naturally i'm po'd. Am I justified in feeling betrayed and cheated? What would be a good solution?
2007-12-15 16:20:37 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he had left his internet on and when I went on to log in his popped up. the home page gave a list of the last few emails, one of which was from the personals. so i investigated
2007-12-15 16:33:54 · update #1
This may also not be the first time he has done this. I have a feeling he is looking for a sidedish. This obviously is going to be a very stressful time for you but you have to decide if this is something you can accept as he might not change (and unfortunately too many woman do accept it) or decide that you are worth more than that and work hard with him to open up communication on this matter and more importantly to change it or end the relationship..and watch him wither and beg for you to stay to wash his dirty undies. He obviously feels very secure in the fact that you would not leave or are too feeble minded to find out. Do not make it easy for him and do not stand down. This is your life, is this really the way you want to live it?
2007-12-15 16:34:03 · answer #1 · answered by senubenu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is just not right its not like a job you dont just find a new girlfriend before you dump the old one im sure there is someone much better for you out there find him. Don't tie up all your time with this guy then look back 7 more years down the road and say what went wrong why didnt i get out sooner.
2007-12-15 16:28:42 · answer #2 · answered by bendozaa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE!! Do not even justify his actions with a po'd response of getting all upset or anything.. do WHATEVER you can to leave!! TRUST ME! I've been dealing with my dad that's been doing personal ad's cheating on my mom via the internet for more than 15 years now... !! It's HORRIBLE!! THANK GOD you're not married to him!! It's only going to get worse, believe me.. !! DO NOT TRUST HIM. whatever he tells you, if he apologizes, tells you he's stopped.. it's JUST BEGUN!
I've been lied to by my dad and been betrayed more times than I can tell you! You cannot imagine the pain and suffering I've been going through, especially when my mom chooses not to do anything, and continues to let him cheat.. and stays married to him. You're lucky you're not married, as I said, NOW GET OUTTA THERE!! And be lucky you're not dragging kids into this b.s.!
2007-12-15 16:28:41 · answer #3 · answered by Gina D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him see that door , don't let it hit you in the *** on the way out . If you can't trust him and you are not married you never will be. Dump him and find a real man who will love you the way you should be loved . You have a long life in front of you. Do you want to live a life with someone you have to share with everyone else. To live a life with someone who you can not trust will make your life suck. Find a new person ! Not what you wanted me to say right. You wanted me to tell you to take him back . You want me to tell you it will be OK. Well the truth is I can not. Best thing is to get rid of him.
2007-12-15 16:34:55 · answer #4 · answered by ldp999000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would answer his personal ad. In the response dump him and get away from him. He must not be to serious if he has a ad out. Leave him or kick him out he is not worth your trouble. You are definitely being cheated on and he is betraying you. Good Luck.
2007-12-15 16:26:20 · answer #5 · answered by Doodle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From a guy. Yes you should feel pissed off and cheated. Good solution: If he doesn't know you know...get someone to answer the ad and go from there. Catch him, confront him, set him up, use your imagination. Or answer it anonymously and after a while give your real name in the ad ( for revenge. Let him think you're doing the same thing.)
2007-12-15 16:28:08 · answer #6 · answered by livin with rats 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry... that is devastating.
What you do somewhat depends on the details, but I can't think of many good reasons that would lead me to believe that you should stay in this situation...
You're probably better off just giving him the boot...
The only thing worse than being in a bad relationship for 7 years is being in a bad relationship for 7 years and 1 day...
2007-12-15 16:25:58 · answer #7 · answered by sunshine 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
possibly you may address the excellent porn plethora. you're making it sound like he has lots and many porn and you be attentive to all approximately it. I advise each and every guy I definitely have dated has had porn or watched it yet no longer such an quantity I saved tabs on it or felt a could knew each and every thing they have been into. I additionally do no longer think of you'll be snooping in his issues, develop into it particularly new child pron as in a new child it quite is prepubescent. i be attentive to various 18 year previous females that appear like they're youthful than 18 (i'm 23 and persons think of i'm youthful than i'm) and that i consider possibly he downloaded something and it purely occurred to be in there and he's removing it yet sorting via it. yet I nevertheless think of possibly if he has plenty porn you may shop tabs on it, or in case you think of you may shop tabs on his porn it quite is an argument in its self. additionally possibly he likes you by fact of you, and probably he would not choose little ones by fact he's youthful and not at a place in his existence the place he thinks approximately little ones and marriage. You sound style of loopy.
2016-11-27 19:47:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO GO GO!!! If he has a person ad out, then I would wonder what he does with his spare time! I would also be VERY careful sleeping with him, no telling what he could bring home to you!!! I would be more that po'd!!!
2007-12-15 16:29:08 · answer #9 · answered by Trea (pron.tree) 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out!! If he is serious about the relationship with you, why would he be looking other places? I don't blame you at all for feeling upset and depressed. You could talk to him and ask some questions once you calm down, but this is deffinitely not a good sign of his seriousness.
2007-12-15 16:22:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋