I see men looking at me and when I smile and make eye contact they look away like a kid caught in a cookie jar. I rarely get asked out and it is usually guys that meet me through friends, I am just wondering why not the guy that stares for five minutes till he catches my eye. I dress sexy but not revealing so it's not like there getting a show or anything. If half the men that looked would say hello I would have more then girls night out and less drunk guys hitting on me and actually have real dates. I know my othere ladies out there know what I am saying. C'mon Men if you like what you see why not say introduce yourselves?
2007-12-15 16:29:11 · 7 answers · asked by Shannah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I used to wonder about the same thing. Most of my friends are guys and I really learned something through talking to them. A lot of women are extremely mean to incredible guys. I think sometimes when men approach women, the girls actually get a kick out of shutting them down and completely rejecting them. This makes a LOT more guys completely hesitant so it's much easier to have a successful eye flirting session from across that room than an approach only to be shut down. Why don't you wink or make a gesture to let them know you're a safe bet to approach. If not try something a little new....approach them. I bought a guy a drink once and he was blown away. We had a few good dates....nothing came of it, but it was fun. You might wanna go a little outside the box...it might be worth it!
Good luck finding a good one!
2007-12-15 16:35:24 · answer #1 · answered by cutelovegirlie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a combination of intimidation and approachability. Intimidated cause with a beautiful woman, we guys become tongue tied.. WHAT do I say? How do I come off? etc. In the back of MY mind at least, I'm aware that she's gonna attract attention of some smooth characters.. Half will be "She's either taken, or heard some good pickups... What can I say to top it?" the other half will be "why bother? She's way above MY league" Silly, sad perhaps, but it's what goes through our heads...
The approachability.... It's a complex one. How to send the message that you'd welcome an advance? We come across women ALL the time that love the attention, but have absolutely NO intention of letting it go anywhere. Kind of an "I know you want me, and love it! Eat yer heart out" It's a bitter fact of life for us guys... How to overcome that? I dunno, but if you're aware of it, it might help.
2007-12-15 16:46:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are probably very attractive and that intimidates many guys for fear of rejection and don't think someone like you would want them and others may have a girl already and wished they looked like you.like looking at a beautiful garden flower but its in the neighbors yard.drinks builds confidence.i remember needing a couple before getting the nerve to ask to dance.use to be very shy .
2007-12-15 16:40:44 · answer #3 · answered by Mac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cowardice. You probably intimidate men.
Edit: These are very confusing times. Women actually have more power than men when it comes to relationships. This would be mind boggling 50 years ago. Not all men have been able to make the transition.
2007-12-15 16:32:13 · answer #4 · answered by glass_commander 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, i'm honest enough to say i like to see in a woman's eye if i had the chance. May i get to know you?? My mail is nhtp34250@yahoo.com.
2007-12-15 16:34:10 · answer #5 · answered by SASA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do it all the time, i'm shy plus its a fear or rejection.
2007-12-15 16:32:48 · answer #6 · answered by jay K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
low self-esteem/confidence
2007-12-15 16:32:35 · answer #7 · answered by Self-Proclaimed Expert 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋