My husband is 52 and is spending a lot of time w/ a young woman from work (28 single and pretty). I found some pictures of them posing very affectionately on several outings including a harbor cruise, sightseeing on a supposed work related trip (seperate from colleagues) and an overnight trip to see a ballgame out of town. (3 hour drive each way with limo and driver) He has the money but does anyone think that he would book 3 rooms (his, hers, drivers) to go to a baseball game? I have learned that they also have dinner together frequently. I also learned that he spent $500 on a long cashmere coat for her, and sent her roses on Valentines day. We have 3 young children and I am wife #3. I am getting prepared to confront him and wanted to see what opinions others may have.
2007-12-05 05:34:43 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well,I would confront him about it and tell him that you are not stupid and you aren't going to deal with his lies anymore.I mean it sounds like he is a big time player if you are wife #3 there has to be reason's that number 1 and 2 aren't around anymore.Maybe that is why.I don't think you should deal with all that crap.It's divorce time and I don't believe in divorce's unless you really have a reason but you have A LOT of reason's for one.I wouldn't deal with that at all.If he wants a 28 year old woman who just wants him for his money let her have him..let him get screwed over.What goes around comes around.Believe that.You can do better and I would if I was you.Good luck.
2007-12-05 05:49:22 · answer #1 · answered by crazymoma 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I guess the question is what happened with the other wives? did he leave them for someone younger and hotter? is the the type that moves on and starts a new family every couple of years? Some men are just never really going to settle down, and if this sounds like him then you should prepare for the worst.
No man should be buying a co-worker a $500 coat, no matter how well off he is. And the roses-- that's plain unacceptable. It does sound as though he's cheating, and has been for a long time (since it's december and Valentines day is in February). It is certainly time to confront him. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-12-05 05:40:53 · answer #2 · answered by Suliah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The man is a hound dog and will go to his grave a hound dog. There is a reason you are wife #3 --- his interest is only held so long and then he is off working on his next sexually exciting conquest. Let me guess you were an affair when the two of you met --- or at least fidelity was a major factor in his other divorces. Anyways it doesn't really matter, you have the facts and at 52 his character is baked. He doesn't even seem all that interested in hiding it, leaving pics around and financial recods for you to find.
Divorce him and try to find someone that is capable of real love and commitment.
2007-12-05 05:42:59 · answer #3 · answered by George 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By my count, this is the 10th time you have asked some permutation on this question. In the last questions, you have been the older husband, a younger wife being pursued, and now you are the victimized wife.
Whoever you are and whatever your real role, this situation is messed up. Whether they are having sex or not, to go overnight to another city with a married man is wrong for both the older married man and the single/married younger woman. They are tempting fate and disrespecting whoever is left out of the little party.
Realize this situation is wrong and correct it from whatever your standpoint.
2007-12-05 05:54:41 · answer #4 · answered by xxxxxxxxx 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is blatantly obvious that he is cheating on you and has some serious relationship issues that are not your fault. (two ex's, a wife, and a mistress..??) You deserve better than this. Confront him camly and assertively. Tell him what you know and that you WILL NOT TOLERATE it!! It's my opinion that you need to separate from this man who seems unable to emotionally commit to a woman. Again, you deserve more in a mate.
Try not to be accusing and harsh, just state your case and begin taking action. Chances he has some problems with you as well and yelling and demeaning him will only give him a reason to start tearing you down as well. Keep it adult and to the point.
2007-12-05 05:47:15 · answer #5 · answered by ashnperry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What???? Did you go with to the ballgame out of town? Doesn't sound like it!! Besides, why do you think you're wife #3?? I'd confront him, but make sure you have proof ( cashmere coat expense - how'd you find out about it & the roses?)
2007-12-05 05:40:51 · answer #6 · answered by sandnickel2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say but this does not look good at all. You are wife number three and he is still looking for someone else's company. I think this is an issue that he has with himself, an inner complex so to speak and i doubt that you can help him with it. Since you have three young children i suggest you wait until you have proof of infidelity, take him to court and get decent child support. No more and no less. No hate, no "getting all his money," just enough so you can stand on your own feet and provide for yourself and your children. Do NOT confront him until you have proof!
2007-12-05 05:46:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have along time ago. Does he spent money on u are brings u roses? how did u become wife #3? were u the other you woman of wife #2? yes confront him and give him the divorce papers. good luck.
2007-12-05 05:48:07 · answer #8 · answered by Esperanza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds fishy. Has he been unfaithful before? I would ask him if he's happy, is he still in love with you, etc. I wouldn't immediately attack the woman he's been keeping company. In some industries you have to spend a lot of time for people to like you and trust you. It takes two to tango. Tell him it makes you uncomfortable and ask him how it would make him feel if you were doing the same things? Good Luck!
2007-12-05 05:41:17 · answer #9 · answered by MSUGina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it but the writing was on the wall before you married him? Ask yourself..was he still married when you met him? Was he fresh out of his 2nd marriage when you started dating? He's sleeping with her, whether you want to realize it or not. Get in line, get the alimony, child support and get out. He's basically getting away with adultery and obviously isn't shy about it. Best of luck with the confrontation, he isn't going to choose. He may tell you that he won't see her anymore, but I think it's way past roses and a $500 coat.
2007-12-05 05:40:11 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋