals. I know right now is a hard time for him. What encouraging words can I give him?

2007-12-20 03:27:03 · 31 answers · asked by fanna17 1 in Friends

A friend of mine,that I like as more than a friend,has recently become single again-after their relationship ended.

I got the impression in the last year that they may have feelings for me-but I`m not sure.

I obviously haven`t told them how I feel whilst they were involved with someone else-but now that`s over,how long should I wait before I say something?

I don`t want to seem insensitive,as i don`t know who ended the relationship-but i`m frightened if I wait too long,they may meet some one else.

We`re not kids-so any sensible advice would be great-thanks

2007-12-20 03:25:49 · 11 answers · asked by jennywilson1334 1 in Singles & Dating

He hasn't said one word to me.

2007-12-20 03:25:11 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce