Family & Relationships - 28 October 2007

A guy I dated for 2 years, he did not have any male friends in his life, nor careless about his relatives. He said he loved me and wanted all the attention from me. He would be angry if I met with my felmale friends or co-workers without him. His only friend was his ex wife, whenever we had a argument, he would run back to his ex and accused me that I make him leave because I wanted to make new friends while he contacted his ex al the times. They have been married for 15 years and divorced for 3 years. Why he wanted to go back to his ex when he told me that the reason why he divorced his ex, because she was so needy and controlling? Why people wanted to go back to a unhealthy relationship and keeping doing the same thing to their new partner? Are they mentally ill?

2007-10-28 03:12:09 · 11 answers · asked by Kim J 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Will you help me look for it?

2007-10-28 03:10:51 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Something went wrong last weekend and I just can't figure out what, he says nothing happend and that he is just precoccupied and busy as he has almost deminshed any contact with me. He has stopped sending me txt like he used to or calling. He even vanished for two days without any news. When I enquired he said he was out with friends. I am really scared about my relationship's future, am I just thinking too much or is he legitimately bored with me, please advise. :'(

2007-10-28 03:10:35 · 11 answers · asked by pabalu.. 2 in Singles & Dating

physically fit,intelligent,intuitive and a great guitarist musician.

2007-10-28 03:10:30 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

he was in a motorcycle accident. he was only 27yrs old. he is actually my ex boyfriend and like one of the family. he was very very close to my 3 boys, ages 6,5,and 3. we stayed like best friends even after our sexual relationship was over. now he is dead and I can't stop thinking about him. and I am so mad at him b/c he wasn't wearing his helmet and was drinking.
my question is, how can I stop thinking about him? how can I get over being mad at him? and should I tell my children? how do I tell them something like that! ugh!! I am sooo sad!

2007-10-28 03:07:11 · 13 answers · asked by gretch 5 in Friends

Okay so we've met three times now. Originally met him off myspace. We talked for 5-6 weeks before meeting the first time.
Anyway, I went to him on Thursday night after we talked for like 4 hours. He only lives 8 miles from me. Now, before we met Thursday we did a lot of "sexual" talk. We are both adults and he was talking himself up like how long he could last and blah, blah.
Anyway, I went down on him Thursday night as a "warm up" and he did his thing and COULD NOT get it back up! We tried and tried but he told me he had taken Vicodin. Anyway, I could tell he felt stupid after talking himself up. I left and yeah I was a little disappointed but oh well I like the guy.
I hear nothing from him Friday and when I get online last night he didn't say a god damn word to me! NOTHING. That's not like him at all. He always talks to me. I didn't say anything to him either but wanted him to.
So this morning I get on and his little IM icon was "offline" and it now says xxxxxmiller@hotmail.com

2007-10-28 03:05:38 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

during my colapse..she metered out a 1000 dollars to me to help me survive...should i pay her back?legally im protected from debt..

2007-10-28 02:59:25 · 4 answers · asked by polarbear5675 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

He was turned on and I really like him.
On the way home he said he liked the look of me and not to be offended.
Did he dislike my personality?
Also he was going to take my bra off and i wasn't protesting or undressing him but he changed his mind?

2007-10-28 02:58:30 · 3 answers · asked by Genie W 1 in Singles & Dating

First read this question:

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Now, financially, she has never had anything to worry about. I have given her everything she has asked for materialisticly speaking. She recently found out that based on her reasons for wanting a divorce, she will not be awarded alimony, I will not be required to pay her legal fees and court costs, and she would only be getting about 1/2 as much as she originally thought in child support because she does not have to pay for daycare. Could this be the reason she is wanting to work it out?

2007-10-28 02:58:29 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My hubby had a sort 'crisis' this time last year and he left unannounced saying that he needed to sort his head out. For months he kept me stringing along, saying that he still loved me but needed his space and he treated me really badly. I stuck with it though and although I asked him to move out and leave me alone for a while he eventually moved back in July this year. He is much better but he insists that he wants his own life and does everything he can to be like a lad and exclude me from this new life he has made. I agree that we should have our own lives but we hardly have a life together anymore. He doesn't spend a lot of time with me and he always puts his friends first; cancelling any plans with me to go out drinking with them. I feel more and more detached and keep asking myself if there is any future in this as I really want someone who puts me first and respects me. Only thing that is keeping me trying is that we have been together for 10 years.. Should I call it a day?

2007-10-28 02:57:23 · 16 answers · asked by Carrie M 1 in Marriage & Divorce

10 points will be awarded to a thorough non-plagiriser!

2007-10-28 02:46:47 · 13 answers · asked by wifgh567 2 in Singles & Dating

There is this middle-aged man who goes to my church. He is extremely smart, is in good shape (physically) and he's very personable as well.
He has a deep, sultry voice, he dresses nicely and has great eyes.
He also has a comb-over.
With all of these attributes and qualities, I am just wondering how many of us would look past that and consider him to be "dating" material.
(And if middle age is too old for you, just pretend he's w/in three years of you for answering purposes). lol.
Ladies, would you date him?

2007-10-28 02:45:59 · 6 answers · asked by YSIC 7 in Singles & Dating

well my chemistry teacher is very negative she even said it herself
well i was talking to another teacher next to her and i kind of slightly spin from side to side when i talk so as i was talking to my other teacher she says "sarah why are you wiggling stand striaght when you are talking to a teacher that is disrespect" well the school is a bit old fashioned and it is VERY strict

2007-10-28 02:42:15 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

Do men like big boobs, small boobs, or fake boobs.. please tell the truth.. thanks much !

2007-10-28 02:41:20 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Last year, all year I was in love with this absolutely amazing boy. Just to give you a quick sketch of him, he was extremely gorgeous, superbly kind, an amazing athlete, and really, really smart. We went to a tiny school (only twenty-five of us) and I wasn't the most out-going person in the world...anyway, it became clear that he "liked me" or whatever, and so we started going out. I loved it--i felt infallible. We went out for a little more than a year. I think we had ultimate trust in each other, I think I was really in love, or at least with the feeling that he gave me, of being perfect, beautiful etc. But then, in the beginning of last summer, it had to be sort of broken off, as I was going away all summer, and he was going to be at boarding school when I got back. Anyway, It wasn't all that hard this summer, because I was away from all my friends and his friends, but now that schools started again, I'm a wreck. I'm heartbroken and think Im still in love. What do I do??

2007-10-28 02:41:07 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am supposed to be getting married february 15th and I have nothing planned. I need some serious help.

2007-10-28 02:40:08 · 11 answers · asked by Hummingbird 1 in Weddings

I want to keep the cost very low. My family has a lake-house and that is one of my options. I want the option of doing whatever I want and not having to be completely by schedule. At most venues you have to come decorate at a certain time and leave and have things cleaned up at a certain time. The lake-house isn't some beautiful extravagant place. The house is some what small and only 3 bedrooms 1 bath but I believe it would just be a laid back and relaxed atmosphere. But I also want it to be nice without having to spend too much on decorations. I think with a small tent we could accomodate the party.
Also my mom thinks this is a bad location. Do you think it would just be better to a chapel or church?

2007-10-28 02:36:10 · 6 answers · asked by Kristen 2 in Weddings

2007-10-28 02:28:48 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have my own opinion of the matter,but I just want to hear your thoughts on the matter.

2007-10-28 02:24:30 · 14 answers · asked by Bobby Cow 4 in Friends

Do you manage to keep your pride intact?

2007-10-28 02:15:16 · 5 answers · asked by Yellowstonedogs 7 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-28 02:07:47 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-28 02:06:33 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I love my boyfriend so much. We've been going out for a while and I like how things are going. He's had a lot of girlfriends, broken up with them. But he and I are meant to be. But my friends hate him and they're disliking me cause i'm going out with him. People are making up rumors and they say I shouldn't go out with him because he'll end up breaking my heart which he's done to all the other girls. But this love is true and I don't know how to make them see that. He makes me so happy and it's like i'm having to choose between my happiness, and the happiness of my friends.

2007-10-28 02:06:27 · 9 answers · asked by tobelovedx32 1 in Singles & Dating

A friend of mine met her boyfriend on an online dating site. She is 42 but looks about 32. On her profile she stated that she was 32 and her picture supported this. She met a guy online and they chatted for a couple of months then he wanted to meet her. On their first meeting she told him her age as she wanted to make sure he was ok with it before getting involved with her. He didn't have a problem and they've been together for years. I'm interested in what men think of this? Personally I think it is fair enough as lots of guys dont care about the actual age but the look. If you put over 40, you often get filtered out of many searches. I'm thinking of doing internet dating and am just wondering?

2007-10-28 02:00:45 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My wife left me. She stated that the reason she left me, literally, was I play too much xbox. I found this strange because the xbox has always been what I did when I had absolutely nothing else to do. Based on previous experiences I have gone through with her, I decided to do a little snooping around. I intercepted a voicemail message from another guy that roughly said, "I don't know why rean't replying to my texts. I don't have to work today and I was hoping to come up and spend your lunch break with you. I love you with all of my heart, (her name). I don't want to screw this up." When I confronted her, she originally said, "It was a wrong number." I pointed out that not only did he call her by name, the introduction to her voicemail is our 5 year old son saying, "Leave mommy a message after the beep." Surely, any man calling the wrong number would know it after hearing that. She then told me his name and that he was psycho. She wants to come back to me. Would you trust it?

2007-10-28 01:58:18 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

gambling, lying but otherwise very nice person?

Also won't get help, says I have a problem (yeah actually dealing with things can make a person appear that way) breath smells like ammonia (metallic, egg) yesterdays beer coming out of pores etc etc

Can't hardly take it anymore but we are married and have a home and a son that adores us both, and our son is bipolar.

My son begged me not to kick him out. He is not physically abusive. He's passive aggressive.

2007-10-28 01:55:06 · 21 answers · asked by Rachel☺ 5 in Marriage & Divorce

This is so much longer than I expected it to be, so bear with me. Some background info on me first... I'm in the US military, and currently stationed in Germany, but I'll be separating soon, and heading back home to the states to go back to school. I was married a few years ago for two years, and it ended in a divorce that I didn’t want. Since then I’ve been afraid to give myself to someone. Until recently, I had been single for about two years. I'd been out on plenty of dates, and hadn't met anyone who I felt a connection with. I recently came back to Europe after a four month deployment to the Middle East, and I decided a few months before I left that I was not going to date anyone before I headed back to the states, because I didn't want to leave Europe with any regrets.

Life sometimes doesn't agree with the choices we make for ourselves. I met someone while I was deployed, and initially had no interest in giving him a chance. It took some work on his part, but I opened up, and now I have found someone who I have an amazing connection with. He is in the Royal Air Force, lives in England, and I’ve known him for about 4 ½ months. We decided 2 ½ months ago that we wanted to be exclusive. At this point we have a long distance relationship (we are both back in Europe now), something I promised myself I would not do. For now, it’s rather easy for us to see each other, since flying in Europe is cheap and easy. But in a few months, when I move, I just don’t know what is going to happen.

Let me just say, I KNOW that we have not been together long, so don’t need anyone to tell me that. But that is the problem. By the time I leave, if everything keeps going the way it is going now, we will have been together about six months. And then what? It is not long enough to make any major decisions, but I don’t know if I can bear such a distance between me and someone I am dating. Even if he wanted to come to the US to see what happens, he could only stay a few months without a visa. Our options are so limited. We can maintain the distance, but never really get a chance to be together and know if we have a future, or we jump in head first to something I am not ready for. Really the only way for us to be physically together, because we are citizens of different countries, is to get married, which is ridiculous, and not an option I would consider so soon. It’s so hard because I feel things for him I never expected to feel again so soon, and I’m trying to keep my head straight and not make any rash decisions. Ugh…

Any thoughts? Again, sorry so long, if you made it through the whole thing, thanks!

2007-10-28 01:54:44 · 4 answers · asked by Flygirl 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-28 01:52:59 · 19 answers · asked by jewel 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My husband wants me to gey my 2 kids a baby sitter and he wants me to go to a maotel for the night and leave late tomorrow. I'm not sure why because he said himself we spend plenty of time together and that the motel is a susprise our anniversery is soon he also said this has nothing to do with our anniversary.
I NEED HELP WHAT DO YOU THINK HES GONNA DO AND WHAT DO YOU THINK HE WANTS

2007-10-28 01:50:53 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

again....curiousity.

2007-10-28 01:49:07 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating