Family & Relationships - 8 November 2007

well im dating this guy and i know he loves me, but im not sure that i love him. ive never been in love so i dont know what its like. i think about him all the time and want to be with him a lot , but id rather be with my friends than him and im embarressed to show him to my parents. but i really never stop thinking about him. i just dont know if i love him or not! any opinions?

2007-11-08 03:05:15 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

we have only been married a yr (lived together for 2 yrs before getting married) i have never denied him sex, in the begining we had sex 3 x's a day, i give him oral sex and i have masturbated him myself. lately though we dont have sex unless i initiate it. i have been finding towels and things that he is masturbating in and then he hides them - i confronted him and told him i dont care that he is masturbating but to please put the dirty towels in to be washed instead of hiding them in with clean clothes or under the bed etc. i also told him he can have sex whenever he wants it and his reply was that i dont want sex - i told him i do but that i would like for him to initiate it once in a while - im tired of kissing his *** for sex - i dont think i should be the one to initiate all the time. i know hes not cheating and he doesnt look at porn in magazines - a few times we have watched porn on tv but it doesnt seem to arouse him. what is going on? is it him or am i just being paranoid?

2007-11-08 03:04:44 · 15 answers · asked by anitaeric2004 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My acquaintance got mad because apparently someone sent him and email saying that he is a fat, ugly nerd who cant get woman. Some people I know laughed at it when I told them about it and they said they dont see the problem its true. He wants to report it to the dean and told me its abuse. Is this really abuse if this was not involving any threat or physical harm or does my acquaintance need to toughen up and be a man?

2007-11-08 03:03:45 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I've been living with my on again off again boyfriend for about a year and half. Well, we just haven't been getting along lately at all and it's been really hard to live together. Anyways, he always throws up in my face "I was the one who told you we shouldn't have gotten together, we should've remained friends/roomates instead of getting involved" Ok, so last night I went to my girlfriends house and we drank a bit. I called him around 2 to let him know I wasn't going to drive and I was just going to crash at my girlfriends place. "he says, your full of **** you whore...skank...tell him I said you can stay there" Now does that sound like someone who just wants to be roomates!? I didn't do anything wrong, and he just treats me like total crap. I called him today and he answers the phone "what" like I was bothering him. I just don't know what to do. Any advice?

2007-11-08 03:02:47 · 17 answers · asked by Miss Amber 3 in Singles & Dating

Even if you are trying to make the changes?

2007-11-08 03:01:11 · 8 answers · asked by softkisses4707 5 in Singles & Dating

Here is my problem, my future husband has 2 neices that he is very close to that are the ages for a jr. bridesmaid and a flower girl. however I have 3 very close family friends and there daughters 2 are the ages for being a flower girl and one is the age to be a jr. bridesmaid. i don't want my wedding party to look like a elementry school play! so i have 3 amazing girls and i need to pick one for the flower girl and i have 2 amazing girls to be the jr. bridesmaid. and i only have 2 bridesmaids the maid of honor and a regular bridesmaid......what do i do !?!?!?!

2007-11-08 02:56:00 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

Is there anyone out there that feels abortion is better than adoption.Not to mention a womans decision.

2007-11-08 02:55:26 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My dear, loved friend died a couple of weeks ago after a long battle with cancer (one which she was winning until the very end). Naturally, her husband is devasted, as we all are. But they were truly two sides of the same coin. Is ther ANYthing I can do to help? I had to return to my out of state home after the funeral, but am wanting to deal with my sadness by helping him. He has loads of support in state but is so lost. ANY ideas? I am racking my brain, here but to no avail. Knowing his wife as I did, I know she'd want my husband and myself to do all we can to help.

2007-11-08 02:53:39 · 6 answers · asked by Dalice Nelson 6 in Friends

Thanksgiving is coming up soon and my husband and I currently live with his mother for the moment because he recently got laid off and we had to give up our house. Well my mother in law adores all of her daughter in laws including his ex girlfriend/mother of first 2 kids who is not really or never has been her daughter in law since they were never married. Anyway I know she is not going to leave her out when inviting guests for Thanksgiving dinner. After the kids have spent the morning with their mom at home, is it okay to take the kids and go to my family's house instead when they come to my mother in laws? I mean this is me and my husbands first thanksgiving as a married couple and I would liove to share it with his children just not her. Already i have to suck it up for Christmas. What do you guys think?

2007-11-08 02:53:01 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-08 02:51:00 · 9 answers · asked by Aquamarine 5 in Singles & Dating

I think my marriage might be over... I've only been married a month but last night out of the middle of no where my husband told me that he doesn't want me anymore and he wants me to pack and leave. His reason was that I "didn't love him" and he wasn't first in my life... because I was busy when he called me during work hours. I can't commit to a lifetime of never being busy, but I do love my husband and I show him that everyday. If I don't do the dishes soon enough he takes that as showing that I don't care about him and the new house we just bought... I don't know what to do? I don't want a divorce but last night he said some pretty unforgivable things that are just plain not true and this morning he left without saying a word. This is insane, I feel like I have no control over this, there is nothing I can do to make it better. This isn't the first time he's done this but the other times I always cried and begged... I didn't do it this time. But should I have to do that?

2007-11-08 02:50:47 · 30 answers · asked by . 2 in Marriage & Divorce

ok i have like $2000 we'll spend about $500 on the honeymoon, so for the rest of the wedding stuff like food, drinks and clothing, wedding favors, the chuppa and of course the legal fees so ill have like $1,500 for this, is this going to be possable for a wedding of about 50 to 80 poeple. we dont have to worry about the place we haveing it at my parents house so that will be free, but with all the other stuff is it going to be possable to do all this other for $1,500????

2007-11-08 02:48:46 · 16 answers · asked by Mrs T. 2009 4 in Weddings

i was with a married man for over two years until i decided to leave him..now that i have broken off with him..he sends me threats..he even posted my pictures on the net n forward it by email to cause me shame.now i m very ashamed of what he did to me by sending out emails of my pics..n he tells me there is more to come..what should i do??i m afraid of my very own safety.i called his wife to let her know what he did,n she wants to come to my house,i rejected cause i dun wan to let my whole family noe about me n him cause they will really be mad..his wife says that im joking cause i dont let her come my house to settle it,what should i do?anyone pls help..

2007-11-08 02:47:36 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

WHAT DO YOU SAY

2007-11-08 02:47:32 · 30 answers · asked by JJ 7 in Marriage & Divorce

http://weddings.theknot.com/odb/themes/realweddings/DetailView.aspx?id=16088


I tried looking everywhere but I couldn't find it!!!

2007-11-08 02:47:15 · 9 answers · asked by ♥KmaS♥ 2 in Weddings

Ok... I have been dating this guy for a long long time now. He was my first for everything... He keeps talking to his ex and promises me they are just friends. Well the girl is now my friend and she tells me that he has been telling her that he loves her and wants to be with her. He has broke up with me for her 3 times and he always comes back. Well last night we broke up and he said that he loves me and he wants to be with me but yet he wants me to share him with her. Thing is I love him and I will not share him. He says he doesnt see me doin nethang to get him back, but he is still with her and I won't share. He says I'm being mean but i see it as if you love someone you don't cheat and you don't share!!! What do I do? Do I just try and move on even though the love will always be there or do I just say forget it? I'm extremely confused! Please help! And please any hateful comments I really don't need them right now Thanks

2007-11-08 02:44:43 · 26 answers · asked by *SoUtHeRn SwEeTiE*3/17/07 2 in Singles & Dating

My friend was telling me about a tricky situation she' s in at the moment. She's been going out with her boyfriend for 5 years now but a year back they were having really big problems and considered seperating. Thankfully, it all worked out ok and they are now happy and worked through their problems. At the time, however, she confided in a male colleague at work her problems and he was very supportive. He told her she is lovely and deserved someone worthy of her. A few months ago, he asked her how things were between her and her boyfriend and she said, good because they had solved their problems and are now happy. Ever since, she says the guy at work has been a bit aloof and moody with her and whenever he sees her he goes bright red. She has asked for my advice..what should I say? What's going on here?

2007-11-08 02:43:28 · 12 answers · asked by Fluffy ♥ 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I cut her off for 2 years, now she is saying how sorry she is, and blaa, blaa, blaa, she's changed and wants to bring our family back together. I have talked to her via email, and she still acts the same. Whatever I say, she has to top it; like it's a competition thing. It's insane. No matter what, she always feel the need to be either doing better than me, making more money, happier in her marriage, kids smarter, whatever the need or situation is, she comes back to top it. Ex. my daughter is a cheeleader and son loves to read.....her daughter is a cheerleader, dancer for the band, and learning from Alex Haley...her son read heirogliphics, and Japenese. Or I may say, I cooked last night..."oh I cook every single night". Just no matter what, she feels the need to top or prove that she is better, and the funny part is....SHE LYING!!! What should I do. My intuition is to cut her back off, and call it as a lost. I only wanted our kids to grow up together b/c they are family.

2007-11-08 02:42:25 · 18 answers · asked by sassy lady 4 in Marriage & Divorce

My boyfriend of ten years has an 11 year-old son. The mother didn't put him on the birth certificate and refuses to let him see him, unless it's on her terms. We do live in different states, but we paid for the travel the two times we have gotten him. What can be done to get visitation? Does my boyfriend have any rights to his son? Also, before he can come see us this time, there has to be a document drawn up and notarized saying that she has full custody of their son. Can she legally do this considering custody was never awarded? We got a blood test last time we had him to prove that they are father and son. Any help, please?

2007-11-08 02:42:24 · 9 answers · asked by earthgirl 2 in Family

2007-11-08 02:40:54 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

have you or anyone you know moved at when you were 18? How did you like? Was it worth it? Please details!

Thank you.

2007-11-08 02:40:25 · 6 answers · asked by Kim 1 in Family

Can a parent (living) sign over his rights to his parents? Can the grandparents or an aunt/uncle adopt this child and then take over having the child every other weekend, holidays, etc? State of Alabama. Child lives in other state. Help. Anyone heard of this being done?

2007-11-08 02:40:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Assuming the father is your spouse/boyfriend and you didn't cheat. Men: How would you feel if you found out about it years down the road?

2007-11-08 02:39:54 · 15 answers · asked by Tristan Robert Due March 20 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I lived with my husband parents for five years. We got married in 2001. I moved in with his parents in October 1999. Is this too long. I think it is.What about you?

2007-11-08 02:36:24 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I bought 12 eiffel tower vases frosted white 28". I also bought 280 white feathers and 45 black feathers. The feathers are exceptionally good. There the best feathers you can buy. These are first quality ostrich plumes that have been bleached white and run from about 21 to 25 inches long.

I checked on ebay and they are selling their feathers of the same length for $7.50 a piece. I paid $3.00 for each. I want to sell them but should I mark the feathers up? They are new and you can't even tell I used them. For all of my feathers it would be $975. On ebay they are selling theres for $2587.50 for that many.

FYI: I got a great deal on the feathers which is why mine are so much cheaper.

Anyway, back to my question. I want to sell them but should I sell them for $3.00 or should I up it? No silly comments please. What do you think?

picture in the link below. 345 feathers total
http://community.theknot.com/cs/ks/photos/lacydimattia/images/127715/original.aspx

2007-11-08 02:34:47 · 12 answers · asked by Bubblelips 4 in Weddings

I really like my friends and spending time with them, but they have been really rude to a fat girl, this girl is really nice once you get to know her but my friends keep commenting on her in a rude way, annoying her and telling harsh jokes on her and all this in front of her; I have inquired and found out that her fatness is due to some medication and not because of eating. I began thinking that if I wasn't thin or pretty, maybe they would treat me the same; I tried to make them stop but they only laughed it off and said I am being very sentimental; she doesn't have any friends; She takes depression pills and skips school. I am really worried. please I need all the advice I can get to help her, for although I like my friends alot, I konw i can never forgive myself if anything happens to her and believe me it might !!

2007-11-08 02:30:09 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

i have so many problems with my mom,she never treated me like her doauther.i'm in pain,i'm not happy at all,she limmited me i cant see my friends,go out,she behaves me very bad,she hates me,i can't tolerate her,she didn't listen to me,please help me i really get depress.thank u.

2007-11-08 02:28:34 · 5 answers · asked by Sadaf E 1 in Family

My boyfriend went to order my engagement ring on Tuesday. When he went to pay for it his check declined.. He called the bank because he has money in it and they had put a hold on it since he hadn't used his savings account for over a year. They told him it was fine to use. He went back last night to order it again and the same thing happened. He is waiting on the bank to call him back? Does anyone else think this is just a bad sign and maybe it isn't right?? My boyfriend doesn't believe in stuff like this, but I do.. What are your thoughts??

2007-11-08 02:28:01 · 23 answers · asked by silverchick_8 4 in Weddings

Now he tells me he is "damaged" and that he is a terrible person. "If I only knew"... While we have been together he has told me that he's never been tempted to cheat on me and sex has never been a real necessity for him. BUT - if he didn't cheat, is he guilty of something and that's why he wants a divorce?

2007-11-08 02:26:59 · 31 answers · asked by anike007 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Im just wondering if anyone else is in a similiar situation.. my now husband and i were talking about getting married, clearing debt, buying a house and having a baby! We were very excited about getting our lives on track and cleaning up our act! Well we got an unexpected surprise! We were pregnant, we were very happy but when we realized just how much debt my hubby had we were very very scared. I have no credit and he has horrible credit! He still owes from school (which he never even used his degree!) We are renting now and we struggle from time to time but we are doing ok. I want to buy a house and have another baby in the next 5 years but im terrified we will never be able to. He is a carpet installer which means every other season he has very little work=very little money. And i am a stay at home mom and i work 2 nights a week as a waitress. because of his schedule thats all i can do.Have any of you ever been in this type of situation? And did you ever buy a house?

2007-11-08 02:26:05 · 25 answers · asked by jacksgirl711 1 in Family