The other night my fiance' found a text message from one of my female friends asking me when are we going to hook up. Nothing gay or bi or anything but he thought it was a man calling my phone so he called the number back while I was sleep and her boyfriend is talking on the answering machine. I wouldnt tell him her name because me and her dont talk anymore and I was upset about him calling the phone number back before consulting me in the first place. Should I stay upset with him or should I just let it go. He is mad at me because he feels like I'm wrong for not telling him the sex or name of the person.
2007-12-20 04:50:36 · 3 answers · asked by shawdy2fine 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To extend due to recent post............
I love him and I trust him. But I have nothing to hide. He made me feel like he does not trust me because he called the person first and then woke me up and asked me.I have went thru his phone and he has went thru my phone. I have nothing to hide his phone is always locked since I went thru his phone.He had naked pics of women in his phone and him standing behind a naked girl at her house. Not justifying it but she was someone I use to be friends with and she is foul she did alot of things to me that made me hate her.
2007-12-20 05:06:07 · update #1
First off, I was in his shoes not too long ago and it has been distroying my relationship! I called a few numbers I found and googled some of them as well. If your man can't trust you then think about why. Sounds like he's jealous. If there's nothing to hide then tell him the TRUTH. All of it!
If it was just a friend (female) and it wasn't sexual at all, then there's nothing to hide! Then you could sit down with him and talk with him about this openly. But if your mad at him and getting defensive with him maybe there is something your hiding. You have no right to get mad at him other then for him calling the number before consulting with you. But then again, think about how he feels finding something that remotely sounds inappropriate like that text. If you love him, then reassure him nothing is happening by telling him the truth, if you love him and there is something whether big or small happening, please just be honest with him. We need more honest people in this world...
2007-12-20 04:58:52 · answer #1 · answered by LEINA V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Incidentally, why don't you tell him the name or gender of the person? Imagine that roles are reversed, would YOU be OK with your guy not telling you?
The answer to this question is, of course, "no". You'd be very upset about that and would use following line to get it out of him:
"If, as you say, they don't mean anything to you, how come you're not willing to tell me?"
So, take this question and apply it to yourself.
You fiancé is jealous and lacks confidence in you in particular and the whole relationship in general. I imagine he's also a bit scared of the future wedding. In other words, he's nervous, does not trust you and you are not helping.
Whether or not to be upset is entirely up to you. However, the mere fact that you're asking about it means that you're NOT upset any longer & are trying to use your falsely bad mood to get some sort of edge on your guy.
Bottom line is this: he does not trust you &, at least on the surface of it, he's right about it -- you don't deserve his trust.
If I knew your fiancée, I'd tell him to either postpone your wedding or just break up with you.
2007-12-20 13:07:45 · answer #2 · answered by Alex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like a lot of drama over a miscommunication.....if I were you I would apologize for creating the drama, and get on with your life....
2007-12-20 13:05:38 · answer #3 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋