i am a single mother. i very badly want to get married again but i have been having torouble finding a guy with all his screws in place. lots of folks have set me up, they have all had MAJOR issues (like mental illness, temper problems, wild streaks) not the kinds of guys i want raising my daughter with me.
so here's the deal. i have been asked out by a seemigly sweet guy who happens to use a wheelchair due to a spinal chord injury.I said yes. he has an equipped vehichle and drives, he's in colleg getting his degree in accounting, he seems to have a good head on his shoulders. everyone i asked said he is a genius and a generally happy optmistic person.....
but everyone wh has found out that i will be going on a date with him is making a big stinking deal out of it. since they know i am dating for marriage, they tell me about all, the things i would have to put up with as a wife, and i'm selling myself short. Am I? is it weird that the chair doesn't bother me?
2007-12-15 16:27:38 · 5 answers · asked by tweedledee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi, befre anyone thinks i'm jumping the gun, i am not. when i say i date for marriage in means that when i date i date for the purposes of finding someone i can make a life with. i am not looking for a boyfirend of five years and then an engagement of two years. i am marriage minded and i am looking for someone who thinks similarly. this guy is also devorced, is in his early thirties and wants to have children. he seems like a reasonable candidate. doesn't mean we're eloping next week.
2007-12-15 16:35:33 · update #1
for the record i didn't ask theser people opinions. they volunteered.
2007-12-15 17:57:21 · update #2
The fact that the chair doesn't bother you is great- for one, it means you're not shallow.
However, I would recommend not thinking so far ahead; first, focus on finding someone you like. If you're looking for a husband RIGHT NOW, you're jumping the gun. Take your time, you're looking for the love of your life, you have forever to make a decision like that.
Lets say you wind up marrying this guy; if you really, truly love him, enough to spend the rest of your life with him, what should it matter if he's in a wheelchair and needs your help with certain things? Isn't part of the vow at the alter to take care of one another 'in sickness or in health'?
If you really like him, go for it!
2007-12-15 16:32:49 · answer #1 · answered by Nordika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong is asking other ppl's opinion about your situation. It is a wise thing to do. A scripture in the Bible says.... "In the multitude of counselors, there is wisdom." Might be in Proverbs; not sure. I believe the reason that you are exploring the matter is that you yourself may have some doubts.
2007-12-16 01:41:47 · answer #2 · answered by wildflower 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like the people who are talking to you are selling themselves short...if you really like this guy it shouldn't matter whether he is in a wheel chair, blind, or has no leg. All that matters is that you really like him. And no its not weird at all that you like him and its in a wheel chair. just stay with him as long as you like him and good luck
2007-12-16 00:34:28 · answer #3 · answered by Ceecee M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore them --- go out with him and see how well you get on --- if you care for each other then the chair will not be there ---- and everyone else can go jump in the lake --- best wishes
2007-12-16 00:31:54 · answer #4 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what i don't understand is why it is bothering you now (and it is, if it wasn't you wouldn't have asked the question) when it wasn't at first. you seem to be letting others influence your thoughts. big mistake!
2007-12-16 00:33:43 · answer #5 · answered by ltonyasfun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋