I hang out with this one group of people. One of them used to be my friend, but I don't really like him anymore for various reasons. Another friend keeps on trying to make us be friends again, when I don't want to. I usually ignore the other person and act like he's not there, but I don't talk crap about him like he's not there, I just act like he's invisible. I make it very obvious to the friend that tries to get us back together that I have no interest at all in hanging out with the other guy. He keeps insisting that he's not trying to force me, because it's a jerk thing to do, but it's exactly what he's doing. I tried to just tell him that I guess he was right, that I sort of was being a jerk, but that the other guy got what was coming to him, and I even conceded that I may have been overreacting, but only a little. But he responded by saying, no, I was definitely overreacting and it was getting annoying. So, the million-dollar question is, was I overreacting?
2007-12-15 16:35:15 · 4 answers · asked by dude_in_disguise2004 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I just hate it the way the friend phrases 'overreacting' because it makes it seem like I'm some kind of whiny, attention-seeking loser, and that the other guy's the person who I should apologize to instead of the other way around.
2007-12-15 16:36:35 · update #1
I started to dislike the other guy when I realized he always tried to build himself up by putting me down whenever we hung out. (he'd make snide remarks about how I'm really short (even though I'm not that short) and he just ignores me and acts like everything I say is stupid). He also just does stupid, annoying stuff that he thinks is funny and he always copies anything funny or clever that anyone else says.
2007-12-15 16:39:37 · update #2
I admit I was a jerk to him, but I believed it was justified considering all the crap he has given me in the past. It just annoys me that my other friend talks like he understands it, saying how he sometimes hangs out w/ people he doesn't like, but what he doesn't seem to get is that he doesn't have to hang out w/ them all the time. When I ask him if he wants to hang out, he always asks the other guy to come.
2007-12-15 17:00:22 · update #3
No, definitely not..
Just tell Ur friends to quit putting u in the middle.. and that u are old enough to pick Ur own Friends.. like it or not..
tell them u want all the drama.. to STOP!!!
good luck,,, happy holidays
2007-12-15 17:20:35 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ Blondie ♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you need to hang out with someone who regularly puts you down. But acting like he is invisible is rude, and that only reflects on you. Instead, I suggest that you at least acknowledge his presence ("Hey", or "Hi") and leave it at that. If he starts putting you down again, look him in the eye and tell him that you don't like it. If he keeps doing it after that, you might tell him that only insecure people feel the need to put others down.
2007-12-16 04:02:52 · answer #2 · answered by John 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what he did in addition to how long ago it was. You don't have to hang out with the guy but you should at least be cordial and at least acknowledge that he is there because other wise you are just being rude. All you have to say is Hey man. You don't have to be friends with him though
2007-12-16 00:42:15 · answer #3 · answered by mrs.wage 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
umm............no i don;t think u over reacting.....
2007-12-16 00:43:16 · answer #4 · answered by abagtha_778 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋