Family & Relationships - 21 November 2007

2007-11-21 01:10:13 · 18 answers · asked by Jay-Ar 2 in Singles & Dating

I have been maried 20 years We have 2 children 17 and 12.
My husband was diagnosed bi-polar 2 years ago and has been on meds that work pretty good for him for about 1 year.
This has been the hardest time for me. He has been verbally
abusive since he has been diagnosed and has had times of violence throwing stuff and breaking furniture. His meds seem to have his violence under control finally. I am no spring chicken and hate the idea of starting over. I am concerned about financial security also It's scarey! But I wake up every other night with bad dreams of selfish and verbal bad behavior from my husband. He is just not the same guy I married. I said until death do us part in sickness and health. But I am miserable. What should I do?

2007-11-21 01:09:08 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Im thinking about welcomeing my boyfriend tomorrow with a kiss.Is this ok?

2007-11-21 01:08:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

My husband's mate has been trying to contact me and asking me out. He says he really likes me and doesnot want more than a friendship. What shall I do?
He is one of those guys who saw me fully naked while i was getting out of the pool when my hubby and his mates came frm work, and i was not expecting there visit.
Since then, me and my husband are not together the way we were, although its getting better now.

I personally think he doesnt want just a friendship, But i think i am muture enough to handle myself. He seems nice as a person and im thinking of giving him a go. I am mostly alone at home, dont have friends in this town. Sometimes i really feel alone.
I need second opinion.... (You can see my other questions to know the whole background)

2007-11-21 01:06:28 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I have been married on last june and we got seperated within a week. Tell me when can i apply for divorce & when i will get divorce? Wther i should wait for atleast 1 year or not?
Please suggest?

2007-11-21 01:06:03 · 12 answers · asked by Rebecca 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My ex-girlfriend keeps calling me and crap. Last night she calls twice in a 5 minute period leaves a voice-mail because I refused to pick up that said " Hey ummmm......... I guess if you want to call me back you can I'll ttyl"

Then 15 minutes after that texts me saying " I really hope you're not planning on ignoring me :( "

Then first thing this morning she called me again on her way to work and I didnt pick up still.

This pisses me off, she tells me its over were never getting back together, but as soon as I back away some she pulls this bs. What the hell is her problem? I don't believe her when she says no never again because she WON'T GO AWAY.

2007-11-21 01:05:39 · 14 answers · asked by Advice 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I am 5'2, dark skin, and have brown eyes, my boyfriend is 5'3, dark skin, with hazel brown eyes, so what would our baby look like?

2007-11-21 01:05:24 · 10 answers · asked by Lala A 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-21 01:04:30 · 23 answers · asked by MJ 6 in Marriage & Divorce

recently I've been tempted to look threw my hubby's text messages but I've refrained because i felt like if i did that,that would mean i didn't trust him.Lately somethings just didn't feel right so i looked & found that he was still talking to his "supposedly" one night stand flame.I mean should i stay quiet because what you don;t know doesn't hurt & i wouldn't have found out if i didn't look right?? i dont know what should i do??

2007-11-21 01:03:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My boyfriend and I haven't really been having problems, but he said he felt like I was pulling away and haven't been as close with him as usual...well he has never done anything that I'm aware of to betray me, but we were out a few days ago and we met up with 4 of his friends....well we were sitting at the bar and a few seats down there were a few girls, his friends were in between us and the girls...well he was very drunk and didn't realize I could hear and he said to his friend, keep my girl busy, then turns back around and starts talking to the girl on the other side of his friends, all I heard him say was "what are you drinking.." after that he turned and realized I saw the whole thing, he was drunk so he was bad at covering it up and said he was just asking what she was drinking.
Well now he says he knows what he did was wrong and he just felt that I was pulling away from him recently, and that maybe we can start fresh and its the first time something like this happened...

2007-11-21 00:59:34 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-11-21 00:58:52 · 20 answers · asked by dina S 1 in Marriage & Divorce

have you ever liked a guy and wanted to tell him but never got the courage to do so?

I did, i had the hugest crush on this guy and i was almost 100% sure he felt the same... and i still am... but since none of us both never had the guts to tell eachother how we felt.. (and trust me we had countless "moments"... that we could of) we missed the chance of ever knowing... do i regret not telling him yes, and im going to but im also scared of putting myself in a vulnerable situation where the person who i care about the most may end up hurting me.. and there is always that chance... and then again if you dont risk you get swalloed up by life... i go by that motto... so... whats you guys advise on this? how should i say it? ... have you ever been in a simiular situation?...

and no one could really say no because we all liked a guy, whether we approched him or not we have all wanted at some point in our lives to tell him... so ya i know there are gonna be the girls who say well usually a guy asks me out.. and ya that happens to me alot... but usually its because they ...

2007-11-21 00:58:46 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

If I use an effective, natural bleaching cream for a year or two, could I lighten enough shades to look like a tanned white?

I doubt it'd be dangerous if I picked one with natural ingredients instead of drugs like hydroquinine and coupled it with a moisturizing cream to counter the drying roughing effects.

This is what I look like. I'm actually darker because of all the light in the picture.

http://www.hotornot.com/r/?eid=REBSS8B&key=BSP

I'm going to do it whether you approve or not, so try to help. :)

2007-11-21 00:56:39 · 10 answers · asked by VV 1 in Singles & Dating

should I ask him out? do guys like when a girl asks them out?

There is this guy in my acting workshop that I really like. and last week he was acting like he likes me too, like putiing his arm around my shoulder and squeezing me, leaning aginst me and sitting very close. I want to get to know him better, but I'm not sure if I should make the first move or wait for him to do it. any opinions? also he is about 9, almost 10 years older than me.

2007-11-21 00:55:26 · 10 answers · asked by lovelyladypoet 3 in Singles & Dating

My guy tells me he doesn't want to have sex anymore and that he wants to have something more than that..The issue is this..I don't get to see him often but maybe once every 3-4 months and so and you would think he would want to have sex wouldn't you? I know he is not getting it anywhere else and he cares and loves me very much..but why would he not want to have sex? He told me that he also wanted to be able to enjoy someone's company without it leading to sex..but ugh!! Does anyone else find this odd???

2007-11-21 00:53:20 · 16 answers · asked by AMANDA 1 in Marriage & Divorce

sometimes a girl's face is considered cute, rather than pretty, and vice versa. so which one do you prefer?

2007-11-21 00:51:48 · 12 answers · asked by heartiful 3 in Singles & Dating

Me and my fiancee have been together for five years, he is a very good person but sometimes a little cheap and machista. He treats me nicely most of the time but sometimes i wish he wasn't so cheap, he doesn't have a reason to be it cause he makes a lot of money and i am a very good girlfriend. We broke up two weeks ago and he has been calling me nonstop, saying he loves and asking for a chance, that he'll do everything in his power to change, cause he wants to be wih me and no one else. I love him, he sent me flowers to work yesterday and everything. Should I expect him to change?

2007-11-21 00:51:47 · 12 answers · asked by schedar21 2 in Singles & Dating

because they overworked him and he had no time to be with his family. Now he's working for half the money and our insurance is not very good plus we barely break even. He also walked away from 20,000 in comission. We need a new roof because we have leaks ...we stress everytime our daughter gets sick because we have to pay 100% until our deductable is met. We had agreed that I would stay at home until our daughter started public school which isnt until next year (because we didn't want to have to put her in daycare)...now I've had to take a part time job working weekend evenings and holidays...I have little to no skills for a better job. We also have medical bills because I had to have surgery this summer. I know whats been done cant be undone but I dont understand why he couldn't continue to find a better paying job with better benefits. His job now is so unerwhelming that he calls me 6 times a day because he's bored...and he says he wants to retire from this job.

2007-11-21 00:50:25 · 22 answers · asked by robbierob 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Here's the thing. My hubby and i have been together for 8 years. he's always thought i was gorgeous,and always let me know it.(I'm a former swimsuit model)even when we broke up once years ago,he left the person he was dating to get back with me.The thing is,i had our daughter a few months ago,and the pregnancy weight did NOT come off.(About 30 pounds over)He tells me i still look gorgeous and that he loves me just the way i am,but i am starting to feel insecure,because his ex girlfriend has just started to work where he works,and im afraid that now that i've lost my figure,he might regret having left her and now thinks that SHE'S better looking than me.I try to get him to tell me the truth but he just goes on and on about how i'm paranoid and how he loves only me and how he isn't attracted to her anymore but i've seen her,compared to what i look like now,she looks pretty good.I went from a 10 to a 5 and i don't know if i should believe him or if he just doesnt want to hurt me.

2007-11-21 00:50:06 · 15 answers · asked by bittersweet84 2 in Marriage & Divorce

i want to like him but i also don't but yuh idk what doi you

2007-11-21 00:48:44 · 3 answers · asked by tamcaron 1 in Singles & Dating

Ok, me and her have been friends for about 3 years. Like really good friends though, we always help each other with there relationships problems. I dont know if i ask her out, and she says no that could be bad for our freindship. What should i do ask her, or just keep being friends??

2007-11-21 00:48:10 · 10 answers · asked by A-dog 1 in Singles & Dating

It seems like am always nowadays having nagging desires. Thought they should reduce with age but it seems the case is the opposite. Am married and well cattered for, if i may say it atleast once or twice per night. Is this normal for one in early 50s?

2007-11-21 00:47:35 · 10 answers · asked by Kings R 1 in Marriage & Divorce

What is the best way to tell a guy you like him? Guys: how do YOU like a girl to tell you she likes you?

Do you like it when she says it to your face, writes a note, gets a friend to tell you, etc.....

Thanks! :D

2007-11-21 00:45:07 · 4 answers · asked by Jen P 1 in Singles & Dating

i was seeing someone for a while but we were very good friends before this happened. he decided hed rather have me as a friend forever than to keep things going cos he said he knows it would go wrong and we'd end up hating each other. This was in July, recently he has told me he would like to try things again but is too scared it wouldn't work. I'm trying to persuade him to give it a go because I really like him and we have been friends for years so in my eyes, whatever happens I really don't see us ever hating each other....do you think he will ever come round to the idea?

2007-11-21 00:43:53 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Okay here goes, She has never met either one of us in person. She was involved with him three months before she met me. She was in love with him and then he wanted her to find a man to play with them both. I am the man that she found. SInce then her and I have talked for seven months and have become very close. The other man who is married also, has not been doing so well with her and they are only talking on IM and text for the last few months. She really cares for me alot. I really care for her alot. She and I are very open sexually and want to experience alot, but be safe. He wants to be apart of a threesome with us. So both the mens roles have changed. She used to be very much inlove with him and did anything he wanted, she would do anything he asked. Okay so now he is asking to be involved with both of us and I dont know what to do. I know she has feelings still for him and gets really turned on by him, she says it will only be sexual fun with him. Do I let this threesome happen

2007-11-21 00:43:44 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

...because they got your number off of a bathroom wall?

How'd it work out? Still together?

2007-11-21 00:43:43 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My fiance and I are having fights for a month now. He's in UK, I'm in Japan. I love him, but I have a work I really adore, and I must quit the job if I'll be with him.
Only thing I'm asking now is to please wait till next August, when I can finish my project now. He says that's too long, and he feels I'm choosing work over him, which is not what I'm doing. I just want him to know my passion for this oppertunity, but because he's a contracter, I think he doesn't understand. He says he can't wait, and will be now or never...I was shocked.
My best friend EX really wants to get back with me, and I honestly know we share the shame value in everything in life. Now I think I might ment to be with this guy rather than my fiance.
But I do have strong feeling for my fiance...I'm in a total reck.
How can I aproach my fiance now? Should I just forget about all of my passion for him? I don't know what to do...

2007-11-21 00:42:43 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Has anyone ever gotten married at a winery in California? Any recommendations? Thanks.

2007-11-21 00:42:01 · 2 answers · asked by Cooking Engineer (CE) 3 in Marriage & Divorce

thanx that was good answers but i hav no access to my computer i hav no body to email to and if mom finds out i miss school she'll ground me and my house phone needs charging and i hav no phione of mine and u dont wat grounding means in my house.....

2007-11-21 00:41:11 · 2 answers · asked by Tatyana F 1 in Family

I dont think i love him but i dont want to hurt him? What should i do...to tell him in a nice way?

2007-11-21 00:38:14 · 11 answers · asked by no name 3 in Singles & Dating