i buy my boyfriend a Wii & 2 games (total 375.00) for x-mas and all he gets me is a spoiler for my car...$ 85.00 off ebay.... is that fair..? or am i just being greedy.. we have been together for about 2 years now... and he pretty much has a GOOD idea of what i have got him.. so why wouldn't he try to get me something nice also, ya know.. (keep in mind he has a GREAT job making 3 times the amount i make..)
2007-12-20 04:32:53 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Have you given him hints about what you really want? Better yet, some men are so oblivious that you have to flat out tell them what you want. On the other hand, maybe he's just being cheap.
2007-12-20 04:39:10 · answer #1 · answered by Mary C 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Honestly I think you are being greedy. You should appreciate what he's giving you. You shouldn't give a gift expecting to get anything in return much less expect that they spend a certain amount. My husband always spent more on me when we were dating. I had the better job. But I was also raised in a family that didn't go overboard at xmas. We gave nice gifts but didn't put any stress on ourselves or cause any financial issues (like alot of people do) He was always happy with whatever I got (though his mom was kind of like you....thought I should have matched his gifts dollar for dollar....not a good attitude to have in my opinion)
Be gracious when you get your gift or you may be risking not having a boyfriend next xmas.
2007-12-20 12:53:56 · answer #2 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably thinks what he got you was a great gift. You can't punish him for not spending as much as you did. There is no spoken or nonspoken agreement that one should spend as much as the other. You chose to spend what you did, he didn't ask so you should be happy with what he got you. It's hard I know, I have been guilty of the same thing in the past, but it really is not fair to be disappointed. A gift is a gift.
2007-12-20 12:37:52 · answer #3 · answered by alabize 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a little greedy to me, it shouldn't be about the price of things, it's the thought that counts and that shouldn't be all that christmas is about. You should be thankful that you got anything. You know there are people out there who get nothing at all, people who can't even celebrate christmas. be thankful and be happy for what you got.
2007-12-20 12:45:49 · answer #4 · answered by Kasja 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is why Christmas presents are a dumb idea. I think if everyone took their money they were going to spend on gifts and donated half to charity and kept half for a rainy day fund everyone would be happier and the world would be a better place.
2007-12-20 12:56:34 · answer #5 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buying a Christmas gift isn't about keeping score. It's the thought behind the gift.
But, if it bothers you that much, take the Wii & 2 games back and get your money back.
2007-12-20 12:42:06 · answer #6 · answered by CatNip 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So did you get him that gift because you expected a gift of equal value in return? If you could not afford such an expensive gift you shouldn't have bought it for him since clearly he can afford to buy it himself. It does appear greedy to buy something expecting a big gift in return.
2007-12-20 12:39:52 · answer #7 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he IS sure as to what you got him, and all he got you is spoiler, well then he is greedy. However I wouldn't jump to conclusions, maybe it's just part of a present? Wait till Christmas.
2007-12-20 12:39:18 · answer #8 · answered by Kitten 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Maybe he is giving from the heart?
OR
He's just really cheap, but you'd know that by now wouldn't you?
Besides, he may pay for the spoiler to be put on - I would think an auto body place has to do that. That's not cheap.
2007-12-20 12:37:59 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ тнє σяιgιиαℓ gιяℓfяι∂αу ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Decide what your relationship is about. If it is grounded in money and “tit for tat” then you need to let him know the gift was not up to standards.
However, if his gift was given from what he perceived you wanted or needed..then accept it with the thought intended to please you based upon what you wanted…nothing more- - nothing less.
Take care
2007-12-20 13:01:52 · answer #10 · answered by hawk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋