Family & Relationships - 5 December 2007

A guy that I was once involved with came by this weekend about 2:30 am. He was suppose to come by the night before, but didn't and we were suppose to meet up earlier that night. But I didn't hear from him until a little after 2. Well basically we had only been talking for about a week. He had started telling me that he loved me and stuff so I said it back. He's never wanted to be in a commited relationship and I had reason to believe that he's been sleeping with other people. Two girls that I know of, but am not friends with. So he came over and started to kiss me. I told him not to but he did anyway. Well I guess he thought that I was going to return the "favor" but I didn't. He was noticeably disappointed but didn't say so. The next day I didn't hear from him. Until I contacted him he was somewhat brash, when I asked a couple of times if he no longer wanted to be friends he said I don't have to be his friend and hung up the phone. I called back and he didn't answer.

2007-12-05 05:51:40 · 10 answers · asked by Life is not a dress rehearsal! 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-05 05:50:10 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

I went out with friends after work and when they all left, I bumped into this guy. I don't know how I could be so foolish, but 30 min later I am in a hotel room with him.
When I didn't come home my husband called a couple of friends. When he found my car outside the restaurant he filed a missing persons report. The police then went looking for me and eventually found me in the hotel room the next morning. My husband and kids came to the hotel because they thought someone had kidnapped me. When he saw me he hugged me and was crying because he was so worried. When he found out what had really happened, he turned white, and then threw up.
It's been a week now. EVERYONE knows what happened. I am so ashamed of myself I don't even want to open my eyes. I can't look at anyone. My 19 year old son looked straight at me and called me a worthless wh or e. My husband has barely said anything to me.

2007-12-05 05:46:59 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I have a 2005 yellow Honda S-2000 that I love as it is. My BF always wants to add front lip and supercharger. We are not teenyboppers and I do not plan to race anyone, nor do I want him racing when he uses the car. We share two cars, both owned and fully paid for by me.

Is there an age limit for driving around in tuned-up car. Really we are 39 and 31 and I think it is a little silly.

I think he should be happy that he ended up with a woman who at least had a sporty car? I really do not having just paid off car note want someone messing around with the engine to make it super fast when it is plenty fast as it is??

I think this has to be my lowest priority in life and don't want to spend any money on this. I make triple his salary BTW...and we own a house that needs some renovations. So can not see earmarking any funds to "fix" the car.

2007-12-05 05:41:45 · 3 answers · asked by cathoratio 5 in Other - Family & Relationships

My older sister owes me a large sum of money. She has not made any attempt to pay it back. What should I do to get it from her. She must think I am made of money and I can afford to just let it go.......... but Im certainly not........

2007-12-05 05:39:49 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I'm gettin married and dont know anything!!!

2007-12-05 05:39:30 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

became friends with a single waitress from Hooters to the point where you stumbled across an email from hubby to waitress (platonic content, it was a link to an online quiz, quiz was sexual orientation that he sent to several other people).

She invited us both over to her house and we went and had a nice time. There was no flirting or any inappropriate behavior. Anything was probably imagined on my part.

But, now you know that they also have exchanged cell phone numbers, as that is how we got directions etc.

How would you handle this situation? To be paranoid and create possible turmoil for no reason? To let it go and possible miss some signs that should be paid attention to?
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2007-12-05 05:39:29 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Firstly i'll tell you that I'm a very shy person but quite good looking to be realistic and shes a very good looking woman.
I am in my late teens and this woman is in her mid-late twenties.
We don't talk but she always moves close to me and touches me. E.g. if I have my arm out she'd move her body towards it and lean on it.
I'm confused and want to know what's going on as she's married too.
Am I just a tool for her fun?
Does anyone have similar experiences?

2007-12-05 05:38:30 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

My brother in law is having a paternity test done. My husband and I are having the results e-mailed to us, so we will be the first to know. How do we tell him if it comes back that he is NOT the father? He is going to flip out.....

2007-12-05 05:37:59 · 18 answers · asked by dw 1 in Marriage & Divorce

my friend who is 28 has been in a happy marriage for 4 years but in the last 9 months she has been having an affair with this guy from her work. she now thinks she is pregnant with this guys baby. she has been asking me for advice on what to say to her husband as they have not had sex for 2-3 months. Help!

2007-12-05 05:36:50 · 33 answers · asked by Lucy B 1 in Marriage & Divorce

We decided Wednesdays and Saturdays are daddy days. However, my son's father doesnt drive, so I always do all the driving. The ex lives about 35 miles from my home, and I work not quite halfway between my place and his. . . about 12 miles from my house. My grandma lives about 2 miles from work.

Last night some coworkers and I went out for Happy hour, and I dropped my son off at my grandma's. After I pick up my son, I realize I had to go home and sleep on the couch because my mattress was outside drying out all day and I cannot lift a Cal King mattress alone. So I asked two male friends (very old friends whom I've known considerably longer than my son's father) who live right next to my grandma's if they wouldnt mind helping me out. They also dont drive, so I said I would take them to my place then drive them back.

So my ex gets PO'd that I would drive to have them handle my mattress situation, but not to go and pick him up so he could do it (alone?) and also get to see our son.

2007-12-05 05:35:54 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My husband is 52 and is spending a lot of time w/ a young woman from work (28 single and pretty). I found some pictures of them posing very affectionately on several outings including a harbor cruise, sightseeing on a supposed work related trip (seperate from colleagues) and an overnight trip to see a ballgame out of town. (3 hour drive each way with limo and driver) He has the money but does anyone think that he would book 3 rooms (his, hers, drivers) to go to a baseball game? I have learned that they also have dinner together frequently. I also learned that he spent $500 on a long cashmere coat for her, and sent her roses on Valentines day. We have 3 young children and I am wife #3. I am getting prepared to confront him and wanted to see what opinions others may have.

2007-12-05 05:34:43 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I don't want to be hurtful or mean when I do it, and yes I am very scared what he will do when I tell him so I want an easy way as well as nice way.

2007-12-05 05:34:07 · 6 answers · asked by Qtpie2773 1 in Marriage & Divorce

She is upset to tears if she hears about or sees someone get hurt. She wants to give her things to the poor kids (we give our old stuff to Desert Industries) and her money as well. If someone is feeling bad she is really moved to help, even if it's a kid who hasn't been kind to her previously. Is this normal? I know compassion is a positive trait, but at what point does it go too far? Is it because I take in and rehab abused animals? Or because I've had several serious illness in the past years? I hope nothing I'm doing is harming her psychologicaly.

2007-12-05 05:33:46 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I am not comfortable with myself but he likes thicker girls over thin girls. I just dont feel sexy. What should I do? Do any men have suggestions. Do you prefer thick girls to thin?

2007-12-05 05:33:19 · 33 answers · asked by Kayla S 2 in Singles & Dating

I have been watchin "Dont tell the bride" I just wondered how many women wud b brave ennuf 2 let their men plan their special day!!!

2007-12-05 05:33:10 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

I really get along with this girl in one of my classes, we joke around and everything. She has a boyfriend and I totally respect that, in fact, that's the reason why I am able to be so comfortable around her and not nervous at all. Since she has a boyfriend I know she will not "judge" me or "critique" me and assume that I am just trying to hit on her to impress or whatever. She doesn't think that I am just trying to get with her.

My question is, how can I use this particular situation to help me with other girls?

2007-12-05 05:31:21 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

you see i met this girl she was so pretty i liked her alot and i wanted to get to know her so i treid everything was going well she was smiling at me and she was asking me questions like which way do i go home she even said that i was cute and innocent she seemed like she liked me and she wernt any typical girl she was kind she had morals she didnt even talk to boys alot only one or two i didnt get it 1 day she came up to me and said ive been talking to u like for about 2 days and all these rumours have spread about me and you going out i think we should not talk in school wtf ......i mean she showed me the signs and then i dnt get it can u please tell me how to deal with this and the fact i was rejected

2007-12-05 05:31:15 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

For example,(boyz,7th grade math,homework,parents,how you have to move all the time, etc)

2007-12-05 05:30:29 · 12 answers · asked by cowgirl31 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

I don't think there is another pain greater then getting your dream and hopes broken. I still feel I am destin to be with him. He is been very clear he hates me and would never want to be with me. Everyone think I am happy and have moved on but I am about to lose my mind over this... because he is everything I want my future husband to be. He is sooo wounderful... but he hates me now. I don't know how to accept this feeling that is over done gone.

2007-12-05 05:30:18 · 7 answers · asked by unknown 1 in Singles & Dating

How do you prefer your womans "va-jay-jay"? Shaved, a little hair?? Landing strip or shape?? I really wanna know what guys like to see when a girl slips her panties off :)

2007-12-05 05:27:39 · 26 answers · asked by **In Love** 4 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-05 05:26:38 · 7 answers · asked by homie crispy 2 in Friends

2007-12-05 05:25:21 · 29 answers · asked by frustrated 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I still watch cartoons. I do watch other things but my friends and parents always make me feel weird about it.

2007-12-05 05:24:27 · 43 answers · asked by John 2 in Family

iwill be going to rehab after the new year and i am going to be in groups for people who are waiting to go to rehab. i need to get my mom a girlft what should i get her

2007-12-05 05:23:06 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-05 05:21:49 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

There is this couple that is friends with my fiance and I, they have been our friends for about 6 years now. The girlfriend kind of 'invited' herself to be my maid of honor as soon as she found out he purposed to me, I couldn't say no since she was so excited. So 8 months along the line, I haven't really talked about wedding plans, and I finally start now. I find a $180 bridesmaid dress that I love and would like my bridesmaid to wear. I show it to her and she starts complaining how expensive it is. I am annoyed because 1: She first of all, volunteered to be maid of honor. I never officially asked her. 2: She is ALWAYS broke, she never has any money! Whenever we go out, I am a always paying for food, shopping, etc. Okay, like 95% of the time. I would think she would be a little more generous since I've always helped her.

My question is: Should bridesmaids pay for their own dress? Make-up? Hair? Accessories? Or is it the bride's responsibility? I already have enough financial stress with the rest of the wedding expenses!

So, should I help her pay for a portion of the dress, or should I just make her pay for her own dress?

Should I just get a new maid of honor, although she will probably never be my friend again?

2007-12-05 05:18:53 · 29 answers · asked by Sandy 4 in Weddings

theres this guy that i was involved with for the past 3 years on and off...i care about him alot hes told me that he loved me and cares about me soo much yet he wont commit? im 19 he just turned 20. Im a very attractive girl, in college premed major i have a lot going for me and my friends say he might be intimidated by that? idk, well during the summer he calls and tells me he met a girl and he thinks hes in love..she was one of his friends gf's which is disloyal and shes 16!! within a week he calls me says he thinks he made a mistake and hes goin to break up w/ her, he tells me he did talks so much junk about her and tells me he wants to make it work with me and that he doesnt have any feelings for her....so 2 weeks ago i find out that they are still together?..why would he lie?..and why would he tell me everything i wouldnt have known anything, he told me she had so many pics of him on facebook up and he wanted her to take it down and tells me how i can find her on fb?? im so hurt

2007-12-05 05:18:00 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I just got a wedding invite in the mail from a friend of mine. It has all the info about the wedding (location, date, all that), but there is no info about RSVP'ing. Ive never been invited invited to a wedding on my own, so I dont know how m supposed to let him know Im coming, or even if I am supposed to RSVP, or what. Any advice?

2007-12-05 05:16:03 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

im not trying to get too personal here. but she was my mom. but she was mean to me a while. i still love her tho and i wish she was here no matter wat. veryy sad and i dont like to talk bout it so im just gonna ask one question. for her funeral i want something nice and meaningful to do at the funeral. i chose everything for her. prayer cards, cremation, everything you can think of. At the funeral tho i want to enlarge a huge pic of her and me and my bro's and then im ordering some balloons to release meaning she's free. do you have any more ideas for me to do i love her a LOT. im only 13 and idk wat to do anymore.

2007-12-05 05:15:17 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family