Family & Relationships - 20 December 2007

If I make $20,000 more per year than my husband and we get a divorce...but we've only been married for 1 1/2 years, and we have one child together, who will have to pay spousal support? I make more than him but I also have more debt than him...Is it separate from child support, and if so, how do they determine the amounts awarded?

2007-12-20 04:50:53 · 10 answers · asked by mrs333luv 1 in Marriage & Divorce

The other night my fiance' found a text message from one of my female friends asking me when are we going to hook up. Nothing gay or bi or anything but he thought it was a man calling my phone so he called the number back while I was sleep and her boyfriend is talking on the answering machine. I wouldnt tell him her name because me and her dont talk anymore and I was upset about him calling the phone number back before consulting me in the first place. Should I stay upset with him or should I just let it go. He is mad at me because he feels like I'm wrong for not telling him the sex or name of the person.

2007-12-20 04:50:36 · 3 answers · asked by shawdy2fine 2 in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend talks about future with me (marriage life, house and kids), but he told his mom, he won't be married anytime soon, and the house he is going to buy is for his single life. What does it mean?

Will it be hurting if I ask him directly about this question? Because I am afraid it will sound like I don't trust him.

2007-12-20 04:49:24 · 9 answers · asked by cryptogram 2 in Singles & Dating

If you had to chose one..

To be loved.. but then forgotten
or
Hatefully remembered...?

2007-12-20 04:44:45 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My parents and sister-in-law have been having problems. For my parents it's a matter of not getting respect from her. For her, she sees them as distant and does not see why she should give them phone calls or visit when they come to visit me at school. I feel like I am setting a bad example, because I really should call and visit more often as well.

Is there something I can do -- for example, talk with my brother and sister-in-law?

2007-12-20 04:44:09 · 3 answers · asked by Surely Funke 6 in Family

2007-12-20 04:41:37 · 16 answers · asked by Josc 3 in Singles & Dating

My brother in law is a jerk and the more people that meet him, the more people tell me so. My husband can't stand the childest things his brother pulls and that cause much tension between them. I hate the guy and wish I never had to see him again but he is my hubby's brother and I don't ever want it to be me that causes them to part ways. They were at one time very close but now they can't be in the same room with out a sarcastic remark being made which leads to more words being said. My hubby refuses to by a x-mas gift for his brother because of something very stupid his brother has done and although we aren't seeing each other for the holidays, I still think he should buy a gift. Should I just stay out of all of this or should I push my hubby into buying a gift? What should I do about all of this in general? Thanks!

2007-12-20 04:41:16 · 8 answers · asked by queenbee 4 in Family

What should I do for christmas? I wanted to go to my parents house for the holiday because my whole family will be there. the only problem is my mother, all my life she has told me that I was a mistake.....that I should have never been born. my big sister past away last year in a car wreck, and yes, my sister was my moms favorite child. My mother told everybody that she wished it was me that died that day. But my father wants me there for christmas, he loves me and really wants to see me, but my mom is soo mean to me and says bad things about me infront of all my family. she did that last year to me while I was there, it was the worst christmas ever. so should I go? or should I make my own plans and not go?

2007-12-20 04:39:49 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-12-20 04:36:00 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i buy my boyfriend a Wii & 2 games (total 375.00) for x-mas and all he gets me is a spoiler for my car...$ 85.00 off ebay.... is that fair..? or am i just being greedy.. we have been together for about 2 years now... and he pretty much has a GOOD idea of what i have got him.. so why wouldn't he try to get me something nice also, ya know.. (keep in mind he has a GREAT job making 3 times the amount i make..)

2007-12-20 04:32:53 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My son is 20... My husband charges him $300 a month for rent... My son has his own one room efficiency in our home but also has access to the entire house... Laundry... phone... occasional dinners... etc. I think $300 is too much... He has a job making only $10/hr. I think $200 is fair... I want him to be able to save some money... What do you all think??? It has caused tension between my husband and I... My husband thinks $300 is more then fair....

2007-12-20 04:31:12 · 43 answers · asked by sweetpea 4 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-20 04:30:57 · 7 answers · asked by Angelio Carbatini 2 in Singles & Dating

1. Past addiction to Cocaine (23 years ago) but still has an addictive personality.
2. Recently (within the past 9 mo) addicted to frequenting Karaoke Bars. He loves to sing & drink.
3.He is still communicating with a woman he did booty calls with even when I asked him to stop.She lives hundreds of miles away right now.
4. Previously addicted to pornography(within the last year)
5. I found an email where he had been pimping himself on Craig's List to have sex with strange women before we met (a married one) & he did not tell me about it once we started our relationship.
6. Does NOT want to attend church AT ALL. I am thinking when I have a child I would like to attend church for the child.
7. He can't have sex with me & get satisfied unless he has constant serious sexual visual stimulation (i.e all the lights on & mirrors). I am sure this has to do with his past porn addiction. He can't just feel it. He has to see EVERYTHING. Sometimes I feel like he wants the porn shot & not me

2007-12-20 04:29:52 · 19 answers · asked by VintagePort 1 in Marriage & Divorce

sending a birthday card to a friend and looking to get some help to put a message in the card which simple and short but sweet...!
thanks

2007-12-20 04:29:51 · 6 answers · asked by Sagar 6 in Friends

do guys like girls with alot of convidence? not concieted but just walk around like they're great but are nice at the same time. do they find this sexy?

2007-12-20 04:27:44 · 4 answers · asked by JessicA :) 1 in Singles & Dating

I had an extra marital affair with a single guy for about three months, about for years back. When I left the country he said he does not have any feelings for me, but by that time I was in love with him. So for four years now I've been writing to him and occasionally he also replies. Recently I got to know that he's had an affair and had broken off with the girl because she has cheated. He has really loved her and is going through a rough time at the moment.
I have told him I will love him no matter how many girlfriends he'll have but now I don't feel the love I felt for him after this incident. But, I still like him and miss him. So I still write to him.
If you were him will you think that I am trying to renew the affair?

2007-12-20 04:24:59 · 32 answers · asked by j 2 in Singles & Dating

Recently we had encountered our long lost father and my sister has gotten close to that side of the family. It has been only about 2 months or so...drama happened with the other side of the family and for her own reasons she does not talk to my mom and to my g-ma she does talk to her but she said things will never be the same. Lately I've been feeling like she has been ignoring me. My sister and I work together and she just acts different so it seems around me. Today she got a ride from her half sister or not sure if she's even her biological sister or whatever. But she's calling that side of her family her family now since they do live closer to her than we do. She calls her biological dad her dad which to me is weird because he hasn't played the fatherly role and she is getting closer to that family. In a way its good for her to start a relationship but I guess I've kept my own space with my bilogical father. What should I do? Not make this a big deal, start a relationship with them?

2007-12-20 04:23:35 · 9 answers · asked by Txgirl23 4 in Family

with our senior account executive and has been for months. Well aparently she is in the middle of a divorce due to the affair but my bosses wife just found out monday and told all the employees. I have heard him talk to his wife about marriage counseling but still has this account executive in his office all the time and has been seen hugging her and kissing her in the parking lot...This is against company policy! I do not know what to do and this is making me sick! I feel sorry for his wife and 2 year old daughter...I mean I have been there. Not to mention he is being a jerk about the situation....like he will ask me how I am and then I ask how he is and he will say what the heck do you think or his wife will call and tell me to tell him to call and I give him the note he will make a ugh sound crumple the paper and slam it in the trash...and the account executive, I HAVE NEVER LIKED HER! 29 mother of 5 and is out every night getting smashed...she even acts a fool at customer functions

2007-12-20 04:23:06 · 19 answers · asked by LosersSuck 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm looking for a dominant woman that I could serve me for herself. I dont want to be insulted but I need to be a slave for a horny woman enjoy each other. If you are not, could you please tell how I can find one of them in London?

2007-12-20 04:20:07 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I'm a 46 year old male and i'm currently looking for a good mate.I'm 46,but i still look and act like i'm about 30.Unfortunately i found myself going to the dating sites online and i've accumulated a lot of women seeking the same things i'm seeking.I have female dates ranging in age from 25 to 51.I'm would like to know from the men what will be the best age limit for me to pursue.I have met some real nice ladies in all ages,but i'm looking more into the future than what i can get right now from a mate.It has gotten quite confusing for me to make a decision.I don't want to miss out on what's good to be with something that i might regret later on down the road.

2007-12-20 04:19:48 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I had a baby in September and I was at 178. She was 7lbs. Since then I've made it down to 142. I went from a size 13 to a size 5/6. My husband hasn't seen me since I gave birth, he's in Iraq. I know losing any weight is good, but I'm not sure if he'll find me sexy again. I'm still a little jiggly and I still have my stretch marks. I do tae-bo, pilates, and I run just about every day. Maybe every other. I'm trying to tone up and like I said I've dropped a lot of weight. (I weigh less than when we first met) but I'm not sure how he'll feel. I'm scared he won't think I'm sexy from the marks of the baby. I'm trying so that when he comes home, he'll be impressed, but I'm not sure. Any input?

2007-12-20 04:18:56 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My husband and I were going through some issues in our marriage specifically that i had found out that he was leading a double life with another women and i found out and kicked him out. We were split for about 8months while he dragged me along for the first 2 or so waiting to work it out but he was actually having his cake and eating it too coming home giving me false hope and leaving me after the do(you know what i mean) was done and going right back to her and his second family as i called them. Then i got smart about what he was doing and i decided i was too young to sit around and play games so i took a guy up on the offer to go on a dinner/movie date. We hung out for the remainder of my seperation all the while i was honest about my situation. Eventually my husband and i reconciled and he moved back home, but my friend still tries to communicate w/ me. Am i wrong to want to speak with him, especially if my husband is still doing some of the same stuff that seperated us 2 start ?

2007-12-20 04:18:53 · 14 answers · asked by Lil Miss Miracle 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I have trust issues regarding men in the first place but I have a hard time trusting my boyfriend.

This morning I looked into his phone and saw that he erased all incoming text messages and nothing else.

Also in his pictures storage of the phone there were 3 blank photos. I found that odd. Could those blank pictures be attachments to the text messages that were deleted?

I tried to get into his Verizon account but I dont know all his security questions

Am I going to far? What should I do?

2007-12-20 04:17:59 · 16 answers · asked by CaliGirl 5 in Marriage & Divorce

I know this guy from work and we have become really good friends. He calls me every night, we even went Christmas shopping. We went to the work Christmas party and he asked me if I was trying to make people hit on me. The problem? He has a girlfriend and talks about her a lot, sometimes for the good and sometimes for the bad. She is currently in college in another state and he only sees her on breaks. Does he like me??

2007-12-20 04:17:21 · 13 answers · asked by stephbrown2005 2 in Singles & Dating

When I got divorced my ex-husband had a specific job and income, which I was aware of. Since that time (nearly 15 years ago) he has relocated, gotten a much, much better job with a huge pay increase, and has never told us. He went out of his way to even mail the support checks from a different city so we would not find out. He did not see our child for nearly 10 years and then only met us somewhere, did not allow him to his new home as he knew we would find out that he was making a lot more money and he did not want to pay more child support. My son just turned 18 this year and the day after he graduated high school I found out all of this stuff. Does anyone know if this would be grounds to go back and get back child support even if he did pay a small amount every month? I think this is very deceitful and he got away with it - or did he? Any advice would be greatly appreciated! Oh, this was in California.

2007-12-20 04:16:02 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I'm going to be 18 soon and my mom and dad are separating. I don't want to live with my mother can she can be a little looney at times. I want to live with my dad until I can move out on my own, but I want to do it without my mom disowning me and blaming my father for me to be leaving her as well. I don't want to live in a house with her where I am practically walking on eggshells all the time. What can I do without making mad?

2007-12-20 04:15:16 · 25 answers · asked by Meika 2 in Family

We've been married for 8 years and have three beautiful little boys, one 7 and 3 year old twins. About 2 years ago, my wife stopped sleeping with me on a regular basis. As time goes by, it just gets worse and worse. Obviously, every situation is different and has its own unique set of factors, but I'm looking for a general answer.

I have not let myself go. I'm still trim and exercise regularly. I don't drink or smoke or spend any time away from home. I go to work at 9 and come home by 7 to play with the kids until they go to bed. I always put the family before my career.

I can't imagine having an affair with someone else, but I also can't imagine going the rest of my life without sex.

Any advice or insight?

2007-12-20 04:14:53 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

to open up your heart to a complete stranger than it is to your own family??

I have told some things to my online contacts that I have never told my own family. Not BAD things, but my feelings and my worries and stuff.

2007-12-20 04:14:33 · 15 answers · asked by ¸.•*´`*•.¸ ℓανєη∂єr ¸.•*´`*•.¸ 6 in Friends

on it what should i do for this crewl act??

2007-12-20 04:13:58 · 5 answers · asked by daisy 4 in Friends

remember that girl I was having trouble with now she is going around telling every guy that I like them and which I don't and see and she says other stuff about me that I won't mention because I could get reported what should I do In this situation????????????????? :(

2007-12-20 04:13:42 · 11 answers · asked by Tina P 2 in Friends