I have been married about 4.5 yrs the marriage on a whole has been very emotionally rocky for me because i am treated like property and ignored.I am going to be turning 26 yrs old soon and my husband is 39 yrs old we have a daughter(adopted)who is 3.5 yrs old after i could not concieve even though i had no medical issues.Looking back i think i was more infatuated with the gifts he was giving me but it felt like love at that time.I never saw his cold nature and also did not see any of the controling nature or the physical abuse but it did come.The trade off to his controling nature was that he allowed me to buy whatever i wanted.But after our last fight where i ended up needing stiches was the last straw.How do i act at thanksgiving knowing that the day after while he's in California on business i'm leaving him ?
2007-11-21 07:54:57 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
P.S I'm not going to bother to tell him i am leaving .We will be going to my families house and his.
2007-11-21 07:56:55 · update #1
Just act normal. That is all you can do. Act normal infront of your family, and his, and also when you are alone. You do not want him to know or suspect anything. That could cause a bigger fight and more stiches.
2007-11-21 08:00:44 · answer #1 · answered by sarcastic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if you mind is made up on participating in the holiday just act normal.
Participating as a family at all is a lie so if your going to do it do it right so everyone else is comfortable for the day.
I hope you really leave and that you and your daughter have a safe life.
2007-11-21 16:00:35 · answer #2 · answered by Why I oughtta... 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They say if you marry someone for money, you earn every penny of it. Good luck, I hope he's not like that dude in Sleeping With The Enemy, that tries to track you down and kill you if you leave him. Julia Roberts ended up having to kill him eventually, you might want to buy a gun or take self defense classes like Jennifer Lopez in her movie about the same thing.
2007-11-21 16:04:33 · answer #3 · answered by Billy Voltaire 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Act as 'normal' as you can if it mandatory that you go to both families Thanksgiving events. It is a VERY good thing to hear you are leaving him...you & your daughter deserve so much more. Good luck !
2007-11-21 16:05:47 · answer #4 · answered by *~*love always*~* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't put up a front. Go ahead and do it now. Forced awkward situations are useless. Go ahead and leave and use the weekend to get your things in order. Don't give him a chance to abuse you again. What a coward.
2007-11-21 16:03:47 · answer #5 · answered by No one 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mindy... You are in my prayers. You need to act like nothing ever happend. You don't want him doing anything more to you than he's already done before he leaves on his trip. Furhtermore... Congratulations for getting yourself and your child out of that situation. Just please don't get talked back into returning when he does. He will be apologetic... he will plead, and he may even threaten... but don't go back. If not for yourself... for your daughter.
2007-11-21 16:02:43 · answer #6 · answered by hevunleigh31 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
congratulations on this step that you are taking for yourself. i think that this is the best thing you can do for you and your child. act as you have until today, keep your composure and don't let anything break you. you deserve more than a beating and i hope one day you will be able to forgive him for his actions and move on. good luck and god bless you and your family.
2007-11-21 16:40:47 · answer #7 · answered by 1monkey2butterflies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Act the same as you have been for the last while. That is why you have been planning on doing this while he is away. right.
2007-11-21 16:04:14 · answer #8 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wait until after the holidays leave now.
2007-11-21 16:00:14 · answer #9 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
-Be sure to act as if nothing is wrong or it could escalate into something dangerous for you and your daughter-contact domestic violence they can help you-please be careful if he finds out -he could harm you -most women are killed trying to get out of a marriage!
2007-11-21 16:04:12 · answer #10 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋