Recently we had encountered our long lost father and my sister has gotten close to that side of the family. It has been only about 2 months or so...drama happened with the other side of the family and for her own reasons she does not talk to my mom and to my g-ma she does talk to her but she said things will never be the same. Lately I've been feeling like she has been ignoring me. My sister and I work together and she just acts different so it seems around me. Today she got a ride from her half sister or not sure if she's even her biological sister or whatever. But she's calling that side of her family her family now since they do live closer to her than we do. She calls her biological dad her dad which to me is weird because he hasn't played the fatherly role and she is getting closer to that family. In a way its good for her to start a relationship but I guess I've kept my own space with my bilogical father. What should I do? Not make this a big deal, start a relationship with them?
2007-12-20 04:23:35 · 9 answers · asked by Txgirl23 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Letterstoheather...could you have been a little more sympathetic in this situation?? Think you came on a bit too strong. I think the problem is not so much her relationship with the family but her relationship with ME..
2007-12-20 04:46:30 · update #1
If you don't want a relationship with these people, don't make one just because of your sister. There are some weird dynamics going on here, what with the fact that your "dad" hasn't really ever been your dad, and you wanting your sister to yourself like you've had until now. Honestly, if it's eating you up enough to write a question about, I'd talk to your sister. Maybe just ask her if she wants to grab a bite to eat sometime, or go shopping, or whatever you guys like to do. I would not focus on how you feel about this new family, I'd focus just on how she's acting towards you and the rest of your family. If she doesn't talk to your mom, it makes sense for her to still want a family elsewhere, and I don't think anything good can come of your two different opinions on the new family. But what can be changed is her demeanor towards you. Just tell her you feel like she's been a little distant, and you don't want to see your friendship disappear, because she means a lot to you.
Hope this helped, good luck! =)
2007-12-20 04:33:40 · answer #1 · answered by avacado pie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My 2 sisters live in London and i live with the parents at home in Australia. When i was little i used to always ask when they were coming home, so did the parents, it was because i was not used of them being gone... i did not understand why they had left. But now understand that its their life and they need to do these things for themselves just like i will. My advice is when you do talk let them in on the every day life and what you get up to... it will make them feel like they are still apart of your life, they love you and if thats where you want to be they will understand, it might take some time but they will get it. But make an effort to see them once in a while too...
2016-05-25 04:24:49 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is adjusting, she is getting to know them, they are new and exciting. I am sure she is also learning more about herself and her mother and grandmaw through other perspectives too! I think you should give you father a chance to at least meet you and don't stress so much about your sister, what you are both going through will need time & patience. It sounds like you are missing her and might be needing her so you can heal, ya know?
2007-12-20 04:35:21 · answer #3 · answered by okeydokeyjal22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This might be a good time to make peace throughout the entire family. There's no reason anybody needs to be divided.
2007-12-20 04:27:53 · answer #4 · answered by kj 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its good for her and it might be confusing too... talk to her about it... but just in a ..wanting to know what shes feeling way... dont go at her..cuz that would be BAD!
2007-12-20 04:26:51 · answer #5 · answered by soren 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your sister's choices don't belong to you, and i don't see why you are worried about them... each of us has to live our own life and make decisions about who we want to associate with.
I can't tell you whethre to become "close" with your bio father and have a relationship with his family. That is your own choice.
2007-12-20 04:32:27 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
It's o.k to feel hurt about that. I suggest you go to your sister and tell her how you feel. good luck:)
2007-12-20 04:27:24 · answer #7 · answered by meira198 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course
2007-12-20 04:27:06 · answer #8 · answered by Courtney(: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no never just dont pasy attention
2007-12-20 04:26:27 · answer #9 · answered by LUARAAA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋