2007-11-21 07:49:32 · 19 answers · asked by kimberly k 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes, you are just not attracted to him.
2007-11-21 07:53:35 · answer #1 · answered by sarcastic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love him but you hate the way things are between the two of you. Have both of you tried to fix what was wrong or did you just call it quits? Did you try everything possible including going to marriage councelling? After two people have been married together for a long time we tend to forget what made us fall in love with the other. We forget to do those special things we once did when we first fell in love. You probably need some closure. Talk to him.
2007-11-21 07:57:09 · answer #2 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an almost ex and feel the same way. I want to divorce him while I still love him, because I know if I stay I will end up hating him, and I don't want that. We were friends forever before we got married, hopefully it will remain that way after we get divorced. Your feelings are normal, well I hope they are since I am in the same boat as you. Good luck!!!!
2007-11-21 07:54:24 · answer #3 · answered by Josh0607 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's very possible to love someone but just not want to be married to them anymore. I think that when we love someone so much that it hurts, it's almost impossible to live with them anymore. So who can blame you? however, if you think that it's just too much, then I don't think that you're making the wrong decision by leaving. BUT...if there's any way that you could possibly hold out, I would encourage you to stay. Does that make any sense? *LOL* I guess I'm confused on how to answer this because there is no one easy answer. :-(
2007-11-21 08:04:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It makes total sense. You just have to ask yourself why you don't want to be married anymore. Do you share children? Sometimes that love can be mistaken for the romantic kind of love. I love my soon to be ex too, but not for the reasons of staying with him. As the saying goes...sometime love just ain't enough...if the problems can be worked out, I say go for it...if not, go on about your business.
2007-11-21 07:57:04 · answer #5 · answered by Shannon29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest with yourself, you are not in
love with this man, not as a husband. I'm sure you
love him as in care for him in safety and health but
not a love to spend the rest of your life with him. The
sooner you move on the better~ Oh and by the way
give me a ring when you dump him~
2007-11-24 15:30:43 · answer #6 · answered by WorldClassPlayer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it happens.
And people who admit this have a greater chance of having a civil relationship later on, in case they have children together.
Many people who are miserable in a marriage and cannot decide to call it quits end up hating their spouses on the long run. So I guess it's better to do what you are doing now.
Good luck.
2007-11-21 11:48:25 · answer #7 · answered by Nena S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can love a certain side of him but not the other. We all have good qualities and bad qualities. You admire the good, but despise the bad ones. Unfortunately, the bad ones outweigh the good, and makes living with him difficult. You have to do what is right for you, and take care of yourself. Good luck.
2007-11-21 07:52:55 · answer #8 · answered by Paulus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Quite common actually.
2007-11-21 08:48:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, my parents divorced 15 years ago and are better friends now then when they were together!
2007-11-21 07:52:49 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. Jack Sparrow ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Same with my wife.. She loves me but is not in love with me she says... No attraction whatsoever... We are separated and I am waiting for some kind of reconcile, but doubt it...
2007-11-21 07:58:04 · answer #11 · answered by ray s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋