Family & Relationships - 15 December 2007

Married, 10 years, two kids, 5 and 7. Reconnected with and old boyfriend from 1988, he is married with a clan of his own. He has told me that his no longer happy in his marriage and has know that for a while, before we reconnected. We have both decided that we do still have deep feelings for each other. He lives about 10 hours away. I don't know what to do. I love my husband but I am not sure if I am "in love with him". He is a great guy, nothing wrong with him. This just sucks and has brought on depression. Please help, any advice would be great. I have no one to trust to talk to about this.

2007-12-15 18:30:26 · 17 answers · asked by Conflicted 1 in Marriage & Divorce

If so come on and hit me up on my messenger! I'll chat with ya about whatever!

Peace,
Hunter

2007-12-15 18:30:11 · 3 answers · asked by ? 1 in Friends

im a christian and i want to know what his parents wants for him..i love him..but he broke up with me and tell me he don't love me coz he wants someone like him..what i should do to show him my love

2007-12-15 18:26:11 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ok, well a short bit so for those who don't know the whole story here goes. SHORT STORY:
My son never really forgave me for leaving their dad, finally after many trips to rehab etc. Was told he has bipolar.
He got married... I was not allowed to partake.
Had a baby boy... I was only allowed to see baby only by appointment.
I learnt to live with these things, he was married for less than a yr then had 2 affairs, made one pregnant. Tried to commit suicide. I found out six months later. Now last week he had a breakdown..relapse and I was called in. I simply went and took him to the dr got his meds sorted out. Now he is back on track and tells me to back off.. omg, how do I cope with this child/man he is 24 btw. I am ok with the fact he want to be alone with his new family, but this constant using me...
Thanks for reading.

2007-12-15 18:24:32 · 20 answers · asked by unity 3 in Marriage & Divorce

my bf asked me to nd it sounds hot but i dont know..

2007-12-15 18:17:00 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Well, some of them are dead already, one of them in particular at 21.

But one of my best friends of 3 years basically disappeared this year and another one I haven't seen in over 3 years since he got kicked out of college. WHere are they now?

And where are your old friends now? What is it like for older people to look back and scratch their heads trying to figure out where their old friends are?

2007-12-15 18:13:23 · 5 answers · asked by MLeinart7 2 in Friends

I am 28 weeks pregnant and a mother to a 3 year old. On my 4th wedding anniversary my husband bought me flowers and expressed how happy and how much he loved me. He took out to eat and after dinner he dumped me. He told me he was unhappy and he was unsure if he loved me. I am a full time employee working from 230pm to 1030pm, he expected me to be wonder woman. WHY DID HE LEAVE ME? Now am staying at my moms with our son and our unborn child.

2007-12-15 18:11:36 · 8 answers · asked by Smile, ur still breathing! 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Well I am in a loving relationship. We have a son together, I have an older son, he has 2 girls. How do we combine these families together? I try very hard to be loving with his girls, but if I'm not a hard-butt, they don't respect me. He wants to be a hardbutt with my eldest son that tends to act spoiled (gets mouthy, unappreciative of what we do) while his real father is exempt from his life. His eldest daughter wants to live with us and I'm excited, but she's been (lieing?) to her mom a lot. With her just turning into a teen and my 5 yo that adores her and a 1 yo, what do I do? Did I mention he has a 5 yo too? I don't want to be thier mom, but I do want to be respected without being mean or yelling all the time (to all of them!). How can we set boundaries and show love at the same time and try to agree on parenting while we both work full time and have limited hours with them anyway??!!

2007-12-15 18:04:15 · 5 answers · asked by Lacey 1 in Family

2007-12-15 18:02:35 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Well this year is my first Christmas with my boyfriend and i dont know what to get him! i never really bought anything for a guy, cuz most of my closest friends are girls so i have no idea. My boyfriend wants me to suprise him too.
Well he's 14 and likes skateboarding and sneakers. Hes crazy and funny and likes rap and rock music. His style is skinny jeans and all different kind of sneakers [dunks, jordans, vans] type. Based on that, what should i get him?
oh and i don't want to spend alot, since i have other more people to buy gifts for.

2007-12-15 18:02:02 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

so one of my really close guy friend has been telling me lately that he loves me and he'll stare at me a lot. He also tells my close friends that he loves me, and he askes me if i love him back. i dont know if he really likes me, because he's kind of a man whore. Hes been with a lot of girls and tends to be interested in one for a while, then want to break up with her. so i'm not really sure what to do because i've started to like him...and i dont know if i should tell him or not, or even bother trying to go out with him..

2007-12-15 17:59:28 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

One of my friends claims she's a great Christian, but then on weekends goes off and gives guys handjobs and lately she's turned into a major bimbo and a half! She leads on a heap of boys and I'm sick of it she never use to be this way!

2007-12-15 17:59:23 · 9 answers · asked by Ta***h 2 in Friends

2007-12-15 17:59:03 · 14 answers · asked by ♥cup_cake♥ 2 in Weddings

Almost all of my friends are guys. They are the dorky (but awesome) ones that, once you get to know them, they are great people. A few of them REALLY like me, but I don't like them back, and I don't want to date someone that I don't have feelings for. I guess I am just waiting for Mr. Right even though he probably isn't out there. On the rare occassions that I DO like a guy, they seem to not like me back, probably because I can't be myself around them, like I can around my other friends. I feel so guilty when someone that I DONT like asks me out because I know how they feel. It takes so long to finally build up the courage to TRY to do something about your feelings, and then you get shot down, I feel so awful. What am I suppossed to do? HELP ME!!! Please.

2007-12-15 17:58:42 · 4 answers · asked by imawierdy 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-15 17:55:47 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

okkkk the last time i had a bday partyy w/ ppl was like when i was 1 now imma turn 13 and all the bdays b4 that were like only w/ family or eating out w/out friends now imma turn 13 and i wanna rent like a hall and get a dj but he said no and he always says y spend ur $$ entertaining ur friends while u could get anyting u want w/ ur $$ plzz help me and tell me what to do!?!?!?!??!?! :(

2007-12-15 17:55:20 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

We're been together as fiancé for 4 years and another 4 years as Husband and Wife we have 1 daughter. He got my virginity when I was 21 years old. He is the type of person un-modern when it comes to a girl.

2004 he went abroad to fulfill our dreams. As far as I can, I do my best as a good wife in all aspect. Even he’s in abroad, there’s a lots of temptations for me was came but I’ve not entertained it.

2007 he invited me here to be with him and to find job as well, finally i found out that he cheated me in his first and second year staying abroad. It hurt really hurts, still I can't believe that he did. The kind of girl that he f--k is what I've never been expected. The trust was gone. Before I trust him a lot and I really respected him more than other guys don't respect their moral but all of a sudden the trust is gone. My work is affected even my physical, mental etc.

And now, he asking for a 1 more chance, and he said he will not repeat it. I’m afraid now to give him a 1 more chance, co’z I’m not trusting him anymore and if he do that again I really sure and promise to my self that I’ll never give him second chance anymore… Broken family if broken family that he’s chosen.

Now,,, the pain is killing me softy… and I don’t have peace of mine, all I can see is what he did to that girl while making love… and they did at the same room that we’re staying right now! What I will do now, give him a chance? I will shift to another apartment to have space? or quit with him back to my own country to be with our daughter.?

Additional info; 3 days passed he admit that

The sex group was happened, my husband co-worker also, roommate and friend name Frank invited him to go out for a bar and Frank invited also his 2 friend, and that husband first meet with this 2 girls. They had fun, they drunk… they went home with this 2 girls… around 3 a.m. the people of the other room is already slept, quite… and that group sex what happened but not exchanging partner one is to one…pair by pair.

After that my husband and that girls become friend, the girl is cooking for his food sometimes, bring DVD’s, bring food for him. My husband gave call credit card, he brought a blouse for her while walking in Mall.

In addition, Jan 2005 he went home for vacation for 1 month to be with us. After 1 month he goes back abroad again, he has 1-day rest before the next day going to work. That is weekdays so, everyone in the house was gone because of work. He’s alone the girl is called him and went to his room, and cheating was happened second time around…

I don’t know what I will do now? I really affected… but he did anything to get my trust back… I love him. But still afraid of what maybe happened next.?

And only animals can do that things even you are influence of alcohol. He’s not taking any drugs… But why he did that kind of sex?

The girl 3 times I’ve meet, but I’m still crying, hurt because I cannot hurt her physically because the Law here. Still I cannot accept what he did!

2007-12-15 17:54:45 · 22 answers · asked by cutie 1 in Marriage & Divorce

please help me.. i really need your help...

2007-12-15 17:54:19 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

When the topic of "cheating" pops up, it's like a witch hunt! If the lot of you could, you'd be castrating men for cheating. Doesn't sound like love to me.

I would forgive my wife for cheating, and I would hope the same compassion and empathy from her.

Marriage is complicated, people make wrong turns, and we learn to forgive and love on.

What's with all you ladies who are ready to throw away everything you have built just because a mistake, or a distraction?

2007-12-15 17:51:42 · 14 answers · asked by stupidity_of_pride 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I am not butt ugly, and I have lost alot of weight, I'm still young (21) I'm financially stable (on my own accord not my parents) i have a good degree and working on more, I have a great since of humor and a personality to match (I'm a party planner what better personality is there) and I own a car and a house. WHAT AM I DOING WRONG!!

2007-12-15 17:51:03 · 30 answers · asked by Robert H 1 in Singles & Dating

His teeth are discolored and not aligned properly. The thought of kissing him is...ouch,,,I can't do it.

2007-12-15 17:49:06 · 30 answers · asked by doeel 2 in Singles & Dating

25 weeks pregnant with complications. Partner (not husband - plans to get married in January 09) will not give up his single lifestyle. Out AGAIN tonight with his friends, at least 8 hours. These two friends have no respect for me and are complete jerks (make up lies to try and separate us, alcoholics, make a point not to invite me out, etc.) It hurts so bad that he won't stand up for me and chooses them over me. He just popped in a half hour ago to let me know that he was now done golf and going to the pub but was out cuz the boys were with him... I told him not to bother coming back and don't say I love you because it hold no merit when he treats me this way. He left me a note on the bed saying "I love you beautiful, I will sleep in the spare room." I wrote him a letter and taped it to the door, letting him know that he was not welcome here tonight and that he better make some choices fast. On the inside, I went on to explain the stress and hurt he causes and how I won't have

2007-12-15 17:48:15 · 9 answers · asked by Betty 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I bought an appartment during the civil war for $150,000. At that time, people were selling their property for dirt cheap. The war ended in 1993, and the economy has been increasing since then. A boom in the economy happened in 2003 where someone offered me $750,000 for the appartment, and if i pushed it, i probably could have gotten $780,000. The boom (obviously) wore down with time, and so did the prices. I sold the appartment in 2005 for $500,000.
The reason I did not sell the appartment is because my wife wanted us to move back to our country, and live in that appartment... so i fixed it up so we can live there, and then things changed, and we didnt move. So not only did I fix up the appartment for $20,000, we never moved, and thanks to me listening to my wife, I made one of the worst business decisions in my life.
Do you agree with me?

2007-12-15 17:44:23 · 2 answers · asked by something crazy 4 in Family

i'm 15 (16 in april) and my boyfriend is 18 (as of november), so there's almost a 2.5 year difference. things are great,
but i've been warned about statutory rape

i live in Massachusetts- what's the law(s) exactly? i looked it up and got "criminal inducement to get a person under 18 of chaste life to have unlawful sexual intercourse"- what the hell's that mean? is this something i should actually be worried about? more for his sake than mine. i've heard that charges can be pressed for anything sexual, not just intercourse ... fill me in please? advice, facts, whatever you've got.

2007-12-15 17:39:32 · 16 answers · asked by anialasmith10 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

she moved out at 18 and relished in her freedom. she's 19 now and has moved back home. her brothers (same dad) have gotten close with her. they didn't have a relationship with her at all growing up. they are avid pot smokers and drinkers. dad's a heavy user (in prison right now), grandma, aunts uncle etc. it's a family affair. her brother just called (10:pm) and woke her to go out and party. there's a street race and seedy folks hang out, show off their cars get high and race. illegally, of course. i do not approve at all. she is 19 and i feel dumb forbidding her. she will probably just leave again and i wouldn't have to know about it. i feel stupid watching her and waiting for "the call". she often stays out all night and calls if she wont be coming home. she's so happy to finally have her brothers. i'm sure she's using and i can't blame them totally. and this is only the stuff i know about. i can't imagine what she's not telling me. any advice?

2007-12-15 17:19:40 · 9 answers · asked by slkrchck 6 in Family

Just feels like there is no one out there for me...I'm really all alone...what is the point?

I was really in love and it hurts...he just broke up with me and I miss him terribly. I don't want to be with anyone...I feel too sad...I'm crying all of the time.

My heart is really aching. What is the point of trying? What if I can't find anyone to love me?

2007-12-15 17:18:09 · 4 answers · asked by quirkyfunnyone 1 in Singles & Dating

My girlfriend of 2 years and I broke up 3 months ago, mainly to get space, but knowing we would get back together. A week after this she wanted to get back, and i did too, but i said we should take some more time to fix what we needed to. she was upset and said she wanted me back. 2 days later she went to see her ex , and after this, she didn't want to get back, saying she needed to be single. over the course of the next month i begged for her back, sent her flowers, did everything i could. she was different, told me she didn't love me and to move on. we were at the same party one night, and i decided to try to move on, so i talked to other girls. one girl was on my arm flirting, and my ex flipped out, screaming at me and calling me an asshole. later she came to my apartment to see if i was sleeping with her (which i wasn't). after this she wanted to hang out again and so we did. the next 2 weeks went well until she told me she had slept with her ex 2 weeks before.

2007-12-15 17:17:53 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i work with this guy that i really like. I'm with him pretty much every day, and often spend my entire day working closely with him. we talk and joke. he's really cool, and he seems to prefer MY company to that of our other coworkers. he has contacted me outside of work via online social network, and once asked if i'd like to get a bite to eat after work. though he has a ginuine interest in me, im sure its only as a FRIEND and not a potential GF. How can i make him take a second look?
also
he doesnt have a GF.

2007-12-15 17:15:38 · 3 answers · asked by Poppy 2 in Singles & Dating

I am just feeling too sad and I have no one to talk to because it's late at night.

I just got dumped. This always hurts, but it hurts more because I am always dumped for the same reason. Because I am not confident.

No matter how much people tell me to believe in myself, that I am pretty, smart, attractive, etc etc, I just don't FEEL confident. And my being insecure with myself always makes other reject me.

I was crazy about my boyfriend...just crazy about him. And he liked me too until I think he decided I wasn't quite right for him...and surprise surprise...he says, "You care too much about other people and should think more about yourself and about making yourself happy." I've heard that one before.

The thing is, being with him made me happy. It's being rejected that hurts. It's hard to feel confident when people don't seem to accept you as you are, flaws and all.

I've been posting a lot tonight b/c I am upset. Thanks for listening...

2007-12-15 17:15:26 · 14 answers · asked by quirkyfunnyone 1 in Singles & Dating

what do u call a person named .. SULTAN ?? for short ??

2007-12-15 17:15:09 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating