Family & Relationships - 21 November 2007

Im here in Norway he is in Philippines,We were married last April 2004.
We have 1 son 2yrs old his parents take care of our son.
Can this be the reasonable grounds?
1.Irresposible
2.Young 22 yrs old,immature
3.he cannot feed us
4.he is drunkard,keeps drinking
5.Our wedding is not our plan but his parents
6.He didnt take care of our son and our house
7.he lives by himself
8.No plans for the family
9.I just realized I dont love him
What else is the reason for us to be together?I dont have a boyfriend.
I supposed to separate him last december but he want to kill himself if I did it.So I gave him a second chance.i told him to take care our son and stay home and I will send money for them but he gave our son to his parents.
Help me pls.thanks

2007-11-21 08:06:39 · 20 answers · asked by sweetie29 6 in Marriage & Divorce

you found out just recently that your mother slept with your boyfriend while you was away in colorado visiting family. My mother told me that she didnt want me with this guy, and to have an abortion when i was pregnant. Is that the reason why she wanted me to have the abortion, because if i would of found out, that they had been sleeping together, that i would drop both of them? What would u do drop both? I disklike my mother right now, but its putting stress on my relationship.

2007-11-21 08:05:25 · 25 answers · asked by ~*Jenny*~ 4 in Other - Family & Relationships

ive been in a long distance relationship for over 3 months; we're in love; recently got a message from my boyfriend's ex girlfriend telling me that he's been cheating on me with her. I do know that she is bitter from there past and still loves him. So i thought she was lying at first. So i talked to him about it. i asked him if he slept wiht her whiel we were together, he said no. I kept in contact wiht her through emails, my best freind even called her askin her if shes tellin the whole truth, she stands by her story. Howeer he hasnt said anything to reassure me or convince me otherwise. i don't know who or what to belive anymore. He's been distant (no phone calls). my gut feeling tells me he did but i still dont know who to beleive. He's done it to his ex girlfreind when they first dated with his previous ex. and when i ask him whats goin on he says he doesnt know...i get no clear answers...

2007-11-21 08:04:55 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

if your a single male and you have sexual relations with a married woman, what conciquences happen to you other than a conflict with her husband?

2007-11-21 08:04:28 · 16 answers · asked by allan swartch 1 in Marriage & Divorce

He usually offers me really good advice, like the time he told me it would be delicious to eat the mushrooms growing on my basement floor, but sometimes its bad advice like the time he told me that what my mom really wanted for her birthday was a rabid possum. He goes by the name Capton Silly Pants the third, and he works at the corner bistro. Does anyone else know this caped crusader?

2007-11-21 08:04:09 · 31 answers · asked by J R 2 in Friends

My wife had our son-in-law arrested when he was 23 years old for sleeping with our daughter when she was 15 years old. He was convicted and sentenced to jail for 6 months.

He is now married to our daughter, and my wife has gotten over for what he has done. I disagree with my wife. He is now 27 years old, unemployed and is probably selling drugs. Should I try to get along with him and allow him to celebrate the holidays with us. I don't think so. And even if I did, I don't think it would set a good example for our other 2 daughters. That would be saying we will accept them for who they are, regardless of who they are with and who they will marry.

We still communicate with our daughter, who is now pregnant, and tell her we are still there for her, but I never want her husband anywhere near our house.

So should I continue to not allow our son-in-law to be a part of our lives, or should I let it go and accept him for who he is?

2007-11-21 08:01:37 · 17 answers · asked by rascoe627 1 in Family

If a woman with two kids (age 2 and 6) ask for a divorce, does her husband have the right to say no for support? Or can he take away the kids from her? What is his right? And what is her right? Will it make it worse if she's the one that asking for divorce instead of mutual? And will it be worse that she already have a new man in her life? Any divorce attorney can answer this for me please???

2007-11-21 07:59:49 · 9 answers · asked by lilly_0578 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I have been married about 4.5 yrs the marriage on a whole has been very emotionally rocky for me because i am treated like property and ignored.I am going to be turning 26 yrs old soon and my husband is 39 yrs old we have a daughter(adopted)who is 3.5 yrs old after i could not concieve even though i had no medical issues.Looking back i think i was more infatuated with the gifts he was giving me but it felt like love at that time.I never saw his cold nature and also did not see any of the controling nature or the physical abuse but it did come.The trade off to his controling nature was that he allowed me to buy whatever i wanted.But after our last fight where i ended up needing stiches was the last straw.How do i act at thanksgiving knowing that the day after while he's in California on business i'm leaving him ?

2007-11-21 07:54:57 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I have been talking to this guy for a little over a month now, Darnel. At first I wasn't attracted to him at all and I didn't think he was attracted to me, I thought it was just friendly. I didn't realize he had feelings for me until a mutual friend of ours, Erica told me. I decided to have a open mind about it and began liking him more and more. I know he likes me because he has told me himself but he doesn't really show it. But I often question whether he still has feeling for me. and people also ask him if we are still talking.Just how he acts around me it just seems platonic and I am not the only one that has noticed it. I want that attention that I am use to getting like him touching my hair ,looking into my eyes etc. I also noticed that I feel like the third wheel when it is me Darnel and Erica hanging out . I realize that they are close but, I don't like that feeling. He also tells her everything that goes on btw us and I end finding thing out thru her instead of his mouth.

2007-11-21 07:52:58 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My friend had come to my school in the middle of the year last year. She become very popular in like a week. This year she went to a different school. At that school she become very popular there too. How does she do it?

2007-11-21 07:51:42 · 8 answers · asked by love sucks 1 in Friends

My girlfriend of almost 4 years ended our relationship not so long ago. She says we wont get back together, but then says I need to trust God. That if were meant to be he'll bring us back together. She says she's not pursuring other relationships, but that I dont need to force " us " on her, and whatever happens-happens. Then when I'm not so available to her, she doesnt like it so much, she wants to call from time to time, or invite me out to lunch or something, and when she does she still flirts with me. She's pretty stubborn, and says no we won't, but then she'll say God who created the world and me can change my mind. That if she is the desire of my heart, I need to trust Him, before he'll ever give her back. I know it may sound weird in todays modern world, but these are the facts. I still love her, and the way she acts I'd say she still loves me, but just says no when it comes to us dating again. I think she wants to see some change in me, and when I do she'll be ready for us.

2007-11-21 07:50:40 · 18 answers · asked by Advice 4 in Marriage & Divorce

my wifes b-day is in three weeks and i wanted to get a motel room on the beach and have a really nice quiet dinner but i dont have the money now cause of x-mas and my sons b-day is a week after mu wifes!!! what should i do

2007-11-21 07:50:03 · 9 answers · asked by kkralp 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-21 07:49:32 · 19 answers · asked by kimberly k 5 in Marriage & Divorce

My wife loves the simpile things in life. She doesn't wear much jewelry. She likes flowers, but I get them for her often. I need advice on something women want, but is often overlooked by husbands.

2007-11-21 07:46:52 · 14 answers · asked by shawn n 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My boyfriend and I are having some money issues. WE both have good jobs ( I am a teacher in a good paying district, he does some technical work) and both make around the same salary. We put away 50 dollars each a week, so about $400 a month, into an account. He has an apartment right now, but we are looking to get something together.
My problem is this, I feel like no matter what, we can't save enough money! I have friends who have bought houses and are doing great, but I feel like we can't afford anything!
We are pretty young, so we go out once a weekend, and sometimes twice. When we're out we don't go crazy, but I do enjoy the down time. I feel like the only way we can save money is to stay inside, do nothing ever, and save all of it!
I guess my question is how do you afford stuff! I am panicking because I feel like I am 24 years old and will never be able to afford a house or kids or anything. Please help!

2007-11-21 07:46:29 · 15 answers · asked by Firefly 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-21 07:42:37 · 47 answers · asked by Cami 1 in Singles & Dating

I really like the guy and i think he likes me to. The only problem is that he is my best friends brother. What should i do?

2007-11-21 07:41:03 · 1 answers · asked by UcAnTsEeMe! 2 in Singles & Dating

during sex, my husband says things about me being with other men. of couse this hasn't happened, but it seems like he likes it and turns him on. could he be wanting to be with other women and just is trying to get me to do it first? or is this one of his ways of getting excited.......any thoughts? when he talks about it, he puts in details. almost to wierd for me.

2007-11-21 07:40:47 · 25 answers · asked by flavours_of_entanglement 5 in Marriage & Divorce

i act different
i say stupid things
and i get really shy

help!

2007-11-21 07:39:23 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-11-21 07:36:40 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I think he is cheating on me. I overheard him on the phone last night giving a woman directions to our house and something about 8pm tonight. I'm at my moms with our girls helping her get ready for thanksgiving... So should I just let it slide and until I'm 100% sure confront him about it? Or should i "follow" him tonight (he hasnt mentioned going out yet- but im sure after work he'll say something and say hes going with the guys from work) Do i flat out lie and say, "oh my mom said she'd watch the kids- i thought we could go out" and then see what he says? When he asks if i care if he goes out do i bring up last night like, "so why were you telling that girl our address?" I'm not really sure he is even cheating- just suspecting it ... or that something is going on that he's not being honest about. Any suggestions?

2007-11-21 07:36:37 · 37 answers · asked by Amy Clark 5 in Marriage & Divorce

Hello I'm scared for my mom I think she's way over-protective. Hearing from other's "over protective" mom stories my mom is going a little extreme. No, I don't want my belly button peirced or to get a bigger allowence but as being 14 I think I should get a little freedom. Some examples are: When she is in the shower I'm not even allowed in the front OR the back yard PLUS I have to lock all the windows and doors when she is in the shower. Another ove-protective example is she wont even let me walk down to the park that's half a block away. Last time I walked down to the park alone she beat me with a belt. "If I ever see you go down to the park alone again I'll beat you within an inch of your life" so this pretty much ruins my life and I can't do much about it. She wont take me any where either unless school. I love my mom but If she wont let me have any freed om I don't know what I'll do she just wants me home at all times she wont even let me play in the street. any advice? -tula

2007-11-21 07:35:58 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Everytime I remind her she gets angry and she says she will pay me back but never does. Should I just take the game back if she wont pay me for it. I hate how money can ruin a good friendship but hey it was a $60 game and she wont pay me back

2007-11-21 07:35:19 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Women in our society are considered sexy and sensuous. The best that men can hope for is to be funny. If a man tries to be sexy he is considered gay.

2007-11-21 07:30:34 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

im muslim from morocco my wife is chritian american originaly hispanic dominican .

2007-11-21 07:28:32 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My boyfriend is in the military and i sent him some chocolate truffles and some chocolate covered strawberries. Would you get embarrassed to receive this type of gift from your girlfriend if you knew your male friends would find out?

2007-11-21 07:27:31 · 13 answers · asked by Rina 1 in Singles & Dating

Why do men like it so much? Yes, I know women watch it too but I am not asking why women like it, I'm asking why men like it so much. I was straight to the point answers, no sugar coating it? If it's 'cuz you like sex...then have sex with your girlfriend or wife. I just don't get it... Oh and PLEASE tell me what is so great about girl on girl action, please tell me that!!!!!!!!!!!!! Just asking so don't be crude to me..thxs.

2007-11-21 07:26:57 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

ok well yesterday we were at the library in the computer lab. It was biology class the last class of the day well this happened.
Me, shawn, lorie, and jesse were there and me and lorie have the same bras so we were talking about that. Then shawn started unbuttoning my shirt so that he could so my bra(i didnt do nothing) and ummm yeah he only saw like where my boobs meet and stuff. Lorie and Jesse saw too. I feel disgusted with myself cuz i didnt do anything i just stood there i feel like ugh!!! where the **** was my dignity at we are all friends i need to . make sure that that never happens again . Cuz i just stood there and i didnt do anything about it help!!! Im not the type of flirting popular girl. So why did i let that happen? im 15 help me and talk some sense into me!!! note i have only gone out with 1 person my whole life.

2007-11-21 07:26:25 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

13 year old girl, to be working, going to school, and training for my blackbelt 3 hours a day 4 days a week at karate while teaching for about 2 hours a week? do you think im over working my self? i've been training 12 hours a week for about 6 months now, and i work in my dads coffee shop as a cashier, and somehow i still made honors with a +3.5 GPA. do you think its healthy for me to do this much because i train at home for almost 3 hours a day and do other chores as well.

2007-11-21 07:25:39 · 38 answers · asked by Random thoughts 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

She got really upset with me the night befor because we were way behind schedule and she said she could have been at home studying. I felt bad, but she never mentioned anything the night befor, she just got her boyfriend to call my husband and he had to tell me she wasnt going to come. She didnt, and only gave me hours notice! Should i try and work through this? or is this just a sign of things to come?

2007-11-21 07:22:26 · 24 answers · asked by des l 2 in Weddings