I had an extra marital affair with a single guy for about three months, about for years back. When I left the country he said he does not have any feelings for me, but by that time I was in love with him. So for four years now I've been writing to him and occasionally he also replies. Recently I got to know that he's had an affair and had broken off with the girl because she has cheated. He has really loved her and is going through a rough time at the moment.
I have told him I will love him no matter how many girlfriends he'll have but now I don't feel the love I felt for him after this incident. But, I still like him and miss him. So I still write to him.
If you were him will you think that I am trying to renew the affair?
2007-12-20 04:24:59 · 32 answers · asked by j 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So, you're married (you said extra-marital affair) and you're still writing to and drooling over a guy you cheated on your husband with four years ago?
I feel bad for your hub.
2007-12-20 04:31:23 · answer #1 · answered by Flock of Seagulls Haircut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you continue to hold onto a broken dream you will miss out on other dreams that could be better. The affair is one sided and obviously he has a problem with commitment. If he has been in a long term relationship chances are the last thing he would want right now is another long termed relationship. There are many people out there right now that I'm sure would love to be with you. people who are available. You will never know if you keep holding onto an uncertain dream.
2007-12-20 04:30:56 · answer #2 · answered by queenmaeve172000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a Cheating Sl*t and deserve a Cheating Liar for a boyfriend. Maybe you can even get pregnant and have a Cheating Bastard child together!
Why don't you ask your husband for some advice you cheating sl*t!
You're the best of what the world has to offer - an A+ B*tch
Merry Christmas
2007-12-20 04:30:11 · answer #3 · answered by willie pheeler 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course.... because you obviously still keep on showing him how you feel. I also had one a few years back, but hes nevr told me that he; lost feelings. We are still friends but the whole reason of staying apart was to do what was right, to respect our loved ones. We still care about each other but I try to to keep in touch with him cause then he;ll think Im trying to get him back. I want to respect the fact that he wanted to do things right for his family. I think you should do the same. Trust me, you be hurting but not because hes not loving you back. You need to let him go and respect what he wants if you really care for him like you say you do.
2007-12-20 04:32:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
although I did not have any extra marital affair like you ( still not married ), I did tell my girl that it does not matter to me if she chooses a guy above me and comes back to me because I will always wait for her no matter what.
but everytime I have been misunderstood and I guess you too will be misunderstood.
I say you shouldnt wait for that guy who doesnt even values your feelings towards him. it was just three months and he just thought it to be a casual affair. instead focus on your marital life and if you arent satisfied with it, try for other guys.
2007-12-20 04:34:32 · answer #5 · answered by krishna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he does not love you.
he has you in the palm of his hands.
he's in love with the woman who is the cause of him going through a rough time.
you hurt when you love.
you don't loosen your grip when you love...like the way he does with you.
you are trying to renew the affair and you're using "well...I'm in love with him" as an exscuse.
get over him.
do you really want to give your heart to a man who will cheat on his girlfriend?
he will break your heart just like he broke hers.
the only question is when
2007-12-20 04:29:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oww well sum guys will have a certain perspective wen they first meet a girl and that will almost remain constant unless sumthing really HAPPENS...
so he might not be taken u as his option for his kinda girl
And, because u still hav affections for him it is better to make him understand that u have feelings for him. if he understands then gud luck
the case of being misunderstood wont be there. coz if i was in his place i wudn have misunderstood ya
well to be honest. wont u mind dating a different guy
there are so many single guys all around this globe..
gud luck
2007-12-20 04:32:04 · answer #7 · answered by AMAL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, just leave this man alone, he sounds like an ****** anyway, who tells someone to their face that they don't have feelings for them, do yourself a favor please, i beg you, find a married guy to have an affair with so you both can be sneaky and have fun together, with a single guy,he moves on, with another married person you can fallfor each other and stay married to others, too many people in the world, this guy is a jerk, just move on and take my advice
2007-12-20 04:30:32 · answer #8 · answered by glbs2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel sorry for your husband if you are still with him and continuing contact with some guy you had an affair with. Interesting you lost feelings for him for being with another woman yet you are cheating on your husband.
2007-12-20 04:33:17 · answer #9 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were him, I would think that you are a true looser. You have been hanging on to something that never was really there for you, and still isn't. The fact that you feel you have ANY right to "adjust" your "feelings" for HIM, makes you look almost insane.
What ARE you looking for here? Dude has been out on his own doing whatever he wants to for YEARS - he is not about to change that for YOU. I would think you are just getting more and more out of touch with reality, and if it were ME, I would stop talking to you - - for good!
2007-12-20 04:34:04 · answer #10 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋