I am married for 1 and a half years now. My husband is very very caring. I like him a lot. But he is not at all interested in sex life. He is very good physically, there are no problems with that. Right from the start we used to have a physical relation ship hardly twice in a month, that too if I cry for it. Otherwise even if i try to seduce he says he is not interested. Now it is hardly a month. This has created a lot of inferiority complex within me and iam just depressed to the core. I have expressed this several times to him, when I get very very depressed and cry in front of him, that is when he tries to do. When my colleagues talk about their sex life I feel like bursting out in tears but Ive never shared my story with anybody. Ive started giving pleasure to myslef now and iam ok with that, but if I think abt him during that I am losing interest and I am forced to think of some imaginary figure. I love him so much, but as he hurt me so badly I loose mood if i think of him.Advice
2007-10-28 08:15:39 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm trying to understand why a man doesn't enjoy or like sex you did not mention if he was depressed so I'm assuming he isn't. Could he be gay and he is trying to hide it from his family and you. Sense you said he was like that before you were married i seriously doubt he is having an affair.
I always thought that men had to have sex to release or unload themselves or they would be in physical pain or is it really just a mental thing.
I'm so sorry you are going through this and i wish i could say something that would make you feel better. If i were you i would of had someone on the side after all he isn't doing what a husband is suppose to be doing and in my onion that's grounds for you to have a boyfriend. I really don't thing anyone here would put you down if you said you are doing
that. As far as pleasing yourself that's all fine and good but you can only take so much of that until the physical need being with a man takes over. I'm sure I'm not telling you anything you don't know all ready and for that i am sorry.
I hope things work out for you.
2007-10-28 09:30:38 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are saying that physically he is okay, how can you tell if he is not lacking in testosterone or some kind of an other deficiency?
You need to have a heart to heart talk with your husband and find out what he is thinking and how he feels about your sexual relationship.
He also needs to go and get a medical physical check up and he also needs to tell the doctor of his sexual problems with you.
I don't think anyone of us can give the right answer about this problem, get professional help.
2007-10-28 15:29:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your husband have been married for year and half he is very caring, your husband is not interested in sex life than tell me what is he interested in,If their is no intimacy with your husband at all like hugs kisses or what ever. Now you have to pleasure yourself i don't think that is cool at all.
Their has to be something going on with him being that he does not want to have sex with you. Do you think he could be under stress from working so hard. Have you tried talking to him about this problem your having. You claim that you are okay now you are not okay because every human bean want to be held and caress by their mate. Is this marriage worth you over looking the sexual part of it. Do you and your husband still communicate ,Go to god and prayer and ask him what shall he have you do.
best of luck
2007-10-28 16:02:22 · answer #3 · answered by mmurray001 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I didn't even read the rest of your post because I know where this is going. DO NOt let him make you feel bad. And do not listen to these people if they say he is cheating. Your husband might be suffering from a type of depression. I have been going through this for 6 years with my husband. He was never really into the whole sex thing. Hell, when we met I offered to let him join me and my girlfriend (hey don't kock it till you try it!) and he turned me down flat, more then once. To this day I get "I have a headache" or "I'm to tired" Bla Bla Bla! This is not your fault.
2007-10-28 15:21:07 · answer #4 · answered by Brandi 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
They have couples therapy which will touch down on the sex issue as well. Get him going to that and you guys can work through his issues together as a couple should.
2007-10-28 15:20:48 · answer #5 · answered by MJ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU could be my wife,....
if so, please remember a few things;
1. i work hard and comuting can be tiresome
2. getting amourous is not something i feel comfy doing in front of the kid
3. timing is everything, and ours stinks lately.when i give you signals you put me off or feel bad, and when you give me signals-i often put you off too.
4. being cranky is not a way to turn me on
5. it takes 2 to tango!
2007-10-28 16:05:02 · answer #6 · answered by parkermbg 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you could find a fu@k buddy. to fulfil your needs and wants. Just an idea.
2007-10-28 15:50:44 · answer #7 · answered by Geoff 62 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Explain to him your exclusive contract with him to service your plumbing needs .... if he fails to live up to the contract ... you will be forced to get another service provider.
Smile ... walk away ... wait for the reaction......
Tell him to bring flowers ......
2007-10-28 15:22:08 · answer #8 · answered by John 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Maybe your husband feels insecure about his own sexual performance? That could be why he feels uninterested in sex.
Were you with other guys before him? And were you his first? If that's the case, it's no wonder he's feeling so insecure.
2007-10-28 15:24:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋