I'm 36 weeks pregnant and have been hiding my feelings 2wards my baby's dad.We spilt 2 weeks b4 i found out i was pregnant and have been that way the whole time, the only thing is i'm still madly in love with him but i'm 2 scared 2 tell him because i'm scared he will reject me and i don't know if i could handle that right now and i'm only 16 and am so confused. What do i do? Do i tell him and get my heartbroken again, or do i not tell him and let it eat me up inside. Please help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-12-19 18:11:50 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
16 years young and pregnant, wow. When you go, you really go big, eh?
Well to your question, "what do you do when...". You wait and have the baby without the possibility of him helping you with your child. That's what happens when you "can't tell him". You risk the possibility of him going away and never knowing. Trading it for false security in the absence of a clear and definite position on his feelings.
It seems to me, the hard part has been done already. You guys have already rejected each other. You are already broken up, what do you REALLY have to loose now? Sounds to me like you gain by informing him as well as competent people you trust. Should you decide to keep this baby you will need their input and support. Although, you must understand now, that baby does NOT EQUAL THE RELATIONSHIP which you desire with your ex. Depending on his age and maturity level, it may actually cause the opposite effect. This may push him away.
At 16, you are much too young to know who you are and what you want in life. Concentrate on getting through this pregnancy and completing school and get yourself on birth control so you don't hazard anymore lives with your irresponsible attitude with regards to sex. If the guy is your age, how can he reasonably be expected to provide for any of you? How can either of you concentrate on educating yourselves now? I wish men had a birth control pill, I would suggest it for that moron ex of yours too.
2007-12-20 05:03:35 · answer #1 · answered by HotDockett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At sixteen you're way too young to have the responsibility of a baby. I hope you have a lot of help if you're keeping the baby. You can't deal with a relationship while your hormones are doing the pregnancy dance either. What about your education? I think for the time being you can't do much. Does he know about the baby? Are you sure he will want to be a part of it's life? Calm down, relax, and get good food and plenty of rest so your baby will be healthy. AFTERWARDS you can deal with the boyfriend.
2007-12-19 18:18:39 · answer #2 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You tell because it's his baby too. He deserves to know he has a child in the world. Then, I think you should consider giving up the baby for adoption. You can have an open adoption where you see the child, but a child deserves an adult mom and dad who will be there, and you don't sound ready yet.
2007-12-19 18:15:01 · answer #3 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont know what you should do, but congrats! where's the dad? Ohhh(with a smile) he's right here, see! or how about wheres the dad? Ummm, I dont care (knowing that you did)
Try it, if it doesnt work, break that relationship all up in pieces. You got the control girl. Put on your best cowgirl hat, do a little dance because you got it.
2007-12-19 18:19:08 · answer #4 · answered by OhG..AnotherWay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU should have confidence in yourself and tell your parents and your boy friend. Remember that God loves every one of his beautiful creations. I have a strong feeling that you will be fine. What shall we then say to these things? If GOD be for us, WHO can be against us? - Romans 8:31. The Lord daily loadeth us with BENEFITS, even the GOD of our salvation. Selah - Psalm 68:19. When you enter a room or a building, quietly say, "Peace Be To This House." - Luke 10:5 - Those who are within those premises will be of a peaceful demeanor. This is something that you need right now. Read Psalm 35 to (Plead My Cause) - It is long-winded, worthwhile and very significant in helping you obtain what you seek. If you are sincere, then God will hear you and will help you obtain your "desire." I believe that belief in God will bring you up and put you in the right mind. I wish you well. Peace, Love and God Bless.
2007-12-19 18:21:53 · answer #5 · answered by In God We Trust 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U have to tell him!! It will drive u crazy forever if u don't.. If you dont say anything you will never know. If he does end up hurtng you, you will heal from it in time and at least he knows how you feel. You need to get it of your chest!! I wish you the best of luck! And Congradulations!!!
2007-12-19 18:28:31 · answer #6 · answered by bambu1276 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I reccomend talking to the people who know you very well and ask their advice. This is a very hectic time in your life and people with a third person view will often have great wisdom. Hope this helps and good luck with the baby.
2007-12-19 18:15:54 · answer #7 · answered by crustyrustyaphid 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him. if u don't u won't have him. if u tell him u might have him. think of your baby too, babies need daddies
2007-12-19 18:15:41 · answer #8 · answered by Casey 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to face rejection your entire life.. You know him and have had a relationship with him. Was he good to you? was he a friend? Tell him directly, he would respect it! It would be good for you, good for the baby. Get him back.
2007-12-19 18:18:02 · answer #9 · answered by Bumblebee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is the father so he should know,so tell someone that he really admire and trust before its too late.hope u have beautiful baby.
2007-12-19 18:17:55 · answer #10 · answered by aoa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋