Do you manage to keep your pride intact?
2007-10-28 02:15:16 · 5 answers · asked by Yellowstonedogs 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no that would be so heartbreaking for anyone especially if it was a long time relationship!
time & staying very busy sport walking etc & mourning it & helping others hope its not you my yellowstonedoggie xxxx
2007-10-28 10:06:01 · answer #1 · answered by ausblue 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Just think really hard, !! if he dumped you, then he sure isn't worth it. You are far worth more than how he treated you. When you love yourself and have self respect . you will survive and move on. Time heals a broken heart. Don't waste too much of your time on someone who didn't recognise how wonderful you are. Give that wonderful and beautiful sel to someone who will really appreciate it!! Thats why when you fall in love. Dont give your whole self, you gotta hold on to something and it's called Self respect. Keep the mystery surrounding you, Because when they get to find out all about you, the mystery fades and somepeople get bored.
So always keep the mystery!!!!
2007-10-28 02:22:03 · answer #2 · answered by angelic 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i had 4 bfs, and each bf i had tried to work things out for 2 years each. and i have experienced major break ups 4 times already. in each time, i really put in all of me and ended up very broken hearted.the first time i had a bf and broke up with him, i immediately jumped into another relationship. that became a cycle for me. until finally, after the 4th bf, which only lasted for a couple of weeks, i made a pause in this cycle which i have been doing for a long time.7 years and 2 weeks to be exact. the first ex bf and the 4th ex bf both instigated the break up. the 2 ex bfs in between, i was the one who initiated. it was because i was afraid. i knew i was afraid to be alone or to face the fact that my relationship did not work, after putting in all i've got.i felt frustrated that i am already a few years nearing my 30s, and yet i could not find the right guy or the right relationship. anyway, what made me move one was that i allowed myself to MOURN my lost. i allowed myself to feel the pain of losing someone and fought the urge to be on the rebound. i ate a lot, i did not go to office, i stayed in bed the whole day. i stared in the tv the whole day. i allowed myself to be a mess. i knew i could not afford the luxury of wallowing because it also affected my job and relationship with friends and even my family. but i had to isolate myself because i would not even be able to extend to my friends and family if i dont have me. i would just release negative vibes towards them. but while i allowed myself to mourn and feel the lost, i also allowed myself to heal and learn to FORGIVE myself for the things i could have done but i was never able to do for myself and the guy i was with.i also prayed for me and for my ex's that they find someone who would make them happy. this made me feel stronger because i realized that i should not FOCUS ON ME. as they say, 'it plays 2 to tango.' and therefore, i stopped playing the ONLY victim in the circumstance that i let myself get into. i realized that those guys did what they had to do because of reasons that they think that were the right thing to do. so anyway, while i was releasing myself from all those hurts i cause and they have caused against me, i found a new love, effortlessly. and i could not ask for more from this new guy. and now, we are planning to get married. although there are things that we dont agree about and although our relationship is not perfect, i have learned to appreciate the relationship as it is. it's a work in progress. i hope you will be able to pick up something out of this. good luck! :D
2007-10-28 03:01:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is where the, can I live with myself comes in. You just have to rationalize things for yourself. Everything that happens in your life brings you closer to really knowing who you are, and what you want.
2007-10-28 02:18:20 · answer #4 · answered by what u talkin' bout? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get drunk, stay drunk for a while, then get on with life.
Dosn't matter who initiated it, if it's over it's over.
Life will go on, you will find happiness again, with or without a partner.
2007-10-28 07:50:09 · answer #5 · answered by untrained_equine 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋