He got me to stop cutting myself, what do i do now that he's gone?

Question

i stopped cutting because of how happy i was.
he helped me deal with everything without cutting
he was always there for me to call.
and now we broke up.
and i just want to stop the pain.

Answer 1

Guess what? You don't have to cut. You can't stop the pain by cutting, you just replace it. Instead, you need to feel the pain and grieve. DO NOT CUT. If you do, you have to promise that you will get help tomorrow. And don't rely on someone else to provide your happiness, you need to create it with yourself.

Answer 2

Honey,
You are a nice and softhearted girl. You felt the world or the people around you was not treating you well. So if order to get the right attention for them or to punish you for being someone who does not get that, you started hurting you. And you stopped it when someone helped you understand it. So, who is bad, the world or you?
You are good. It is just that you need to make yourself a little tougher. You can do it. You are capable of doing it because you did the thing many others fear to do.
Your friend came to your life for a purpose, he completed that and for some reason, he moved on. But he hass given you many thigs and a lot of strength to look the world in its face, direct and fearlessly. You cannot give up all that, in your pain of losing him now, if you love him. That was his present to you, preserve it. Try to get over this pain or all the pains by other methods, not hurting yourself.
Your life is valuable, precious and you are a good person.
Take care, All the best..
Merry Christmas and a Very Happy New Year to You..

Answer 3

You better not start back cutting yourself you broke up O.K but your life is not over. Do you love yourself?, then keep on loving yourself don't you ever hurt yourself again. Girl you are better then that and you know you are, I know it hurts but move on. Do the two of you still talk?, and if so just be friends and you start dating and have some fun you need it right now. Don't go sleep with somebody get your girls together and plan a girls night out and have some much need fun. And if you don't have any girlfriends do what I use to do, take yourself out and spend time with you. Get a makeover spend alittle money on yourself go to a nice place to eat have a drink sit back look beautiful and most of all feel beautiful because you are. MUCH LOVE FROM ME TO YOU and make sure you pray.

Answer 4

Find someone else that can be equally as important.....its a mind over matter type of thing. Cutting yourself only makes things worse....you will have so many scars to try to hide and explain later on in your life. Do like some strenous exercise or something to hurt yourself, instead of cutting. Good luck!

Answer 5

There are plenty of support groups for everything you can think of. You did it once and you can do it again. Just stop. I am sure it isn't as easy as it sounds but if you meet with other people going through the same pain or feelings as you it should make it easier. don't depend on anyone but yourself and just do it. I wish u the best.

Answer 6

Well cutting yourself only causes more pain. Plus any guy that sees the scars, won't want to be with you. Find another b/f. They are plenty out there if you just look. Plus cutting will cause infection and then may cause an amputee, or gangrene and you could die. Nothing is worth all that.

Answer 7

This sounds like Deja Vue to me I was also in that same situation, A few years ago my husband who is now my ex husband left me for another woman and I thought I was gonna die because I loved him so much I was so depressed lost about 40 pounds and I hated the site and conversation of a man till one day I happen to go to the store and it was a man for some reason could not take his eyes off of me and it was bothering me because I did not have time I was depressed and I really was not in the mood for no man to come to me with a bunch of lies and crap, So I walked out the store about enough time for him to be gone but instead he was waiting on me outside the store and he was so sweet and respectful and after talking to him I finally brought myself to smile and that was 6 years ago and now we are married with a daughter and me and my kids are his world and he shows it everyday. I was always cutting myself also and I have plenty of scars to prove it and I know the exact pain you are referring to but that pain left when I found my Mr. Right so maybe thats what it would take Mr. Right to come to you because looking for him would not be a good Idea. So I don't know your religion but seek God Because besides all the cutting I was doing I cried and prayed daily so try God he have not fell you yet.

Answer 8

To stop the pain you should first stop cutting yourself. That causes an even greater pain. Find something to do in your spare time to occupy your mind. Call or talk to a close friend or your parents.

Answer 9

cutting is avoiding confruntation with the pain. the more you put off the pain the longer you will be in pain. you have to deal with it. what ever you feel, just face it. cry if you need to, we all do at some point. just try to move on and ask help from parents or friends. cutting solves nothing

Answer 10

only the people who can relate to what uve done can give u a good answer, im not sayin my answer will be good but im sayin
ive cut myself many timess..its bad..real bad..but we cant control it..sometimes the pain is too much to handle

im sorry u broke up wit him, i hope u guys maintin a friendship or its just a simple break

but if not, u cant hurt urself, cuttin urself and stopin means, that u realize u can be happier, cuttin urself is so miserable, its real painful, just try to get over the bad times, lifes too short to live it full of upset dayss, honestlyy