everything(car,snowboard, anything i like to do)
should i just go to church?
or live without anything
2007-12-15 16:28:30 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Since you are depending on Dad for car, snowboard, etc, then I assume you are a minor child living with parents. Fair or not, your parents have a lot of power over you until you are 18, and even longer if you are financially dependant on them.
My advice to seek some alternative to your usual church services and ask your dad if you can participate in that instead. Perhaps it could be a young person's worship service with more appealing music. Perhaps you could participate in one of the volunteer groups. But I don't think you are going to find some magic, instant way for Dad to accept you seperating yourself entirely from your church. If you go to the member of the clergy you trust most, this person may even have a talk with Dad for you and ask that he (Dad) accept your desire to worship with good works rather than with prayer and ritual.
It's not that long until you are an adult and until then a few hours a week of church activities and community service sounds like a bargain price for just a car -- the snowboard and all would be icing on the cake.
On the other hand you could be terribly sincere and serious about the principle here spend the rest of your "minor, living with parents" life totally engrossed in your studies and preparing for college, becoming a master juggler, perfecting your dancing, whatever you might do to pass the time if you were a solitary confinement political prisoner. It all depends on just what is behind your desire to stop going to church and how important it is to you.
2007-12-15 17:01:44 · answer #1 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you really told your parents why you don't want to go to church? If you are a teenager you have a right to voice what you feel and stay your ground within reason of course. Our family goes to church and once when my son of 13 voiced his opinion I didn't force him to go. I sure know how it feels when my parents made me go and I just hated it. When I was able to make my own choice of going it was definitely more enjoyable. How important are your materialistic things versus what you believe in?! Christmas is around the corner and you may ask that you all your stuff back or your wish is that they just understood you. Good luck.
2007-12-16 00:43:35 · answer #2 · answered by Izzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to church and speak to the priest/minister. Ask the priest/minister if he will talk to your father about a person's ability to decide for themselves if they should go to church or not. Once you are an "adult" - which it sounds you are b/c u drive - it should be your choice and your parents should not force religion on you anymore. Then again, you are living under their roof and some parents are pretty strict and will require you attend service until you move out.
It can't hurt to attend church :)
2007-12-16 00:36:18 · answer #3 · answered by Dina K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is the wrong way to go about things. The 2 of you need to sit down and talk. You don't want to really stop going to church. You don't to go to hell. Well your dad don't want you to aether. He wants to see you in heaven with him some day. So stop fighting and set down and talk over the things that are bothering you. Stop and hear each other. You will see things will work out.
2007-12-16 00:40:32 · answer #4 · answered by ldp999000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody should make you go to church, church isnt for everybody, like me, i rather fellowship with my friends instead of a big room full of people i dont even know.
2007-12-16 00:48:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Church is a positive thing. Go and get something out of it. God will help you in your worst time of need in the future.
2007-12-16 00:36:11 · answer #6 · answered by theartisttwin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If you still live in his house, can you live without those things? Sometimes I think dads give an ultimatum b/c they feel that's all they can do to back up a choice they hope you'll make.
2007-12-16 00:33:33 · answer #7 · answered by MissyJ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it depends upon whether having nothing or attending church will make you happier?
i suppose we have to live by our parents rules and abide by their lifestyle while living with them, if we want to retain our toys.
i think you will survive church... i did.
2007-12-16 00:37:25 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋