how to move on after all this time and everything that has happen to cause the break up?

Question

I don't think there is another pain greater then getting your dream and hopes broken. I still feel I am destin to be with him. He is been very clear he hates me and would never want to be with me. Everyone think I am happy and have moved on but I am about to lose my mind over this... because he is everything I want my future husband to be. He is sooo wounderful... but he hates me now. I don't know how to accept this feeling that is over done gone.

Answer 1

TIME TIME TIME TIME is the only thing that help you get through this. Try to keep yourself busy and start a new life without him. I know it is the hardest thing to do, but it is necessary.

If it's meant to be somehow you guys will make it work.

Answer 2

i am sorry to hear about this, and sadly i feel i cant say make up and live happyily ever after, it is very hard when you love someone and they do not love you back, but what i have to ask is why does he 'hates' you, that is a very strong emotion.


if you really love him that much, then you need to try, and if it not meant to be, then he is not worth you. if you have done something wrong then you need to show him that what you did was a mistake and show him how much he means to you

maybe you should talk to someone you know about it all, as perhaps the reasons your friends think you are fine is because you make it seem you are. people are only easy to read when we make it obv that we want to be read. maybe talk to a best friend, or even a family member, after all they will know you much better than anyone on here

if it cannot work then please do not give up with other men, it is not you, and you may feel worthless but honestly there is someone out there who will love you the way you should be loved, and who you will love just as much back.

best of luck, try keeping your chin up xx

Answer 3

Hope is an expectation. If you have issue's with accepting whatever the circumstance's maybe, then maybe you should tone down your imagination, or try not placing expectations upon people for your convenience.

A human who puts limits on what he/she can do, will put limits on what they can do.

Everyone can think what they want, this is not there problem.
If he pretends to hate you for absolutely no apparent reason, then he doesn't make any sense. That's his problem to.
It's clear that you are to worried about everyone else, what about yourself? Who wouldn't lose there mind?

Answer 4

I've gone thru that pain too.
Honestly, the best thing you can do is just try to focus on the good things in your life, whether it be school, achievements, talents, and ESPECIALLY the loved ones you do have in your life...FAMILY...nieces, nephews, kids, brothers, sisters...

Time will heal; try to laugh a lot; even if you find yourself not wanting to. Laughter really does help.

Spend a lot of time with someone who understands you and will hear you out. Call up your best friend.

Answer 5

it is the same as the stages of grief over a death, right now you are in denial, and you are holding on to that denial afraid to move on because that means eventually you get to acceptance and you KNOW it is over. You might benefit from reading the book on death and dying by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross. It will give you insight on what you are experiencing which could lead to your getting past this episode in your life.

Answer 6

So you want your future husband to hate you?? Is that your ideal "wonderful" guy is? Find something to get your mind off him - he's Mr. Wrong!

Answer 7

Read "He is just not that into you" it brings clarity. Also sign up on match(don't have to pay if you are just looking) only if you need to respond. When you see that lots of guys have clicked on your profile it will build your confidence--even if they are not your type.