Im here in Norway he is in Philippines,We were married last April 2004.
We have 1 son 2yrs old his parents take care of our son.
Can this be the reasonable grounds?
1.Irresposible
2.Young 22 yrs old,immature
3.he cannot feed us
4.he is drunkard,keeps drinking
5.Our wedding is not our plan but his parents
6.He didnt take care of our son and our house
7.he lives by himself
8.No plans for the family
9.I just realized I dont love him
What else is the reason for us to be together?I dont have a boyfriend.
I supposed to separate him last december but he want to kill himself if I did it.So I gave him a second chance.i told him to take care our son and stay home and I will send money for them but he gave our son to his parents.
Help me pls.thanks
2007-11-21 08:06:39 · 20 answers · asked by sweetie29 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sorry but 3 yrs old son not 2
2007-11-21 08:07:22 · update #1
Im here in Norway to work but with a limited timed upto 2 yrs.
Im working for the better future of my son,he is my life.Im savung for his education and good future.
But my husband doesnt help and doesnt care for the future of my son.
2007-11-21 08:15:10 · update #2
It is time for you take some action. You need to straighten himself out even if you and him are not meant to be together anymore. You need to realize it is your future and your son's future. If you don't love him, why stay? Move on with your life. Take your son with you. Do not rely on someone else. You need to start taking responsibilities as well.
Hey, if other single parent can do it (either man or woman), you can do it too. Take one step at a time, don't rush into stupid things. You don't need a boyfriend now, you need to straighten up your life before starting another relationship.
2007-11-21 08:12:16 · answer #1 · answered by lilly_0578 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U can be my friend anytime!! I also have marriage problems. Similiar to yours. I live in usa, Texas. By the way where is Norway, so I can catch a bus and meet you half way...lol hahaha Just kidding! I also want to separated but I am very super afraid to do this. I am still on my first marriage. U can still find happiness with someone else, because you are very young and very beautiful and have only one kid. U should have no problem in finding a better man, a better happiness and a much better future.
2007-11-21 22:12:59 · answer #2 · answered by pain_of_unhappiness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you've already made up your mind, but I have to ask.. Why aren't YOU taking care of your son, and you don't even know his age?? It sounds like your husband isn't the only immature party. Get your separation (which since you're living in different countries do you even need a separation) and then get a divorce. It's not like your doing anymore damage to your child than you've already done.
2007-11-21 16:11:11 · answer #3 · answered by Jenn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love him, you don't love him. You can't pretend to love someone you have no feelings for. I will say having a child together (at any age!) but so young might make your decision harder than it should be, because personally I think kids should have 2 parents, but if he's really drinking and not paying attention to your child or you you should leave him and find someone who makes you truly happy. It may get hard, but in the end it will be worth it.
2007-11-21 16:10:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not happy then leave...I could prob. give some good advice but at the end of the day it's just up to you..you either want to leave him or you don't. So get on with it before you wake up one day and you realize your life has past you by while you were unhappy all along.
2007-11-21 16:09:44 · answer #5 · answered by CRYSTAL S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do have grounds, of course. It does get complicated when there is a child involved, and you are both in different countries. You probably should look into divorce procedure in the country where you married.
2007-11-21 16:12:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
seems to me you already knew all this going in to this marraige , yet while you are off and about , Your son doesnt have a Mother !! Its easy to blame another for ones own faults.....If you knew this behavior and you did...why did you have a child with him ? And you say its future for your son when in reality its life of Yours and your son is doing without..a mother and a dad !! And there are jobs everywhere and there are many ways to make a living without seperation from your chuld.....seems he is the one who got seperated from it ALL !!!!!!
2007-11-21 20:46:39 · answer #7 · answered by hghostinme 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce-the threat to kill himself is just that-- a threat to keep you living like you are-don't listen to that! Its no reason to stay in a very bad situation
2007-11-21 16:10:36 · answer #8 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what the hell are you thinking if he can't take care of you and the child as a family he is no man at all........if he can't put the bottle down then put him down.even if he says he will kill himself he just saying that cuz he doesn't want to lose you,its only mind games.
2007-11-21 16:13:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
do what your stupid heart desires.. because that's what put you in this situation in the first place, right ? but i suggest you take care of that son you have and leave the drunkard alone forever. forget about him and never think about him ever again ! because he will never again be worth your time .
2007-11-21 16:11:13 · answer #10 · answered by Katie C 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋