I need help with fiance/family problems...?

Question

im living at home with my parents and my brother (for college reasons), and my fiance often comes over. he does not get along with my brother for a few reasons, and always has something negative to say about him, and i really get tired of hearing about it, ya know, cuz he's my brother. he knows that too, but im the only one he can vent to.

my parents love my fiance, except that he has this really cocky side. i notice it too. i really want him to realize that he is too cocky sometimes and he needs to watch it (especially since he's becoming a police officer). but i dont know how to tell him without him getting mad and we get into a fight. i just have a feeling that if he doesn't watch how he is around my parents or whoever then something bad will happen and the relationship will end. i can't explain that 2 him because he'll just make up an excuse and he'll turn the tables & make me sound like im wrong. he's very stubborn, but i love this man very much. HELP! WHAT SHOULD I SAY OR DO?

Answer 1

Get out of it now. The longer you know this man, the more of that side you'll see of him. This is just the beginning. Thank your lucky stars that he is showing you some of it now. That ********* is a front for something else. He sounds like my ex-husband, very stubborn, cocky, and on a power-trip. BUT yours will carry a gun, and that will make a monster out of him if we have described him correctly.

Does he control you yet?

Amen, revsuzanne.

Sorry, Princess.

I am not kidding, one tiny bit. At least think about it. I am alive today because I got away finally. But not before losing so much...

Answer 2

just because we love someone does not make them 'right' for us.

if you are sick of his stubborn, ********* now, just imagine how much it's going to bug you in a few years....

and his comments about your brother? what right does he have to judge? RED FLAG.

"if he doesn't watch how he is around my parents then something bad will happen and the relationshp will end".... so you are saying that the life of your relationship depends upon your parents?

you seem confused about this guy.. really, he doesn't seem like the ideal mate. truth is, i wouldn't want to have kids with this guy... he doesn't even want to communicate! instead, he gets angry and makes excuses?

please!! read your question!!

Answer 3

Try showing him this. He may get mad but then give him a little space and see if he cools down. If he does then remind him that you love him and sit down and talk with him. If he is not able to be objective then 2 things. He will not make a good police officer and you need to rethink your involvement with him even if you love him very much.

Answer 4

I would strongly consider premarital counseling before going any further with that relationship.
Your fiance's *********, attempting to use his upcoming "authority", and always attempting to undermine you is not a good sign.
Actually, it sounds like he is more likely to attempt the abusive end of control once you two are married and you are living together.

Answer 5

you're able to circulate out in the present day, and circulate away your guy in the back of. people do not purely "lose" their condominium -- they get kicked out as a results of fact they did not pay the hire. detect a fellow with a first rate pastime, with self admire, with a plan for his destiny. You deserve lots extra effective than you're getting. Hit the line.

Answer 6

If you can't talk to him now as a fiance, imagine how difficult it will be if you get married. Think hard about this. Is that what you really want?

Answer 7

wake up sister..dont get with a dude like that...oh..you will and yrs for now we will be hearing it from u and be here for u to cry on are shoulders...I sound mean...that is an abusive dude who will soon be a cop...not a good combo..get out now.

Answer 8

tell him to lose the attitude or your gone.

Answer 9

marry this man..................

he sounds like a catch