Hello I'm scared for my mom I think she's way over-protective. Hearing from other's "over protective" mom stories my mom is going a little extreme. No, I don't want my belly button peirced or to get a bigger allowence but as being 14 I think I should get a little freedom. Some examples are: When she is in the shower I'm not even allowed in the front OR the back yard PLUS I have to lock all the windows and doors when she is in the shower. Another ove-protective example is she wont even let me walk down to the park that's half a block away. Last time I walked down to the park alone she beat me with a belt. "If I ever see you go down to the park alone again I'll beat you within an inch of your life" so this pretty much ruins my life and I can't do much about it. She wont take me any where either unless school. I love my mom but If she wont let me have any freed om I don't know what I'll do she just wants me home at all times she wont even let me play in the street. any advice? -tula
2007-11-21 07:35:58 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yes she is, but speaking as a mom who has a 19 yr. old son, it's hard to see you grow up. She does need to begin at some point to trust you & allow you some freedom though. When the time comes that she does don't abuse it. I always told my son that he represented our family when he's out on his own & to always remember that & make us proud. Are you an only child-or maybe the oldest? Both tough situations for you. Just keep showing her that you are a mature young lady,and nicely asking her & telling her about your friends being with you. Has she met your friends ? that helps. She will come around at some point. It's hard to let go in this day with all the weird stuff going on. Good Luck!
2007-11-21 07:52:39 · answer #1 · answered by Karebear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHe is definatly over protactive. She treats you like you are two! wow! When my mom takes showers all she says is lock the door. She lets me cook and everything. She lets me go running through the nieghbor hood or walk as long as I am home before it is too dark and if I am out past dark I always have a cell phone with me. Thats crazy I am sooo sorry for you I thought my mom was over protective because she won't let me wear a bikini but wow! Hearing your story I apreciate my freedom alot more! Okay ask her if you can go to the library or movies with freinds and give her all the details tell her what your going to see or be doing tell her whos going and what time tell her you can even get a ride. If she says no ask her why and be very mature about tell her that your 14 and you really want to go. Ask her shes going to do when you go to college have a copy of your schedual and walk you from class to class? Tell her your going to be totally safe and that you really need to start having a life and that you hate being locked up in the house all the time.
2007-11-21 15:46:23 · answer #2 · answered by soxs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to your school counselor and see if you can set up something for family counseling. I think that something must have happened to her when she was growing up or something because that is WAY out there. I can see having doors locked, I can see you not going to the park by yourself, but the rest is a bit silly. I feel for you, hopefully things will get better!
2007-11-21 15:46:32 · answer #3 · answered by Captin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go to your mother right now and tell her thanks for being so protective. There are alot of parents who wish they would have been like your mom. This world is soooooo mean.
It doesnt take but a minute to be kidnapped. That leads to rape or even killed.Be patient,your time is coming and you will get all the freedom you want. Your mom just loves you.
2007-11-21 15:44:48 · answer #4 · answered by tkphillipsinnc 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's over protective because she cares for you and your well being. Maybe from her past experience or someones elses she doesn't want something bad happen to you. It's a crazy world out here. ask her to put you in a self defense class, then ask her if you can go outside, one day you'll have to learn to be on your own she can't protect you forever.
2007-11-21 15:46:14 · answer #5 · answered by tuyet 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG my mom was the same way. except i wouldn't have to lock the windows, only the doors.
she's really only doing it because she's scared someone will kidnap you. maybe there's like a kidnapper or sex offender or someone living on your street.
i really don't think there's anything you can do about it. i guess you could talk to her to find out why she's so protective, but chances are she's still going to treat you the same.
2007-11-21 15:41:27 · answer #6 · answered by xoerika 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to her and let her know not in a complaining way that u wabt a lil more freedom tell her to drop u off @ a friends house and have her pick u up let her know where u are and maybe if she got a hobby she would leave u alone a lil bit
good luck !!!!!!!
2007-11-21 15:41:29 · answer #7 · answered by hollistersocallove13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
speak to her about it if that doesn't work talk to a realative or a family freinds or even a teacher
2007-11-21 15:39:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW. Yeah she is, and soon you may go wild and crazy from being babied.
2007-11-21 15:40:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well according to the law she can do whatever she wants with ur life till ur 18.. all u can do is bear with her and dont argue and maybe ull get along... i cant contorl wat ur mom does but all u can do is folo her rules
2007-11-21 15:41:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋