How do you manage to continue living with insane or severely mentally unbalanced spouses?

Answer 1

I tried that for many years. It's very difficult to do. I ended up getting divorced after he tried to kill me and then held my children hostage in a 4 hour police stand off. I still grieved the loss of my marriage, and even though I'm remarried I still have issues with men and still grieve the loss of my origanal family. But, I don't have any regrets!! i stuck it out for as long as I could take it and I tried my best to make it work. But, it didn't work. I'm glad that I tried so hard though. It won't be easy to leave, if that's what you decide to do, you will still have problems with him, that doesn't go away. But, I knew it was time to divorce way before I left, and I feel a little guilt in staying so long and letting thing escalate to the point of me and my children being put in danager. From one girl to another, leave when you know in your heart that it's time. Until then keep trying your best. Good luck

Answer 2

I wouldn't.

Simple as that, if you continue to live with an insane or a severely mentally unbalanced spouse, do you know that harm that they can possibly to do you or your children??

I would get out, take everything that matters to me, animals, children, ANYTHING and get out, go to a relatives house, or a shelter, and then file for a divorce and get away from him or her as far as possible and get my life back, and my feet underneath me again!

Answer 3

I'm agreeing with Suz on this one. Unfortunately, mine didn't make the effort to get help. I just wish I would've been more "aware" of what I was dealing with.

But this is not the answer to your question. It basically comes down to your choice. You can become empowered with as much knowledge as possible. You can "manage" only yourself with taking care of yourself in order to continue living. Seek counseling for yourself to understand what your limits are in the marriage, and what is considered "normal" vs "abnormal" in the relationship.

It can be done with both of you trying to achieve a balance mentally and emotionally.

Answer 4

Is the spouse actively seeking medical care? Following his/her doctor's orders? Taking his/her medicine as the doctor has prescribed?

If spouse is NOT doing the above, then I would feel no obligation to remain with spouse.

I would give an ultimatum. Spouse has until xx-xx-xxxx date to be following doctor's orders and taking meds as prescribed. Spouse must go to all doctor appointments, not missing any. If doctor wants spouse in the hospital, then spouse must be in the hospital.

If spouse refuses to do so by xx-xx-xxxx date, then you need to follow thru. Contact an attorney, and seek a divorce. Good luck to you.

Answer 5

If its medical insanity, then you show support and seek medical attention. At worst, get them institutionalised with regular visits. But if its the acting ones,like the one i have who can behave irrationally, then you calculate your exit. Make sure all documents are signed with your name as well. Be careful though, don't give any hints, and when he least expects it show him or yourself the exit. Whichever you've worked out to be the best. Make sure you get a good lawyer. You need to be paid for all the time you put up with it.
But seriously, if its a medical problem, they need your love and care. All the best but act quickly, deliberate insanity is contageous. It can make you act the same.

Answer 6

There is no reason in the world for you to do that. A temporary separation might be just the thing for the unbalanced one to seek help!

Answer 7

If it were easy to live or cope with an insane or severely mentally imbalanced person, mental hopitals would be virtually empty. Good luck.

Answer 8

I would say this, if you knew the person was this mentally imbalanced stick by your decision unless you are in danger and encourage them to get help. You entered this marriage knowing this person was mentally unstable. If, on the other hand, you didn't know and were deceived, I would get out of the marriage.

Answer 9

It depends on the condition. If someone is a danger to you, you don't. If someone is very ill, losts of love and patience. Remember, you vowed through sickness and health. Mental illness is no different than physical conditions. You made a promise.

Answer 10

Has there been an actual diagnosis for their mental condition? Imma tell you what...it aint easy. I caught pure hell from a bi-polar woman. Even with medication, it was hard to maintain a healthy relationship. So watch out and be careful---before you find yourself changing and becoming "crazy".