im not trying to get too personal here. but she was my mom. but she was mean to me a while. i still love her tho and i wish she was here no matter wat. veryy sad and i dont like to talk bout it so im just gonna ask one question. for her funeral i want something nice and meaningful to do at the funeral. i chose everything for her. prayer cards, cremation, everything you can think of. At the funeral tho i want to enlarge a huge pic of her and me and my bro's and then im ordering some balloons to release meaning she's free. do you have any more ideas for me to do i love her a LOT. im only 13 and idk wat to do anymore.
2007-12-05 05:15:17 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
oh and also i want to make a CD of some songs that are nice and appropriate for her funeral. I dont kno what kinda music she liked. but like some nice songs symbolising that she passed on but very appropriate. plz and thx.
2007-12-05 05:35:47 · update #1
I am so sorry for your loss. I am sure that you miss her greatly. I hope that you can meet with a counselor or a minister for a while to deal with the grief. I think it would help you and your family greatly.
Why don't you write a letter to her & either read it or have a friend or family member read it.
Leave something significant in her casket, including a picture of you & your family.
Please email me if you ever need someone to talk to, again I'm sorry for your loss.
2007-12-05 05:20:34 · answer #1 · answered by SportsGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, let me start off by offering my condolences.
I think that is a really good idea about the pictures and the balloons. Just because she was mean to you doesn't mean that she didn't love you and I am sure if she were here now she would be excited to see what a wonderful young woman you have become.
If you are good at writing or drawing maybe you could write a peom or draw a picture about/of your mother. I hope that helps.
And again, sorry to hear about your mom.
2007-12-05 13:27:17 · answer #2 · answered by morbidlybeautiful 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't experienced that, but please, please DO NOT KEEP ALL THE HURT INSIDE; bring it out, cry with a trusted older friend or family member. IF YOU DON'T FEEL LIKE CRYING, then talk with someone about how you feel. I can see you tend to be very symbolic, with balloons and everything. Nothing wrong with that, but it might also mean you're trying to avoid the sadness brought by your mom's passing away.
I think I feel the same way with my mom; she shouts almost all the time and doesn't try to be friends with us (her kids). Sometimes I think that her passing away won't hurt me much because she already hurt me much while she's living. But I don't lose hope, maybe things will get better as I grow up, so you don't lose hope too. I've always believed that healing/recovery is a lifetime process.
2007-12-05 13:27:28 · answer #3 · answered by FredOh F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about the loss of your mom.
It sounds like you have got "it" right, so just do what you were going to do and you should be OK. Just remember the nice things that she did, and forget about when she was "mean" - she may have had a reason for it, or was just having a bad day.
2007-12-05 13:20:42 · answer #4 · answered by Paul Hxyz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest using the music for the funeral as a way to express your feelings for her. You can play as many songs as you like. Also play songs that she really enjoyed and remind you of her. They don't all have to be religious or sad.
I am sorry for your loss.
2007-12-05 13:20:57 · answer #5 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey there is one more thing you should do.....take time for yourself. Allow yourself to greive. You are young and have suffered a very great loss and are taking on a lot of responsiblity at a very young age. The things you have done are wonderful and your mother will love them and be very proud of you. Now it is time for you to allow yourself to cry and be sad. Take one day at a time and remember what a wonderful mom she was.
Wishing you the very best,
Momma_Bear
2007-12-05 13:27:37 · answer #6 · answered by the_morris_bears 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear of your loss, loosing a family member is tough I can't imagine loosing my mother :( I also think that giving her eulogy would be a lovely way for you to express what a great person she was, what she meant to you, and how you will miss her. Good luck and keep your chin up :)
2007-12-05 13:22:08 · answer #7 · answered by **hope/faith**1744 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should do a speach and let her know, how much you love her. Put pictures of you and your family put her favorite songs. Tell her that you forgive her for what she did to you. Let people give a speach also about your mom. Tell people what she like to do.
When you miss her alot give your self a hug think about her and she will be there huginf you. Remember she love you no matter what.
2007-12-05 13:36:20 · answer #8 · answered by janet_23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For my father we put together a powerpoint of pictures from the time he was little until the end.....we put it to music and played it at the service. I am so very sorry for your loss...
2007-12-05 13:20:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could make a collage of her pictures so that people see it when they walk in.
Also, you could give her eulogy.
I am very sorry for your loss. I know this must be a really hard time for you.
2007-12-05 13:18:40 · answer #10 · answered by Mimi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋