Family & Relationships - 28 October 2007

okay ive been talking (having short person-to personconversations) and short computer-conversations with this guy in one of my classes. He seems realy nice. Problem is hes realy popular, like its not like im un-popular but hes the guy everyone says hi to in the hallways!

so yeah he seems nice, we have huged twice so far, so i would like to start a friendship with him, but he already has tons of friends. Do u think he would have room for another, more average friend like me? If yes, i find that hard to believe...please explain this to me.

if u think he is still interested in making even more frtiends, how can i let him know i would want to hang out some time? we dont realy see eachother much because we only have 1 class together.

2007-10-28 09:06:30 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

do not refer to one another as husband and wife. Do you think it is because they do not understand what marriage is?

2007-10-28 09:06:13 · 15 answers · asked by I Wanna Know 3 in Marriage & Divorce

i have a new boyfriend and my ex has said thing like he will kill him if he was to hurt me and other stuff besides that he wants to still be my friend and my boyfriend does not want me still talking to him cause he feelis that my ex wants me back which is true but my ex said that he knows i have move on should i talk to my ex still as a friend which was also my first or should i respect my boyfriend descion that i should not talk to him plus my ex talk to my brother and sisters so wat should i do!!!!!?????

2007-10-28 09:05:51 · 27 answers · asked by tati7128 2 in Friends

after 3 years of marriage he goes to his exs house ring her txts her gives in to evey demand she make as he has 2 children to her ,he provides well for his kids he pays chil support and gives her seventy pounds a week leaving us skint we have a 2 year old who always go without so to put them first .i phoned him at work recently and the secretary said is this gill his ex , he dissapears for nights coming back with no money ,he has got me in alot of debt what should i do

2007-10-28 09:02:03 · 29 answers · asked by katy l 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I just met this guy and pretty much right away we were both crazy about each other. Problem is, I have really bad anxiety. It's worse when I like someone! I worry about saying the wrong thing, being likable, "messing things up." This wouldn't be such a big deal but it's hard for me to play it cool. I want to be an easygoing girlfriend and not make him feel stressed out or like he has to check in with me. However, it's hard to be easygoing when I feel like a nervous wreck.

I feel that things could go really well with us if only I can learn to trust in him and just "let it happen. But it's so hard for me to do this! How can I manage these feelings so that the anxiety doesn't make me act to intense/nervous/controlling? I really don't want to scare him off.

2007-10-28 09:01:39 · 1 answers · asked by quirkyfunnyone 1 in Singles & Dating

My husband and i recently got married. We dated for a little over 2 years, it was a long distance relationship where he would fly once a month. And everything was great. Since we got married however, somethings have dramatically changed. When it comes down to sex, he is either too tired, his back is hurting or something else. However, none of those things are a factor when he decides he is just over frustrated and wants to just masturbate or for me to give him oral sex. it has gotten to the point for i am always accusing him of cheating on me, or not being attracted to me. I even think he has erotic chats online, because our computer is in our room, and he always asks me to leave the room when he wants to take care of it himself. I dont know what to do.

2007-10-28 09:01:23 · 6 answers · asked by Help!!!! 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I have 5 people in my wedding. Trying to plan a bacherlotte party that everyone will like. We were thinking the winieries everyone said ok except her because she does not like wine. What do I do? I don't want to have a sucky bacherlotte in some trashy bar we always go to. And with all her friends.

2007-10-28 08:56:38 · 11 answers · asked by Kelsy 1 in Weddings

a couple of months ago i found some text messages on my wifes cell phone. they were under a girls name but were talking about sex. I confronted my wife and she told me that it was this guy that we knew in highschool that i could not stand. she promised that it would never happen again and told me the reason she did it is because i acted like i didn't love her anymore and i never had time for her because i am always at work. So about a month ago i ran her credit report and it said that she had stoped working in july but she still tells me that she works. i have been paying all of the bills in the house for are whole marriage now, and yesterday i cleaned out her car and found a bunch of withdraw recipets from an acount that she has of her own for like 1600 dollars form last month. she has been telling me she has no money after paying the car payment, but yesterday i got a call from the finance company saying she has not made a payment in 2 months. she will not leave here cell phone near

2007-10-28 08:55:22 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

well, I just went to dinner with my girlfriend the other night and after that we went and walked around the mall.. first it started at dinner when she asked me if there was anything I wanted to talk about and I hesitated for a moment and she proceeded to ask me if it was a conversation to talk about privately and not around a crowd. then we went to the mall and she told me about a birthday idea that she collected glass dragons and then proceeded to say that she likes things that sparkle... my question, based on these comments, is she hinting that she is ready for an engagement ring?
we will have been dating for 2 years in Feb of 2008 and have talked about children and marriage from time to time in the past.. I love her with all my heart and she knows it. I have the ring but she doesn't know yet. and to answer any questions that may arise, we haven't slept together and we haven't kissed, but we have talked about it.

Ladies, please provide your opinion on these hints..

2007-10-28 08:55:04 · 20 answers · asked by ffpdfirefighter2002 2 in Marriage & Divorce

how do i deal with this verbal abuse? with 2 children in the house I cant just leave i have responsibilties with the house and everything. do i just stay and try to avoid him? my kids see this they have no respect for him. when he is home he plays and fights with them like they are his brothers and sisters. and im the one who has to discipline and make sure homework is done and feel bad we dont get much time for fun time. a milk commercial came on the other day and it showed the mom running outside with the kids and my son says if mom drinks more milk she will go outside and run with us. its so depressing getting called names everyday. the house i grew up in this would never happen....he obviously grew up with his family thinking this is ok.....he totally disrespects his mother like this too!

2007-10-28 08:54:57 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

He pushes me to the limit and once I snap and start going off and going all crazy, he tells me htat he was just playing. The latest fight was maybe 30 minutes ago when I asked him to take me to the store. As we pulled up to the parking lot, he told me he was annoyed. So I told him not to be because I hadn't done anything to him. I told him that Iif I hadn't done anything to him that it wasn't fair for him to act up with me. To this he responded that I HAVE TO PUT UP WITH HIM!! That set me off!!!! I started yelling and we came home instead. I told him I don't have to put up with his bulls**t. Never even made it off the car. Was I right or is it my responsibility as his wife to put up with his bulls**t?

2007-10-28 08:53:29 · 22 answers · asked by shipis 3 in Marriage & Divorce

staying outta p&s for awhile.. too many violations there.

thanks ahead of time for answering :)

2007-10-28 08:51:31 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am 13 & I've been having problems with my mom lately. She's always in a bad mood, and she's always yelling at me for something. I tried talking to her, but she is NOT the type of person who sits down and talks things out. Unlike other moms who just calmly tell their kids the problem, my mom will blow up on me, then refuse to talk to me for a few days. Her behavior has been really bad over the past year. I know she's getting put under a lot of pressure since my dad's drinking problem has worsened over the past few years, plus she works the midnight shift at work. My mom is always screaming and cursing at me if I don't do something right, and sometimes she will hit me if she's really pissed. I feel bad because my mom blames me and she says I'm the one who causes all of the family problems.

Several of my aunts and cousins have even said that she needs anger management. I understand that she's probably under alot of stress because of my dad, but I just can't take it anymore.

2007-10-28 08:48:07 · 15 answers · asked by Elle . 2 in Family

I am a new wife. How can I balance work, school, and household responsibilities? I work at home but it seems I too often neglect domestic chores for my work (I am a freelance writer). The man of the house works a really shitty job and I feel guilty that the house is such a sty.

2007-10-28 08:46:30 · 19 answers · asked by Cacaoatl 3 in Marriage & Divorce

My boyfriend is out of town and he let me borrow his truck. It is a brand new F150, and noone else has ever driven it. I was just driving it and I accidently backed into another truck. I guess the other guys damage wasnt too bad, cause he drove off. The plastic part of the bumper is scratched but you can't really tell. There is a chip of black paint about as big as a pinky nail missing from the actual truck part in the back. You can't really see it, unless you look really close. There were some white marks around the paint chip, so I tried to buff those out and they came off, but only to leave little tiny scratches in their place. If I didn't tell him, I don't know if he'd ever notice, but if he did, he'd be able to tell that someone tried to fix it---so it couldn't be played off like I didnt know. If I tell him I dont know whether to tell him now over the phone or wait till he comes back in a month. If I tell him over the phone, he may think it is alot worse. Idk what 2 do

2007-10-28 08:38:46 · 5 answers · asked by 91Bvet 2 in Singles & Dating

Are you depressed? If so why? Can I help you? Do you need a friend?

2007-10-28 08:38:27 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

my boyfriend and i have been dating for almost 10 months. i went to his grandmother's memorial dinner with his family. i've been to family birthdays, weddings, and 3 hours away to meet his grandmother. he asked me to move in with him. recently i pretty much moved all my clothes in and started staying here all the time. we volunteer with the jaycees together. we have 2 dogs, a cat, and a fish.
here's the problems.
1 i love his family - hate his mother, but never told him that.
2 he won't even discuss spending the holidays together. my family is in missouri (we are in illinois). he told me to go spend the holidays with them, but he's not coming because he has his own family. he didn't invite me to spend any time with them during the holidays.
i feel like if we can't figure out a way to compromise and spend time with both of our families... we can never get married and have kids. so if he won't discuss a common ground... is there no room left for us to grow?

2007-10-28 08:36:45 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I ask this because my wife and I found each other on Craigslist! I am asian and she is black. Yes, such pairings DO exist!

2007-10-28 08:36:41 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My ex-wife used to live on staten island, ny when we were married.
After we got divorced, she moved back in with her parents in brooklyn, ny.

With her new bf (and now 2nd husband), she then moved to Edison NJ and now Freehold, NJ.

I still live on staten island, ny and do not drive, and freehold nj is ALOT farther than edison, nj.

As my divorce decree did not address this situation, can I legally DO something about this???

Can I force her to move back to New York City, or at least, can the courts address this problem, and do i stand a chance to win??


Any help / advice would be real helpful.....

2007-10-28 08:35:49 · 12 answers · asked by Ralph G 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I have this phone that is a pay as you go phone and it is really tiny and annoying. My grandma told me she would buy me a brand new phone, but now shes saying that she'll just activate my pay as you go phone so it not a pay as you go any more. I absolutly HATE that phone, and she already told me that she would buy me a new one. I am way beyond mad, and i need some yahoo answers.

Thanks

Courtney,

2007-10-28 08:32:28 · 22 answers · asked by Courtney 1 in Family

Just started going out with a guy (five weeks). We're both 26. He phoned me once or twice in the first week but now he only texts me. He sounds alright if I phone but I feel bad because it feels like I am hassling him. I only phone him to sort out meeting up and stuff - only twice a week. Do guys find this a turn off? Why don't they like phoning girls?

2007-10-28 08:29:20 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-10-28 08:28:00 · 64 answers · asked by Mahmoud MR 1 in Marriage & Divorce

She constantly calls him, she manipulates him into having him constantly worry about her for no reason because she is always complaining about her life and two kids. She doesn't like the fact he has a girlfried and the last girlfriend he had had problems with her as well. How do I stop this manipulative girl and get the upper hand on her?

2007-10-28 08:26:29 · 26 answers · asked by kip 3 in Singles & Dating

My fiance and I are getting married in three weeks. Both of my parents are dead so his Mom has been a huge help! She has a large beautiful home and we will be having the ceremony and recpeton there. Here is the glitch ...75% of our invited guests are non drinkers and a good amount of children wil be there. But, the biggest reason we want to have no alcohol is my soon to be mother in law has a tendency to over indulge. Neither me nor my fiance want to "babysit" her or be embarrassed if she does. We are going to sit down to iron out the details next weekend. What is a polite yet efficent way to tell her there is to be no alcohol? I'm afraid it is going to be a touchy subject as it is her home. Help!

2007-10-28 08:15:53 · 17 answers · asked by Just J 3 in Weddings

I am married for 1 and a half years now. My husband is very very caring. I like him a lot. But he is not at all interested in sex life. He is very good physically, there are no problems with that. Right from the start we used to have a physical relation ship hardly twice in a month, that too if I cry for it. Otherwise even if i try to seduce he says he is not interested. Now it is hardly a month. This has created a lot of inferiority complex within me and iam just depressed to the core. I have expressed this several times to him, when I get very very depressed and cry in front of him, that is when he tries to do. When my colleagues talk about their sex life I feel like bursting out in tears but Ive never shared my story with anybody. Ive started giving pleasure to myslef now and iam ok with that, but if I think abt him during that I am losing interest and I am forced to think of some imaginary figure. I love him so much, but as he hurt me so badly I loose mood if i think of him.Advice

2007-10-28 08:15:39 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-28 08:14:40 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I told my best friend that I loved her. She rejected me, gently, but the result is the same. Over time, I realized that we were soul mates, and even on the physical level, she told me many times that she thought I was so handsome (OK, I don't mean to sound vain...that's what she said...). But after her rejection, I came to the conclusion that despite our past relationship, I cannot have contacts with her any longer, especially that I don't ever want to hear about her relationship problems with other guys. Should I just exit out of her life without saying anything else? If I do that, she will be left out on her own with no more real intimate friend and confidante...But honestly, I don't care if she is hurt, because I am hurt too and I just want her to suffer. I know it's not good to think that way, but hey, I am human too! Please serious advice only...unless its really funny and it cheers me up!

2007-10-28 08:13:19 · 4 answers · asked by Dr. Phil 6 in Singles & Dating

This guy that I "liked" wrote me this email. I don't like him anymore, but I don't know if I should be his friend after this email.
I hope you're doing fine. You asked "What do you think of me so far?" Let me tell you.

I like your personality a lot. I respect you a lot because you seem to have a very good head on your shoulders. I would like to keep you as a friend if you would like to keep me as a friend.

This is embarrassing for me to say. I prefer not to say this, but I finally feel comfortable saying this. I have an unusual preference for Korean or Chinese women. I find women from other countries attractive, but I prefer to be with a Korean or Chinese woman. This probably sounds strange. I wish I could change my preference. My preference probably started when I dated a Korean woman a long time ago. When I was a teenager, I only wanted to date a white woman. Now, I only want to date a Korean or Chinese woman.

2007-10-28 08:11:38 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i've been with my boyfriend for 7 months now and he has a little girl thats 4 years old and im ok with that but two weeks ago he found out that he has another little girl thats 5 years old. i dont want to leave him but i dont know if i can stay with him. i had to play the mother role for his 4 year old but i dont know if i can do that with the 5 year old. i want to be with him but what if i want a kid with him. it wont be anything special to him it'll only be special to me. now im third in his life because of his new little girl i dont know if i can handle it. what should i do? should i stay with him or break up with him?

2007-10-28 08:11:02 · 15 answers · asked by coolgurl 1 in Family

2007-10-28 08:08:46 · 34 answers · asked by Fall Back 2 in Singles & Dating