How can a man sleep with someone and completely lose interest? Why do they do it in the first place?
I know not all men are like this, so I'm not generalising. But there's been a couple of guys I've really liked this year who have done this to me and it's hurt me a lot. It wasn't even like I jumped into bed with them on the first date as I waited a few months before doing anything.
I'm just genuinely trying to understand. How can you get that intimate with someone and not feel anything for them? I really don't get it!
2007-12-20 03:42:29 · 27 answers · asked by happyg 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When I say 'a couple', I mean two men. If there had been several, I think I would be seriously doubting myself right now!
Both of them were younger than me (I'm 26, one was 23 and the other 24), so maybe that has something to do with it!
2007-12-20 03:51:52 · update #1
I think it's the men you pick. Men how are in there early twenties are usually not looking for someone serious. I would suggest trying to date older men ones who are more serious about relationships. Before you get serious with any guy, you should find out how long he was dating his past girlfriends, that usually can tell you a lot about a man. If he's hoping around a lot, most likely he isn't looking for something serious. Good luck!!! There are better men out there. :-)
2007-12-20 04:22:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Straight away, age doesn't have anything to do with it. Some guys like to be "players" and I don't think i will ever understand that myself as to how guys can do that when they're clearing going to emotionally distress the girl! I'm very sorry this has happened to you and i hope you will find someone who does love and care for you.
It's genetic with men that we "spread the seed". This is why even in the closest of relationships, men will always look at other girls and think "i'd like to have a go at that", they don't ever think "i could really spend my life with her". Men think about sex, on average, every 7 seconds. In our society, it does make me wonder why these behave the way they do, i don't think there's an answer for this one. Just wait until the right man comes along. Don't be suckered in by boys, wait for the perfect gentleman.
All the best, merry christmas
2007-12-20 12:58:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG!
Everyone knows that women associate love and sex, men associate sex with what it is-fun.
Being female, this may sound strange coming from me, but us girls should get out there and behave like men. It's hard the first few times but after that they become notches on your bedpost!
You need to just let loose and have fun in bed, using protection of course, the chances are because you are waiting and making such a big deal about sleeping with them it's making you tense in bed and they can tell you are not enjoying it. Men don't want to sleep with women that are dull in bed and you should be brave, not think about where it's going. Live for the moment and HAVE A LAUGH!
2007-12-20 11:53:06 · answer #3 · answered by dms*157* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some men the objective is the sleeping with someone, once that is over and done with so is the relationship.
Just remember in life there will come a time when there is no one left that will be prepared to be treated like that, and they will end up very lonely and bitter.
2007-12-20 11:47:26 · answer #4 · answered by mikeywills 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
QQ. Here is the deal with guys. Some guys are looking for a relationship and some guys are counting down the days until you're going to sleep with them. Do you want to make sure you want keep a guys interest? You keep them on the hook by withhollding sex as long as you can and make them work their butts off for you. Guys who are really interested will stay while the guys wanting to just get in your pants will lose interest.
2007-12-20 11:50:41 · answer #5 · answered by Shinigami 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you have to make sure the men you like are really in love with you, and not just men who are trying to figure out how to get you in bed with them. These are not men, they are precisely "animals".
I would suggest you dont give them sex, but wait till a committment is made.
If they really love you, and care about you, they will make a committment, trust me.
If they dont, they will eventually leave. This is the best way you can filter out the scum, and meet the "real man" of your dreams! Hope this helps you, and all the best to finding the perfect gentleman.
2007-12-20 12:11:31 · answer #6 · answered by dreamgirl1981 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's men hunny...it's in their genes to just sleep with someone and then move on (well, most of them).
For women having sex is an intimate thing to do but to men it can be just sex.
BUT...you said a few guys have dumped you after having sex with you for the first time...? Maybe there's something you're doing really wrong or maybe??
2007-12-20 11:47:02 · answer #7 · answered by Munchy Mooneo 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Because some people (men and women) can remove intimacy from sex. don't take it personally, it's just the way of the world (different strokes for different folks)You should count yourself lucky you didn't have a deep and meaningfull relationship with these douchebags.
2007-12-20 11:49:37 · answer #8 · answered by JASON N 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe thats the kinda guy u r attracted to.....but lots of men, particularly younger ones, will take any chance they can....and dont know the diff between love and a good sh*gging
2007-12-20 11:48:32 · answer #9 · answered by mark_2005_london 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you are attracted to the wrong man. Make sure you're in a relationship first, before you give it up. Men respect women who are harder to get into bed...anyway don't beat yourself up too much, some men are in some kind of race to see how many women they can bone.
2007-12-20 11:46:27 · answer #10 · answered by islandgirl God and family 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋