please help me.. i really need your help...
2007-12-15 17:54:19 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Try talking with her when she's approachable. That means not when she's drunk, or distracted, or in a bad mood. Pick a time when she's relaxed. Then just be honest with her and tell her that you're really concerned about her. Perhaps if you have another adult that you trust (aunt, uncle, friends mom) they can give you some support too. I hope things go well for you, but don't be surprised if her first reaction is to be defensive, and possibly even a little angry. But what you're saying should sink in. Good Luck and many hugs to you.
2007-12-15 18:11:17 · answer #1 · answered by MoonGoddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has to come to the realization that she has a problem and until she does, she won't listen to anyone. Alcoholics Anonymous does support family members as well as the person drinking. They can do intervention if need be. Does she drink to the point of not taking care of the house, meals, herself and you? Does she binge drink or drink every night? I have a family member that's an alcoholic and he stll doesn't admit it, but he is seeking couseling after we spoke. Mostly because he realized he suffered from depression and because another family member had gone to get help for depression. It made him realize if they could, he could as well.
Sometimes you can talk until you're blue in the face, they have to take the first step. That step could be talking to a doctor or a counselor, but you could certainly bring it up gently when she isn't boozed up and is in a good mood. Tell her your concerns and try to tell her how it makes you feel. Don't point out her faults, that makes a person defensive. Nobody can argue with YOUR feelings, just remind them they ARE your feelings and perceptions and that they concern you.
I would definitely contact al-anon first, they will help you with what to say and how to say it. Good luck!!
2007-12-15 18:33:36 · answer #2 · answered by butterfly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be difficult to do so as most people who drink too much do not think they have a problem.
You don't say how old you are but there is help for families that have a person who needs help with drinking through AA. There are support groups and information for kids, teens and adults. They have counselors who can guide you in not only helping your mom but to cope with your feelings too.
2007-12-15 18:11:40 · answer #3 · answered by elklady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can contact Alanon (spelling?) number will be in phone book. It's a division of Alcoholics Anonymous - created for the family members of drinkers. Just because you are calling doesn't mean you think your mom is an alcoholic - but they have tons of info about how to address situations and signs and symptoms to look for. It really is worth the time to call. And everything is private also.
2007-12-15 18:06:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have good communication with your mom tell her that you need to speak with her about something very important. Tell her that you love her and that you have worries or concerns about how much she drinks. Let her know that you want her to be healthy and happy.
2007-12-15 18:05:36 · answer #5 · answered by Laurie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be forceful when you tell her, be in your mst serious mood too, make her understand it's toooo much and then tell what you want fro m her as a parent
2007-12-15 18:25:53 · answer #6 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, the first person you could help is YOU.... please try ALATEEN website for the best help and advice you will find... the link is listed first, below.
I am going to look for some websites for you, for good support and advice... please take care. i know what it's like to live with alcoholism.
hugs.
2007-12-15 18:37:15 · answer #7 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋