Family & Relationships - 19 December 2007

She's my only girlfriend and we've been together for 5 years but last christmas she left me but we still have communication. then a month later she told me she slept with a guy (she lost her virginity to a different guy she hardly knew!) and the guy never talked to her again. then i took her back but i've been pretty mad about it and i still hate her but i also know that i love her. should i give her a second chance? we've been in long distance relationship for 3 years. she's going to take me away after i graduate from college and i really want to get out of here. we've been together since we were 16.

2007-12-19 18:14:15 · 11 answers · asked by King Kong Jr. 3 in Singles & Dating

I'm 36 weeks pregnant and have been hiding my feelings 2wards my baby's dad.We spilt 2 weeks b4 i found out i was pregnant and have been that way the whole time, the only thing is i'm still madly in love with him but i'm 2 scared 2 tell him because i'm scared he will reject me and i don't know if i could handle that right now and i'm only 16 and am so confused. What do i do? Do i tell him and get my heartbroken again, or do i not tell him and let it eat me up inside. Please help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-12-19 18:11:50 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-12-19 18:11:41 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

2007-12-19 18:11:00 · 11 answers · asked by India H 1 in Friends

i want to remove this person from my msn and i dont want to be in her msn eihter, so would i be removed if i delete her from my list ? i dont want to ignore her cuz she may want to talk to me sometimes later but for now i dont want her to see me online...but again i dont want to ignore her....POSSIBLE ???
thanks

2007-12-19 18:08:59 · 6 answers · asked by Ali 4 in Singles & Dating

Okay so here's the deal...Im 22/m and never had a girl, im not a virgin thank god, but it still sucks alot that I cannot communicate with anyone of the opposite sex correctly. I mean i'm not bad looking in the face, im 6'6 150lbs, so I feel like the jolly green giant but also like a wet noodle, lol! I can laugh about that but really it was traumatizing growing p, and still is sometimes. Please dont say work out, I get that all the time, I do workout and I eat so much but again and again the same story.

I am actually a little nervous because I just had a panick attack and my heart almost stopped, this is all do to my lonliness. My heart is not good because I feel the need for companionship but can't do nothing about it. I feel like i'm not human and that people dont see me as human but just a giant beanpole who is fun to ask "Oh my god how tall are you?"

I am incredibly smart, I can be very sociable but at the same time I avoid people by pulling out some of my famous lies.

2007-12-19 18:08:05 · 8 answers · asked by OhG..AnotherWay 1 in Singles & Dating

She say's "i find it offensive that ugly guys like me. it's like saying that i'm ugly. I'm only flattered and praised when cute guys like me. Because my look should only attract cute guys not ugly guys"

she said that right in front of my face in front of everybody!!!!!!!

What the hell. DO most girl think this way???

2007-12-19 18:07:25 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my husband likes it in the morning and I like it at night,

2007-12-19 18:06:38 · 24 answers · asked by Angel L 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Im a good person and all . and i met guys everywhere i go even when i think im looking my worse but i cant seem to find a guy who's not looking for just sex. Dont get me wrong i like sex too, but i want a real relationship. Not a relationship based on only sex. So here's my questions what makes than think im only good for that? =(

here's a pix of me
http://i51.photobucket.com/albums/f363/mely13/matureofwhat.jpg

2007-12-19 18:03:04 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My honey and I are planning our wedding and we have a big problem! We dont know how to keep his mother from attending! His mother severely abused him as a child...pretty much until he was 18. She beat him daily, sent him to the hospital, made him eat out of the garbage, and even tried to stab him. She doesnt call him by his name, she calls him "the idiot" and other not so nice names. She hasnt talked to him in over 10 years. Yet my honey is Indian (Parents came from India) and we want his father to attend. If his father comes, his mother will certainly try to come, if not crash the wedding.

We want his father to be there as their relationship has gotten better over the years, but there is a malicious hatred between my fiance and his mother.

Please...what do we do???

2007-12-19 18:02:44 · 12 answers · asked by kiki81503 2 in Weddings

What if a guy holds the door open for you, defends you, other people tell you he stares at you but you dont know it, jokes around with you does all this mean he likes you? The guy says he doesnt like me that way but my friend says that he would go out with me and even his mom said he likes me. My aunt has saw him stare at me when i didnt know it. He defended me against two girls that were bringing nonsense.

2007-12-19 18:01:27 · 15 answers · asked by shortyT 1 in Singles & Dating

Was it wrong of me to slap my boyfriend in the face after he called me a dumb slut and a stupid b*tch in front of a whole bunch of people?
I'm still kind of in a daze right now because of what happpened, but basically, we were outside of a club when we started to fight. I didn't call him any names or swear, I tried to keep it down actually, because I didn't want a crowd coming around us, you know? But then he said all those things to me, so I couldn't control myself.

I feel bad about it.. but I think he deserved it. Plus, he actually lunged at me like he was going to hit me, except that people held him back.

Was I wrong?

2007-12-19 17:59:14 · 9 answers · asked by Ruby L 1 in Singles & Dating

We have been going out for almost a year now and I have told him that I love him, but he said that he was scared to tell me "those words" I stoped saying it so he can feel like he "was ready" but I told him again and he just shows it to me but can not tell me, im am wondering if i am just wasting my time or will he ever love me because I am sick of waiting. What do I do he is 31 years old and I feel that he should no if he loves me or not by now... right? should i just keep waiting or move on ...?

2007-12-19 17:56:52 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

We have been going out for almost a year now and I have told him that I love him, but he said that he was scared to tell me "those words" I stoped saying it so he can feel like he "was ready" but I told him again and he just shows it to me but can not tell me, im am wondering if i am just wasting my time or will he ever love me because I am sick of waiting. What do I do he is 31 years old and I feel that he should no if he loves me or not by now... right? should i just keep waiting or move on ...?

2007-12-19 17:55:47 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i work with this guys mother but he is younger than me. the main problem is he is really shy and i am just as much, his mother boyfriend the other day was in our place of work with this guu and i sttod one side and the guy stood the other side i was so embarresed

2007-12-19 17:52:40 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i stopped cutting because of how happy i was.
he helped me deal with everything without cutting
he was always there for me to call.
and now we broke up.
and i just want to stop the pain.

2007-12-19 17:52:33 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

hubby falls asleep right in the middle of the movie. he hasn't done nothing all day to be tired, except nag the heck out of me.

2007-12-19 17:51:01 · 10 answers · asked by kimberly c 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

what things are better left unsaid?

2007-12-19 17:42:52 · 13 answers · asked by Bunny Boiler 6 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-19 17:39:02 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My hubby has a dysfunctional family of origin and holidays were always awkward and uncomfy for all. Plus, his mom was always bossing everyone around during the holidays, so he kind of takes a back seat to plans and events, and his idea of a holiday is plopping himself in front of the tv.

I love celebrating the holidays and would like my family to have fun xmas traditions and celebrations. I can't figure out how to get my hubby to join in. I've asked him what he'd like to do for the holidays, or if there are any traditions he'd like to implement, and he just shrugs his shoulders and says he can't think of anything.
I'm thinking it's because he associates holiday celebrations as something to avoid. How can I encourage him to get involved in the holiday cheer?

2007-12-19 17:36:30 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Ok, i'm starting the basics, i am in the reserves, my wife cheatedon me and when i found out she tried to kill herself, i called the poiliceand they took her away to a mental hospital, she was there for 3 days, i called my seargent and told him, then 2 days later i got word my unit was being deployed. i went to S.RP to get ready for deployment , then they said i can't go because of my wife, me and my wife tried working it out, but then a year later she leaves me for my brother n law who is 41 and my wife is 21, she takes my daughter and she wants joint costody, ( as far as i know,) i can get the police record of her attempted suicide, i can probably get a record of the reason why i didn't go to iraq, my wife is crazy, her brother killed himself 3 years ago, and right after that my wife had cancer, and they gave her the agressive chemo, she bacame a cancer survivor, but those two events is what caused her to go crazy, i seen my wife cut her self alot, she even tried to hang her self

2007-12-19 17:33:58 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I dated my wife for about 10 years before we got married during that time we broke up numerous times for mostly stupid reasons nothing like cheating. I find my wife neurotic self conscious and depressed which I thought would change with marriage well it has not. Ive lost sexual interest and attraction and the passion to her I used to feel when dating I know your supposed to be there for your other but I dont want to anyomore I want to move on and change a few things about myself and then try and find someone who is happy and makes me happy someone that can be my best friend and not just my wife or girlfriend. I do not feel close anymore nor do i enjoy spending time with her we have only been married a year and a half and I think these feelings shouldnt be an issue this early in our marriage. Am I wrong to want a divorce? Will counseling last? or is it just a temporary fix? someone help confused and feeling guilty for feeling this way

2007-12-19 17:32:33 · 26 answers · asked by ... 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-19 17:32:06 · 7 answers · asked by Johnnie's cash🌴🌙☂✈ 4 in Singles & Dating

he keeps telling me, how much he loves me, and i keep wanting to leave, but i cant, because I love him, the only thing thats pushing us apart, is the fact that he tells me one thing and does another. Im tired of crying, and I dont know what else to do. Please help

2007-12-19 17:28:09 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-12-19 17:24:04 · 15 answers · asked by ramesh m 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Do you have to pretend that you never have the temptation to cheat? Though you might not go through with it

I know many women (not all, some are more realistic) that cannot stand the idea that their man might even be tempted by another woman. As far as I know, my husband as been faithful to me but I am sure that he feels attraction to other women. It wouldn’t be normal not to at least feel attracted to a beautiful, attractive woman. Heck, I am not gay but sometimes I see really attractive women and I know that if I was a guy I wouldn’t mind doing the naughty with them. Thoughts.

2007-12-19 17:22:25 · 9 answers · asked by scarlettt_ohara 6 in Marriage & Divorce

I was a size 22 for a few years in my early 20's and am now a decent size 12 and have been for over 7 years. I am comfortable with my size, except when I am without clothing. While my fiancé and I have had sex and I thoroughly enjoy it, I am hesitant to try all the fun positions he wants because I am ridiculously self conscientious of myself. I have extremely bad cellulite, rolls of loose skin (my skin never got tight after weight loss - even though I exercise regularly), and a VERY nasty scar left over from a poorly done tummy tuck that extends to my rear giving me pointed cheeks!!! My bosom sags like an 80 year olds and even my back is embarrassing. My naked body is a humiliating example of the female form and I try my best not to let it bother me, but it does. I desperately want to please my fiancé once we are married and having sex regularly - but I hate having the lights on and allowing him to see me. How can I slowly get more comfortable? What can a person wear during sex

2007-12-19 17:17:46 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

well, there is this guy i like and i think he likes me to, but i don't know what to do...my friends all think he is really dorky and fugly. which i think is kinda mean...what do u think...but yea, do i go out with him or not?

2007-12-19 17:15:13 · 7 answers · asked by Volleylover22 1 in Singles & Dating

We broke up 3 months ago, me ending it because of lack of time. She took it badly. I told her itd be a long time before there was someone else. 2 weeks later I hooked up with someone new. She flipped out said I lied. She later apologized for flipping out. Now today she randomly texts me asking how I am. I told her I wanted nothing to do with her. She said ok that she was only trying to be nice. Was I being too harsh?

2007-12-19 17:12:24 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have this friend that's a guy. He teases me everyday and jokes around with everyone else. But every once in awhile he does things that are really sweet and nice. I've heard that guys that like you tease you alot. Is this true? Thought anything is great. I don't like him. I just want to know what everyone else thinks. Thanks :)

2007-12-19 17:12:01 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating