I had a baby in September and I was at 178. She was 7lbs. Since then I've made it down to 142. I went from a size 13 to a size 5/6. My husband hasn't seen me since I gave birth, he's in Iraq. I know losing any weight is good, but I'm not sure if he'll find me sexy again. I'm still a little jiggly and I still have my stretch marks. I do tae-bo, pilates, and I run just about every day. Maybe every other. I'm trying to tone up and like I said I've dropped a lot of weight. (I weigh less than when we first met) but I'm not sure how he'll feel. I'm scared he won't think I'm sexy from the marks of the baby. I'm trying so that when he comes home, he'll be impressed, but I'm not sure. Any input?
2007-12-20 04:18:56 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm trying to do it for him, he's not asking me. I want it to be a nice surprise for when he comes home
2007-12-20 04:23:31 · update #1
i was 158 before I got pregnant.
This one is before:
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This one is after:
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2007-12-20 04:32:27 · update #2
Do you have a picture of what you looked like before you lost all the weight? Might be the clincher. Regardless, he shouldn't have married based on your body size, so I'm guessing there's a lot more qualities and features you have that he's attracted to.
2007-12-20 04:22:54 · answer #1 · answered by D J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry see you after coming back from Iraq will make him so happy, especially since you have lost more weight from the time you guys met. Keep on doing, what you been doing. There are some cream stuff out there that will help you to get of the marks.
This is some information I got from WebMd
"No treatment is guaranteed to remove stretch marks, but you can make them less noticeable. Try twice-daily applications of OTC Striae Stretch Mark Creme - several studies have confirmed that it can reduce red or white marks in about four weeks. Or ask your doctor about laser therapy ($450 to $700 per treatment), which can tone down the brightness of recently acquired red marks, or microdermabrasion ($50 to $150 per session), which can diminish the appearance of white marks."
2007-12-20 04:30:15 · answer #2 · answered by Riri 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your husband found you sexy when you were heavier, I don't think he is going to have a problem thinking you are sexy now, regardless of the loose belly and stretch marks. I'm the opposite, I was in better shape before I had our two boys and my husband still finds me sexy, even though I have excess skin and a LOT of stretch marks. Don't worry, if he loves you, your post baby body will not be a turn off for him.
And you look really good, too, kudos to you:D
2007-12-20 05:23:22 · answer #3 · answered by littlevivi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man should never judge a woman after having there baby. Most men find there woman more attractive after having the baby. I'm sure you husband will love you more and not look at the marks etc...Just remember you have a beautiful child now and you look great. Beauty is within not what's on the outside.
2007-12-20 04:24:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have had two kids and hate my stretch marks and I know how you feel. But my husband actually likes my stretch marks. He always tells me that I can see them better than anyone else and they aren't that bad. And plus he put them there is words that he has used. He loved my body before I got pregnant, he loved while I was pregnant both times, and he still loves my body. If your husband loves you for who you are I think he would be impressed with you taking such good care of yourself. And for giving him a wonderful child. For you to think of him and want to show him how much he means to you and how much you have missed him I think he will love it. I think you are a beautiful girl in both of your pictures. So if he liked you when you were a little bigger he will like you with a little less there. Hope I helped. I think you will blow him away when he sees you.
2007-12-20 05:44:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a hubby and we have a 2 year old. My wife is finally back down to her pre pregnancy weight. She is very happy with her weight and I've watched her transform. I thought she was sexy all throughout the process. I think your husband will think you are sexy especially if you wear sexy attire. Wear the lipstick and makeup, and heels...and fitting clothes...show the cleavage...be seductive...after all you're his wife...these are the things he wants when it comes to seeing you as sexy. Forget the marks...they don't make or break you...find your confidence and be sexy...you've lost over 30lbs in 3 to 4 months. He'll love it.
2007-12-20 04:27:12 · answer #6 · answered by BlackRepublican 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Having your husbands baby is the greatest thing ever! I'm sure he'll think you're sexy no matter what! Appearances aren't everything and you said you have lost a considerable amount of the weight you put on. I bet he married you for the wonderful person you are and not for your body. Congrats on the baby and remember you are sexy no matter what.
2007-12-20 04:22:42 · answer #7 · answered by dazed&confused81 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he is like me having our children makes my wife even more beautiful to me no matter if she has marks or not. I think its great you want to look good for your husband but its whats on the inside that counts and I am sure that just seeing you and the new baby when he gets home will be the most beautiful site he has ever seen. Good luck!
2007-12-20 04:27:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He helped make those marks he should be happy that you had his child and if he really loves you, he wont mind. Take care im sure everything will be just fine when he comes home he will embrace you like never did before
2007-12-20 04:31:11 · answer #9 · answered by partybabe073 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He loves you and you are his wife. He's going to love you no matter what you look like. Consider your stretch marks battle scars. Would you still think he was sexy even if he had some scars on his tummy? Of course you would. I wouldn't worry about it.
2007-12-20 04:25:08 · answer #10 · answered by Melissa.Speer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋