my friends are being rude to a fat girl?

Question

I really like my friends and spending time with them, but they have been really rude to a fat girl, this girl is really nice once you get to know her but my friends keep commenting on her in a rude way, annoying her and telling harsh jokes on her and all this in front of her; I have inquired and found out that her fatness is due to some medication and not because of eating. I began thinking that if I wasn't thin or pretty, maybe they would treat me the same; I tried to make them stop but they only laughed it off and said I am being very sentimental; she doesn't have any friends; She takes depression pills and skips school. I am really worried. please I need all the advice I can get to help her, for although I like my friends alot, I konw i can never forgive myself if anything happens to her and believe me it might !!

Answer 1

they sound like very shallow people who have a lot of growing up to do... sounds like you would have a better, more loyal friend in said "fat" girl... so I guess it depends on whether you are looking for a clique or sincerity in those you associate with

Answer 2

Just remember "What goes around comes around" what your "friends" are doing is awful. You need to walk away from their jokes and remove her from the situation. Unfortunately skinny people or popular people have no idea how hard it can be on the other side. You have to treat people the way you want to be treated and not hang with people that are so mean. Ugly does rub off. So go check on her, and spend more time with her and maybe your "friends" will want to know why you want to be her friend, so you can tell them how nice she is. Good Luck and remember those school years don't last forever and in the real world beauty is only skin deep. Show them your beauty goes all the way to your heart.

Answer 3

If I were you I would talk to your friends about this and tell them that they are being very insensitive and not the kind of friends you wish to have in your life. If they laugh at you and such things I would just end the friendships right then and there. You seem like to nice of a person to hang out with such a crowd. You should set the standard and your friends might follow. I believe your friends are rude to her because in this false view of what beauty is by the world standards they feel they don't quit match up and they see something of themselves in her.

Answer 4

Well first and foremost, I find it quite difficult to trust friends who are casually rude to others. It only indicates to me that most likely, they're capable of doing the same to me. They've branded you sentimental but in reality, they're simply insensitive. They believe there is nothing wrong with that type of behavior. There are people who have learned the hard way on the account of being rude to people they don't know and simply for no reason at all. I'd discuss it with them. I'd be upfront about it letting them know that what they're doing isn't cool and it can only reflect badly upon them. I highly doubt they'd want to earn the reputation as being troublemakers, I don't think they'd be able to handle the backlash of that. But at the same time, it's difficult to change others. For all they know, that girl could end up lashing out at them. It happens. I wouldn't want others to place me in the same boat as them on the account that I hang out with them. Others would assume that I'm the same way. Regardless of appearance, people will always find something to pick at you about. No matter how petty it may be. Approach the girl in a non-threatening manner. Let her know that if she ever needs someone to talk to, you're there. Even if she ignores or disregards you, just remain open about it. I'm unsure as to what she's going through but there may be different issues she's facing besides being teased. You never know.

Answer 5

This is mean and it might lose you a friend or two, but it will work. Everyone and I mean everyone has a flaw or flaws that can be picked on. So when one of them starts in on the fat girl, look her over real good and ask her "How would you like it if someone made fun of your buck teeth, or you big nose" or whatever their flaw is. Now this is cruel, but so are they and the only way they might see it is if you hold up a big mirror to their behavior and let them see how it feels.

Answer 6

just be there for her as a true friend and spend time with her . Tell her its ok to be fat, its not a disease.

Just tell her to love herself and not to curse her own self . This is no good . She should be proud of whatever god has given her. She should live for herself not for hopeless people who comment on her fatness.Tell her to respect for herself.

Try to be nice to her and show her the fashion shows and all other things on the Internet done by the heavy weight people.

And yes I don't know which grade she is in. if she is in teens Tell her not to worry she will reduce as she grows and meanwhile she can check out some exercises.

Be happy and Keep smiling always.

God bless you and your friend.

Answer 7

This is a toughie :\
You need to make it clear to your friends that they're being impolite, and that's not cool. It sounds like this poor girl has been through a lot, and she doesn't need any more problems. What she needs is a good friend. It might be really hard to sorta distance yourself from your friends, but I think you should, and you should definitely become close to this girl to see if you can help her in any way. She probably just needs a friend her own age that she can talk to :)
Good luck!! It's sweet of you to care about helping this girl.

Answer 8

You're such a sweet girl.

Befriend her, show her that you care a lot! A depressed person may be comforted when someone started showing care, which makes him/her realize, "I have someone who cares for me!"

Note: You don't have to tell her how bad your friends have been acting to make her feel better. I'm sure since she's that nice, she would be understanding.

"True friends love you for who you are, not for what you have." And just an additional..."nor for your good looks."

"It is what's inside that matters most."
And I can see that you have a good heart:)

Just be kind to both sides; your friends and the girl

Probably, ask your friends casually, like, "Hmmm...I'm wondering what you guys would feel if you're in her shoes."

But don't try to offend them or be angry at them.
They've just lost their conscience.
Help them find their conscience...

Good luck;D

Answer 9

Cause they taking avenge of you they maybe think that your cool to hang out with or look pretty ignore them they maybe want to be popular so they pick on you I'm going though the same thing it's not the look I don't care it's just that if they pick on you give some messages and say back off!

Answer 10

Well sounds like you either need to tell your current friends good bye or tell them they can either leave the young lady alone. I know you have tried to tell them to stop making rude comments about her but how hard have you really tried? they need to back away and get to know this young lady as you did. invite them all over for a game night (movies) and they will get to know her. They may act different when they are not in school.

I hope this is helpful!

Answer 11

Urgh! I hate those kind of people! I think you should befriend her and tell your friends of it. Spend time with her. Chat, go out. Those kind of things. Don't do it all of a sudden because she might think a wrong thing.

If they are good friends like you think they are, they won't laugh at you and will respect your decision and maybe even befriend the gilr themselves.

Try not to pity the girl. do not offend your friends in front of her.