Family & Relationships - 15 December 2007

im living at home with my parents and my brother (for college reasons), and my fiance often comes over. he does not get along with my brother for a few reasons, and always has something negative to say about him, and i really get tired of hearing about it, ya know, cuz he's my brother. he knows that too, but im the only one he can vent to.

my parents love my fiance, except that he has this really cocky side. i notice it too. i really want him to realize that he is too cocky sometimes and he needs to watch it (especially since he's becoming a police officer). but i dont know how to tell him without him getting mad and we get into a fight. i just have a feeling that if he doesn't watch how he is around my parents or whoever then something bad will happen and the relationship will end. i can't explain that 2 him because he'll just make up an excuse and he'll turn the tables & make me sound like im wrong. he's very stubborn, but i love this man very much. HELP! WHAT SHOULD I SAY OR DO?

2007-12-15 17:03:58 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-12-15 17:01:02 · 10 answers · asked by nomorecapri 5 in Friends

If two girls like you and u dont want to hurt thier feelings wat would u do cause im in a jam!!!

2007-12-15 16:55:14 · 24 answers · asked by love note 1 in Singles & Dating

I'm using a friend's acc, and I'm a sister.
So I'm the older kid. My little brother is a complete asshole. I get the 4.0s. He gets the 2.0s. I can't relate with my parents. They're always telling me I don't have a ******* future if I don't get 4.0s like all asian parents. They absolutely adore him cuz he's a motherfuckin guy. I'm a rower, tall, etc. so nobody really messes with me. He's always getting beat up at school and nobody likes him. Know why? Everybody says he's an asshole. I don't get why the hell my parents even like him. They always get him what he wants. The **** is wrong with this picture?

2007-12-15 16:54:02 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I want to get him something special. He's expecting a present, and I'm known for giving good gifts. His 21st birthday is in less than two weeks. I want to give him something that doesn't involve alcohol or nudity. It has to be inexpensive but extremely thoughtful.

2007-12-15 16:53:55 · 5 answers · asked by kmks_030787 1 in Friends

my mother in law has 2 boys including my husband and adopted my sister law when she was a baby she was adopted ....for some reason i feel like shes either jealous of me or just plain hates me or both the thing is she said something very insulting and rude which i told my husband and he spoke to his mom about it and my mother in law said she would talk to her this is not the first time but this time i put my foot down my mother in law loves her like if she was really hers and defends her like if shes so innocent . now christmas is coming soon and i am sure my mother in law is going to say something like very hypocrite about it or mention something about it like trying to hurt my feelings and i know my husband is gonna be like she (my mother in law ) didnt mean it like that...someone plz help ..what do i do what do i say

2007-12-15 16:52:44 · 6 answers · asked by Georgina 1 in Family

Like i think this guy is into me, but whenever i'm waiting around and i have something in my hand that i'm studying, he'll just grab it out of my hand and look at if for a bit, then hand it back without saying a word. i think he likes me, but i'm not sure, like i always catch him staring at me, and we used to be friends but now its he's acting like we dont even know each other :(

2007-12-15 16:45:46 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Does this really gross women out. Im a good looking guy with a muscular build and big chest. I want to know if my girlfriends in the past were lying when they said they didn't mind or even liked my hairy chest? It seems nowadays hair on a man is gross.

2007-12-15 16:43:18 · 12 answers · asked by fastfreedombailbonds 4 in Singles & Dating

My hubby is a good man for the most part. But yesterday we got in a fight and he slammed his fist through our office door at home. He punched the door several times, causing himself to get cuts. My hubby's father was physically abusive.My hubby has never hit me but I am afraid that one day he may. Just because his father was an abuser does that mean my husband will turn abusive? Where do I go from here?

2007-12-15 16:43:01 · 17 answers · asked by Bride2Be 4 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-15 16:40:05 · 34 answers · asked by LlamaLlama Rama 1 in Family

i like this really cute guy but he barely notices me and its so frustrating. that i know of hes only looked at me once( he was walking by and as usual i looked at him and he looked straight at me but then i pretended not to really care and i kept walking) i really like him but turns out his friend USED to like me and he saw me looking at him and now hes doing whatever he can to not let him like me!!!
what should i do
1)kick his friends *** and make him shut up
2)ask the guy i like out even though i doubt he knows me
3)try flirting with him
4)go back to usual: staring at him all the time
5)just ignore both guys comepletly

2007-12-15 16:39:56 · 31 answers · asked by Jenny 2 in Friends

I want to kiss a guy before school ends this year. I kinda want it to be the guy in my science class i like. Idk. We arent going out or anything. And I'm sure he doesnt like me. But i really want to go out with him. I like him so much. But hes popular. And Im not.

2007-12-15 16:38:05 · 7 answers · asked by Lottie Lou 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-15 16:37:44 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Okay i have a very hard time, and i mean very hard, creating trust bonds with other people. Only three people have ever gotten me to trust them, and they weren't my family. They were and are my best friends. But even with those bonds, i still have problems telling them a lot of things. And with every one else including my family, i can't trust automatically. I can't. I still don't trust my mother who iwas alone with for eight years. And i'm thirteen. You can imagine this doesn't help in the friend making department. I'm not complaining about that though, i like having only a few things. But i really want to trust someone and i'm finding it's impossible for me. WHY?????????!!!!!!!Help please!

2007-12-15 16:36:54 · 2 answers · asked by Egyptian Dragon 2 in Friends

what makes you feel wanted and that she is relly into you

2007-12-15 16:35:34 · 2 answers · asked by Fruitful1 3 in Singles & Dating

I hang out with this one group of people. One of them used to be my friend, but I don't really like him anymore for various reasons. Another friend keeps on trying to make us be friends again, when I don't want to. I usually ignore the other person and act like he's not there, but I don't talk crap about him like he's not there, I just act like he's invisible. I make it very obvious to the friend that tries to get us back together that I have no interest at all in hanging out with the other guy. He keeps insisting that he's not trying to force me, because it's a jerk thing to do, but it's exactly what he's doing. I tried to just tell him that I guess he was right, that I sort of was being a jerk, but that the other guy got what was coming to him, and I even conceded that I may have been overreacting, but only a little. But he responded by saying, no, I was definitely overreacting and it was getting annoying. So, the million-dollar question is, was I overreacting?

2007-12-15 16:35:15 · 4 answers · asked by dude_in_disguise2004 4 in Friends

I have some friends already but this guy I know is friends with EVERYBODY! Does anybody know how to get that many friends? Also can somebody tell me how to be a true friend?

2007-12-15 16:33:21 · 5 answers · asked by J Dub 2 in Friends

he is sooooooooooooo gay!!!! he lies and he expects me not to tell on him when he ALWAYS tells on me!!! but i dont cause i'm to mature! like i was gonna go see "i am legend" with my friends and he was like "NO! dad dont let her go see that!" just cause he wanted to!! and im 14 and its rated PG-13!! like i heard it was scary and all but i had to go see "golden compass" for the 2nd time!!!! ARRRRGGGG!!!! I HATE HIM!! what can i do??? im soooo stumped!! plz help me!!!!

2007-12-15 16:30:45 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I see men looking at me and when I smile and make eye contact they look away like a kid caught in a cookie jar. I rarely get asked out and it is usually guys that meet me through friends, I am just wondering why not the guy that stares for five minutes till he catches my eye. I dress sexy but not revealing so it's not like there getting a show or anything. If half the men that looked would say hello I would have more then girls night out and less drunk guys hitting on me and actually have real dates. I know my othere ladies out there know what I am saying. C'mon Men if you like what you see why not say introduce yourselves?

2007-12-15 16:29:11 · 7 answers · asked by Shannah 1 in Singles & Dating

everything(car,snowboard, anything i like to do)
should i just go to church?
or live without anything

2007-12-15 16:28:30 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

my bf's bro blocked me from aim and removed me from facebook. I haven't talked to him in forever...except recently i imed him bcuz my bf wanted me 2 tell him his secret santa... he said he was trading w/his dad cause his moms a biyatch..i said dont say that bout ur mom..& he got mad.i talked 2 him (my bf's bro) &he said he doesn't dislike me..he just doesn't like the things i say sometimes & that im 2 much sumtimes...& he thinks we shouldnt talk anyway cuz he doesnt think my bf would like it..i said why? &he said he didnt know but he didnt think hed like it...im confused..he says he has no problem with me but he has me blocked?ive been so nice to him its not fair!(no he doesn't like me cause i hooked him up w. a friend of mine in the past!)whats going on? btw we used to get along. saw him 3 wk ago & he was nice. im 22 my bf 23 and he's 25. p.s. please don't tell me 2 talk 2 him...i already did. as u can c. plus those who tell me not 2 care I do care cuz im gonna marry my bf

2007-12-15 16:28:06 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

i am a single mother. i very badly want to get married again but i have been having torouble finding a guy with all his screws in place. lots of folks have set me up, they have all had MAJOR issues (like mental illness, temper problems, wild streaks) not the kinds of guys i want raising my daughter with me.
so here's the deal. i have been asked out by a seemigly sweet guy who happens to use a wheelchair due to a spinal chord injury.I said yes. he has an equipped vehichle and drives, he's in colleg getting his degree in accounting, he seems to have a good head on his shoulders. everyone i asked said he is a genius and a generally happy optmistic person.....

but everyone wh has found out that i will be going on a date with him is making a big stinking deal out of it. since they know i am dating for marriage, they tell me about all, the things i would have to put up with as a wife, and i'm selling myself short. Am I? is it weird that the chair doesn't bother me?

2007-12-15 16:27:38 · 5 answers · asked by tweedledee 3 in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend has been married once and has 5 children. I have never been married nor do I have children. I want those things in my life but he doenst want to re-marry or more children.

Should I sacrifice having children and marriage because i love him?

2007-12-15 16:26:01 · 47 answers · asked by Chrissy 1 in Marriage & Divorce

my mother a few weeks ago was diagnosed with osteoporosis cancer, which is a very late in development and she was given a couple of weeks to live. the doctors told me that she can survive at the most a few weeks if i put her on a machine that pumps her blood for her but it will be very painful for her while she is awake and she wont even be able to move or talk. he also said that i could just pull the plug on her and let her go peacefully even though i would technically be killing her. i don't want to kill my mom and i don't want her to die slowly and painfully but her husband is dead and i have to make the choice soon. what should i do, I know I shouldn’t make my mom die slowly and painfully but I can’t let her go.

2007-12-15 16:24:04 · 13 answers · asked by ▫□ █ ▄ ▀Square▀ ▄ █ □▫ 6 in Family

I really had developed feelings for him. It was the kind of thing where I just treasured every single thing about him and felt so happy when I was with him.

I am just not a confident person. (My childhood made it hard for me to be confident in myself). I have made progress, but I am a people pleaser. Not a lot of people are attracted to that.

It hurts because I want to be with someone who will value me as I am. I feel so sad. It seems like nothing ever changes. I got my hopes up with this relationship and now I feel so let down. This guy gave me a lot of positive signals and now I feel stupid for believing them.

Maybe I just haven't met "the right person" yet, but why is it that I would feel so strongly about him if it was "wrong"?

2007-12-15 16:23:30 · 2 answers · asked by quirkyfunnyone 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-15 16:22:42 · 4 answers · asked by . 5 in Singles & Dating

There is this man that lives about 2 and a half hours from me. He's 30 and I am 25. He lives with his mom (so he says). We started talking on a free dating site in November. Then we started chatting on AIM and sometimes through texts. We used to talk on AIM more often that we do now. There are whole days that I do not hear from him. But I attempt to get in touch with him. He likes to play poker, bowling, and pool at night after work. He has some friend that's a girl that he goes fishing with on Sundays. I've sent him e-mails, he doesn't reply. I sent him a Christmas card to his house. He hasn't sent anything back to me yet. I am putting way more into this 'Relationship' than he is. He said that he wants to meet me after Christmas. I have doubts about that. What's this sound like to you? Could he be hiding things??!

2007-12-15 16:22:41 · 4 answers · asked by ? 6 in Other - Family & Relationships

naturally i'm po'd. Am I justified in feeling betrayed and cheated? What would be a good solution?

2007-12-15 16:20:37 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Well,I feel lkie I'm on a different planet with my family,i kinda never get along with my siblings or parents,it's so confusing and emotional what should i do?!

2007-12-15 16:18:42 · 5 answers · asked by Kayla L 2 in Family

I never expected that from HER.
Now,whenever i see her i'll KNOW she's pulling a fake smile and passing judgment.
How long--i ask myself?
How long has she been pulling this "nice" act.
I am realizing that i cant trust NO ONE.
not even those you love.
isnt it funny how those u love--hurt you the most?
well, in my situation,its the sad TRUTH!
but you know what?
i dont care anymore.
I JUST DONT CARE =[[[[[


sry if this isnt a question.

2007-12-15 16:18:05 · 11 answers · asked by [[♥]]Just Curious[[♥]] 2 in Family