recently I've been tempted to look threw my hubby's text messages but I've refrained because i felt like if i did that,that would mean i didn't trust him.Lately somethings just didn't feel right so i looked & found that he was still talking to his "supposedly" one night stand flame.I mean should i stay quiet because what you don;t know doesn't hurt & i wouldn't have found out if i didn't look right?? i dont know what should i do??
2007-11-21 01:03:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to talk to him. Yes, you shouldn't have been snooping, but your intuition told you to. If he had nothing to hide, then he'd hide nothing.
Talk to him in a non-confrontational voice so that he won't immediately get defensive. Ask him why he is talking to her. Tell him you don't want him to talk to her anymore and that if he does talk to her, he is doing it knowing full well that he is outright hurting you. If he cares about you at all, he won't do it anymore.
If he continues to do it, I'd cancel his cell phone number and get him another one. You can usually just call the cell phone company and they will change the number once with no charge to you.
It is not good at all that he is talking to her. Don't let him tell you that it's okay and that you are being paranoid. You know better. Good luck.
2007-11-21 01:08:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody knows him like you do, your instintic was telling you that there was something wrong, yes you should definately say something, and dont let him turned it around on you because you went thru his messages, what he is doing is not right, stick up for yourself, and dont let him walk all over you, trust is earned and it sounds like he has been doing a good job at earning your trust. I dont think you could live with the doubt of him cheating on you again, somethings got to change, cause deep down even if you dont say anything you know what is going on. How can you stay married with someone that is cheating on you.
2007-11-21 05:15:05 · answer #2 · answered by lily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a way you have violated his trust in you by looking, but you are his wife. It sounds like you forgave him once. Only you can decide how many more times you are going to forgive. Since this seems to be on-going go ahead and let the cat out of the bag, and let the fur fly!!
2007-11-21 01:24:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's cheating to me. Go with your gut feeling.....no need to tell him about checking his phone. But you can indicate that you know he is still in touch with her.
He is the one in the wrong here....don't let him lay a guilt trip on you for checking up on him, when he has done it before.
2007-11-21 01:34:27 · answer #4 · answered by Chatterbox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should just confront him about, and ask him whats going on. if you dont feel right about something thats usually because something isnt right. you need to find out the deal before its too late
2007-11-21 03:00:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two need counseling and a lot of open honest conversation. He cheated and you don't trust him, with good reason. It's time to seek help.
2007-11-21 03:15:30 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage counseling before you need to see a lawyer. Things don't feel right because they aren't right. You already know that.
2007-11-21 01:06:55 · answer #7 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down with him and ask him if something is wrong, tell him that you know something is up you can feel it. see what he says and then get to the bottom of things. Communicate with him.
2007-11-21 03:03:10 · answer #8 · answered by jennajade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds all-around-crappy to me. Why would he be talking to an old one-night stand???
2007-11-21 01:05:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about it. maybe hes just talking to her because she's a client or something. But if he truly is talking to her behind your back, get a marriage counsler.
2007-11-21 01:09:58 · answer #10 · answered by ayyayaii sara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋