Can't Trust Boyfriend?

Question

I have trust issues regarding men in the first place but I have a hard time trusting my boyfriend.

This morning I looked into his phone and saw that he erased all incoming text messages and nothing else.

Also in his pictures storage of the phone there were 3 blank photos. I found that odd. Could those blank pictures be attachments to the text messages that were deleted?

I tried to get into his Verizon account but I dont know all his security questions

Am I going to far? What should I do?

I get the feeling that he is talking to another girl. He denies receiving texts from anyone but he erased them. I cant prove it otherwise.

Answer 1

Has he done anythign to make you not trust him, or you just going by what you feel? How long have u been together? I doubt the blank pics were texts, the pjone prob took pics w/ out him knowing it, mine used to do it all the time!! I say ya gotta ease up unless he has given u a reason to be the way you are. Your relationship can't and won't last w/ out trust!!!

Answer 2

Some Indians stay connected with India. This sounds like your boyfriend. Outlook is not good. My old man was from India. He ditched the India stuff at Ellis Island. He lived for booze, broads and money - a true American. Loved a good steak, too. By the way, marriage-wise, he couldn't be trusted either, he'd lay any woman with a pulse

Answer 3

I feel you should trust your instincts.

I'm addicted to porn, and my wife can tell if I'm going the wrong direction despite the fact that I can hide it so well there's no PROOF.

Tread carefully, but the bigger question is getting to the bottom of why you want to look in the first place.

Be up front with him.... tell him you aren't feeling right about things. Try to get him to open up.

Good luck.

Answer 4

If you don't stop going through his things, your relationship will not last. It is like you are looking for something and are jumping to conclusions. Does he lie to you? Does he tell you one thing and do another? Are there times when he can not account for his where abouts? If you answered yes then maybe something is up. If you answered no, then you need to learn to trust. If someone burned you in the past, it does not mean that every guy that comes along will burn you.

Answer 5

I think you might be going a little too far. From what you are telling us, there doesn't really seem to be anything TOO suspicious about what your boyfriend does.

I would wait it out, but going through his phone and trying to get onto his account...? You know if he finds out and he hasn't done anything wrong he will probably be upset and feel betrayed that you would do all of that stuff.

You should wait it out, see what happens, if he is cheating on you it will come out sooner or later.

Answer 6

You need to break up with him NOW and work on your own insecurities. You have some major issues and it's not fair to him nor you, and you should stay away from getting into any relationships until you become more secure.

And stay out of people's stuff!

Answer 7

You're far too paranoid and untrusting for your own good. This is going to destroy relationship after relationship until you're a lonely, bitter old woman with nothing and no one. Please, seek counseling for these trust issues. What you are doing is unhealthy, petty, and immature.

Answer 8

I can only say one thing which may be of value, pick ONLY men whom you can trust. Always pick your friends- - - never let them pick you. Her is a little saying that I find very true, memorize it and let it be your guide;


“You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you don't trust enough.”

Take care

Answer 9

I don't think a GF has the right to go through a man's stuff. People put WAY too much committment into dating and not near enough into marriage.

Answer 10

Your in for a long road of disappointments and heartache if you keep acting like this. You need more proof before you go popping off like that. Relax. Otherwise your going to give yourself ulcers.