2007-12-05 05:21:49 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thats hard, but I guess you could always go by the old "Do as I say, not as I do" theory. I think it is a very outdated tradition, but to each their own. Just tell them that it is something special that you should share with the person you truly love and intend on spending the rest of your life with.
2007-12-05 05:28:04 · answer #1 · answered by Bad Answer Queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be open, honest, and frank with them. Educate them about where babies really do come from and the risk of STD's, every time I get my BC refilled at planned parenthood I bring home a fistful of literature for my daughter. Keep the conversation going and explain that babies/children don't love you, they are mostly parasitic leeches that misbehave in public and keep you up all night! Too many young girls are getting pregnant thinking they need something that will love them! HA! And btw 7 and 11 are not too young to start this conversation, the more you talk the less uncomfortable you will feel. By the time my daughter was 7 she'd already seen 4 births including my own. She is grounded and understand the subject matter and is not afraid to ask me questions.
2007-12-05 06:00:06 · answer #2 · answered by pretiusmaximus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an awesome question. I have a 17 and 16 yrs old daughters. The have turn out to be the closest to a perfect child as you can get nowadays (knock on wood). The have seen a lot of expereinces around them. There friends getting pregnant, dropping out of HS. etc. They have a strong sense of how bad things can turn out to be if you try to speed up the process. So, they are happy, knowledgeable and moraly sound. Their values are christian based and I'm sure that has a lot to do with...good luck
2007-12-05 05:37:58 · answer #3 · answered by KingDavid 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can teach them but it really comes down to it being their decision.
since you are giving a semi-hypocritical talk (no offense), i think you should approach it by telling themw hat you regret by not waiting until marriage.
Also, there is this amazing seminar done by this guy Jason Evert and his fiance ( i think now, wife) Crystalina about Chastity called "Romance without Regret" for high school students.
But all in all.. it comes down to it being their decision. You can merely educate them on the risks.
2007-12-05 05:28:27 · answer #4 · answered by Donna L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be open and honest with them, let them know that you are there for them if they have questions. But regardless of what you TEACH them at some point they are going to do what they want. Best that we can do is hope that we have given them the wisdom to make proper choices and be safe.
Ha! or you could do what my X's girlfriend does to her girls, won't allow them to use tampons, because that way she can have the doctors do a Hymen check! I just died laughing when I heard this, OMG don't teach your children to be responsible, just instill fear in them and keep them stupid. What a dumbass redneck. I just imagine a big husky woman in a nurses uniform, with a german accent, "ok, we's going to check your hymen!"
2007-12-05 05:37:15 · answer #5 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just keep them supplied with Britney Spears CDs and give them plenty of pocket money to go to the mall.
Oh, and let them get a drivers license at 16.
2007-12-05 05:30:53 · answer #6 · answered by geeksball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and what happens if they never get married? are the expected to never have sex?
seriously, teach them the responsibilities of sex, as well as potential consequences (pregnancy, std, aids, etc). tell them to NEVER rely on the guy to be responsible and have protection. a great thing that my mom did when talking to me about it was telling me all the different types of sex along with the various emotions that can come with it all; rape, romance, one night stands, mutual consent, lust vs. love, horny, etc. the more they know about things, the better informed their decisions will be.
2007-12-05 05:55:08 · answer #7 · answered by celticbuddha 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girls are young yet, but it is NEVER TO early to begin to talk to them about privacy issues. I never lied to my children about sex and personal questions, I answered them in ways that were appropriate for their ages.When my girls reached high school,I told them to watch the girls around them in school. The ones that" put out" are always popular at first, but when the boys are getting serious about girls it won't be those girls they are looking at for a lasting relationship. That worked for me. Both waited.
2007-12-05 05:59:43 · answer #8 · answered by Karen S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its so hard these days.... To teach kids these stuff the media and all is making them mature before there age...
I will suggest that dont use religion to stop them.... Instead use morals....
2007-12-05 05:29:44 · answer #9 · answered by Aleera V 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should sit down and be honest with them and tell them never to get married.
2007-12-05 05:37:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋