whats the best advice to give to newly weds?

Answer 1

The best advice I would give is how important it is to talk about the BIG things NOW....not later. So many couples are young, fall in love, and think that's just it....that love is enough. Love is not enough....it is in MOVIES but not in real life. It takes compromise, understanding, communication, and very hard work. Sometimes a marriage is held together by just the DECISION to love your spouse that day. Loving him or her may not always come so easy as it does when you're engaged so loving them must be a conscious effort every day you're married.

When I say "talk about the big stuff," I mean it's important for couples to sit down & talk about finances, kids, religion, their families, how they'd handle certain situations, career perspectives, etc. Many times couples ASSUME they are on the same page and then find out later they weren't at all. This can be as simple as the woman thinking she will have some semblance of financial independence then marrying and he thinks he's going to be in charge of all of the accounts. I know it sounds simple but you need to TALK about such silly details like: will we have a joint account? who's going to pay the bills? how important is taking our kids to church to you? how are you going to handle the situation when or if your parents start butting into our r'ship or how we raise our kids? do you see yourself as the disciplinarian when it comes to the kids? will you back me up or will I have to always be the bad guy? do you expect a spotless home?

These may seem like stupid questions to discuss right now but believe me, it will save you. Also, I'd advise every engaged couple seek pre-marital counseling because it brings up all of those important issues to discuss.

Answer 2

Always keep the lines of communication open, even if you have to shut up and listen sometimes. Always kiss hello and good bye or goodnight. Smile at each other, even when you don't feel like it. If your spouse is having a bad day, stop for a sec and rub their shoulders...really, it's the little things that keep the fires burning.

Answer 3

unconditional love. Everything can work be worked out....except abuse. Take care of each other everyday...not just when you in your in the "honeymoon" period. Always honor your vows. Put one another first over in-laws! Communicate effectively! If you ever have problems, seek help! Allow growth and change... but change together!

Answer 4

The first year of your lives will be the roughest. As long as you keep that in mind and work together through all your triumphs in your first year, you will have many glorious years together ahead of you. comunication is the key to every thing, and honesty even if it hurts.

Answer 5

Many people say don't ever go to bed with your anger... always resolve any issues before it.

(I think the most important thing is before the wedding, through counseling and being equally yoked spiritually)

Get a copy of your vows and visit them on special occasions... divorce is not an option!

Answer 6

Our minister gave us this advice, and it has worked so much for us.

When you have a disagreement, and you will disagree, do not bring it up again. Forgive and forget, and get on with your lives. So many people bring bad things up again, and this is not good for marriages.

Answer 7

You're in the start of something new. You chose your spouse with a lot of love. Don't rush things but don't be apart all the time. Congrats! May death do you part.
God Bless.

Answer 8

Remember that vows are vows...and to take them seriously.

And to always keep the lines of communication open... when communication fails..so does everything else.

Answer 9

don't go to bed mad! pick your fights don't fight over every little thing. And pretend divorce isn't an option

Answer 10

remember to laugh....and have respect...and you will celebrate a 75th anniversary.......best to you!